hello BU2B, sorry to hear about your turmoil...not sure how much you love your wife and such. but if it's worth saving your marriage and family. Be patient and keep taking it slow. keep showing her in the bible how what she has learned is not the truth. Focus on the new testament, bring Jesus into your lives. Remember Jesus said..i am the way the truth and the light. He did not mention anything about the borg.
Yesterday, i was telling my wife happy mothers day. at first she gave me this look. then we discussed it and i reasoned with her that there is no where in the bible the forbids it. i also tell my kids happy birthday.
Remember the Borg took there time to brainwash them...it will take you time to undo it. but take it slow...don't force it. miss meeting and field service, show her the world will not end. and by all means make it always sound like it was her idea.
you can take a horse to water, but cant make it drink. but, if it's there idea..they will. make her feel empowered.
GTTM