I agree with the OP. I wish that I didn't. But I do. For some people there life is better as a witness than it would be otherwise.
I.E. I know a young deaf man who became a dub. He now has tons of friends and is getting married to a girl from a really good witness family. They fully accept him as part of theIr family.
Its still a cult. But for some, life in might be better than life out.