So just how bad is shunning and ostracism? Williams has found that people who are ostracized suffer deeply, including the obvious loss of self-esteem and depression, but also including physiological symptoms such as ulcers, suppression of the immune system, anxiety, psychosis (in prolonged isolation, such as prisoners kept in solitary confinement), and a loss of feeling valued or having any meaningful existence. But perhaps more troubling is the rage that is associated with being ostracized.
People who are ostracized may not initially realize what is happening, only having a vague sense that something is wrong, that maybe people are mad at them, and they are often unsure of their perceptions and wonder if they are imaging it. But once it is undeniable that they are being shunned, their pain first intensifies, then turns to anger and rage. People feel rage when they have lost all sense of control, and no one will intervene to help them, while going to great lengths to keep the person excluded and deprived of control.
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New Watchtower Propaganda and hate speech destroying families (Feb 2016 WT)
by Daniel1555 inthe following is a paragraph from the new february study watchtower article "learn from jehovah's loyal servants.".
7 a conflict of loyalties may arise when a close relative is disfellowshipped.
for example, a sister named anne [1] received a telephone call from her disfellowshipped mother.
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Took my 11 yr old trick or treating this year. saw first hand his cognitive dissonance. had to show him nothing is wrong with halloween
by goingthruthemotions ini know there was another thread about halloween, and i was going to post on it.
but, thought i wanted to make a couple of points on mine.
so.... here it is.. i took my 11 year old trick or treating this year.
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berrygerry
I must say, the most hilarious thing is watching how territorial my 4 year old gets over her candy.
I get, "AHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!! Don't take my candy. Ever again! Alright Mommy?"
So funny!The best are the boys at the end of 2012.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_YQpbzQ6gzs
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I bought property, not that far from Watchtower land in Warrwick NY.
by Dunedain ini wound up buying 26 acres of land in upstate ny, a few years ago.
i bought it strictly as an investment, due to rumors of there going to be huge development of the area.
it seems like casinos, walmart, and tons of building have started in the area, or are now breaking ground, since i purchased it.
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berrygerry
Beth Sarim North.
Or Apostafest North.
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One of the best of the pink songbook (# 61 - we're JW's was #62 - they were the centre of the pink songbook) that Splane reworked was "Move Ahead." Move Ahead stayed the same in the brown songbook.
The current version is an outright abortion.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Oq3lPUhn94A
Splane - you are NOT a composer - you absolutely suck.
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Daylight saving time blame it on Sanford Flemming
by truthseeker100 inhttps://ca.screen.yahoo.com/yahoo-news-katie-couric/now-daylight-saving-time-194613817.html
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Lots of Prophets on Here - aka Stop Giving Them Ideas
by berrygerry infrom 7 years ago.
http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/topic/167768/christian-science-monitor-gives-up-printing-paper-will-wt-follow.
slimboyfat7 years ago besides, if the wts went non-print, what the heck would all the dubs push from door to door?single leaf tracts, like is becoming the trend.. booby7 years agothey are already making it clear that their are costs incurred at their download site, so they will still convince the dubs to provide an income stream even without the printed version.
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From 7 years ago
slimboyfat
7 years ago
Besides, if the WTS went non-print, what the heck would all the dubs push from door to door?
Single leaf tracts, like is becoming the trend.booby
7 years ago
they are already making it clear that their are costs incurred at their download site, so they will still convince the dubs to provide an income stream even without the printed version. They can then burn and place a cd version with the public. The ability to generate cash flow with printed material becomes more and more of a challenge. They will not have to print out the literature because what ever technology (i-pods) or whatever is\are required will be purchased by the rank and file when instructed to do so. In the past for example many did not purchase dvd players, either because members did not feel they could afford, or want that in their homes, but as soon as the society started producing dvd's they all got the dvd players.passwordprotected
7 years ago
Each congregation will eventually be asked to consider switching to electronic download for the kool-aid WT. Then someone - likely an eager to please brother hoping for appointment at the next CO visit - will be assigned to print the magazine out for the congregation. This will, of course, go on to save the WTS millions. -
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The writing department
by tornapart ini don't go to many meetings now.
i still feel the need to go every now and again for my husband's sake.
i usually go on a sunday, maybe once a month or so and i look at the wt article under discussion to see if i can stomach it before i go, a lot of the time i feel i just can't do it.
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Introduction
by shattered_origins ini joined the forum yesterday and made 2 angry posts which received encouraging replies.
i spent a good chunk of time today browsing various posts, and i can't get enough!
i'm doing things backwards now and taking a moment to introduce myself.
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Since then, I have begun to fade out for personal reasons, but felt guilty for doing so. A few weeks ago, my sister (also a user of this forum) came to visit me and gave me a powerful "unwitnessing."
Nice for you to have an awake sibling.
You may find this interesting:
https://www.reddit.com/r/exjw/comments/2bh9eq/almost_exjw_in_a_very_diffucult_situation_need/cj5hvb8
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My experience with religion
by Cota Samuel inhello, i am sam(samuel).
i am 18 and i live in romania.
my english is not that good and i find it hard to express myself even in my language xd.. i'm not an open person and i would've probaly never talked so open of my life but this "event" had so much impact on my life and it damaged me so deeply that i do now write this.. i came to this site to help myself fight the problem that destroyed my life for the past 2 years.
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berrygerry
Welcome Sam.
You may not feel it at the moment, but you are lucky to have woken up at 18.
Your life lays in front of you.
As was mentioned - the end is coming soon - but only in WT's dictionary.
Even this past week's study:
If we watch our associations in these last days, we may personally live right through the end of this evil system and into Jehovah’s righteous new world now so near at hand!
Yawn.
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dating even though not scripturally free to do so
by seekingadvice inwondering what to think...i'm recently divorced from my jw spouse ( i was never a jw).
we have a 11 year old son who is being forced to attend meetings and have all the beliefs that ex has.
i'm constantly being told what i should do and i'm supposed to go along with ex on whatever he says because apparently the "head of the family" continues after divorce in his world.
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It depends.
You also need to supply "proof."
You are only one witness, two are required, or physical proof (photos - copies of messages).
See this thread:
https://www.reddit.com/r/exjw/comments/3qkwwf/i_got_disfellowshipped/