Thanks for your tale, jgnat.
Ignoranceisbliss- you're too kind. I never thought of myself as being a particularly skilled writer. Perhaps having everything go unsaid for so long allowed it to become more organized as it came out. It was certainly cleansing to finally say it "out loud." You're a good man, putting the needs of your wife ahead of your own. I can't imagine how I'd react if I had a kid on the way when I learned TTATT. I suspect I'd find it difficult not to rush things and ultimately cause more harm than good. Your composure speaks volumes to your character, and I wish you nothing but the best in your journey. Do keep us updated as things progress.