Posts by LoveUniHateExams

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I Waited Until My Wedding Night To Lose My Virginity And I Wish I Hadn't...

by Divergent in

i found this article interesting & just wanted to share.

after going through my teenage years trying to be the perfect jw, i realized that trying to live up to the standards imposed on me have been for worse & not for better.

i was feeling miserable, repressed, unfulfilled, with a great lack of self confidence & self esteem.

LoveUniHateExams

Sexual freedom is something personal that NO organization, religious or otherwise should control in females, males, anybody - quite right. What consenting adults choose to do in private is their business and nobody else's.

Truly a sociopathic organization - again, spot on. I get the feeling WTS would rather everyone remained celibate and certainly didn't enjoy sex. Although I think that marriage is a good thing for consenting adults, the WT's attitude to sex is comparable to Victorian London's. Growing up in the WTS is an absolute nightmare for teenage boys (and teenage girls, I suppose).

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Still pointing your Finger when having a Rafter in your eye?

by DocHouse in

yes- everyone has faults and makes mistakes; an organization even more so.. yet, you ignore all the fingers pointing at you.. many here have no faith.

many here go to churches who lie about everything biblical; look at x-mas!.

but at least we know god and christ and try to live up to their name!.

LoveUniHateExams

DocHouse - please be careful when using the word 'fact'. For something to be established as fact, empirical evidence must be used.

Also, why are you here on an apostate forum?

You defend 'da troof' yet criticise the GB here.

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Please post new forum feedback or questions here

by Simon in

well, the switchover happened - there were a couple of things i had to fix which meant the posting was disabled for longer than i planned but it's now enabled and some people have already posted.. if you have any questions about the new format or suggestions on how to improve it, please post them here.. if you are having trouble signing in or posting then you'll need to email me instead.. many thanks to everyone for their patience during the changeover !.

LoveUniHateExams

Good job on the new website, Simon. It's better for touchscreen than the old JWN but I'm still getting used to it.

Just one thing, the post number out of total posts besides the avatar is missing - could this be introduced here?

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Is Watchtower's position on smoking consistent with its position on masturbation?

by Island Man in

watchtower considers masturbation to be a form of uncleanness but not a disfellowshipping offence because the bible says nothing about masturbation.

a jw who masturbates is likely to face no more than losing privileges in the congregation.. like masturbation, smoking is considered by jws to be a form of uncleannes and like masturbation, the bible says nothing about it.

but a jw who smokes faces disfellowshipping.. yes, smoking is known to be deleterious to a person's health whereas the jury is still out on the adverse health effects of masturbation.

LoveUniHateExams

In answer to the OP, the WT's position is not consistent. I had one elder, in a round about way, tell me my mum would die at Armageddon because she didn't stop smoking.

OTOH all, or nearly all, teenage boys masturbate and are made to feel guilty for it by WTS. This guilt can be used to push people into doing more for the org - getting baptised, pioneering, etc.

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Why Do Atheists Struggle So Much Against God Who Supposedly Doesn't Exist?

by Perry in

an athist made this casual statememt on another thread:.

this would suggest to me that there are at least some atheists that do have consistant beliefs.. .

as an atheist, how could he possibly trust the reason that suggests this to himself?

LoveUniHateExams

Perry - why do you start a thread that deliberately yanks the chain of atheists, yet you also state in the OP Atheists Don't Exist.

You can't have it both ways.

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What's with this "no windows in kingdom halls" thing?

by Trapped in JW land in

jw
friends

i hear many people on this forum say that kh's don't have windows.

but i have never been to one that didn't have windows.

is this only in a certain area or something?.

LoveUniHateExams

Is this only in a certain area? - I don't know. Where I used to live, the local congregation was given a new KH some years ago. This doesn't have any windows. Why this is the case, I also don't know for sure. The old KH did have a window smashed so this may be the reason why.

Of course, you also get talk from uber-zealous elders or from mentally-unstable pioneers that the reason KHs have no windows is for protection during the great trib when the world turns against God's people.

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There won't be snow in Africa (xmas songs you hate)

by rebel8 in

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friends

ok so be a scrooge or grinch for 5 minutes.

you know you want to.. i loooove xmas songs but there are a few that make me cringe.. the old feed the world.

"there won't be snow in africa.

LoveUniHateExams

Simply Having A Wonderful Christmas Time by Paul McCartney.

The British public are tortured by endless replays of this song every year.

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Looking for others that maybe gay or questioning

by dewey79 in

jw
friends

so i am the weird case that i still believe in the jehovah's organization.

there are a couple of things that stop me from going.

is there anyone else out there that still believes?

LoveUniHateExams

It took me a long time to realize there was nothing wrong with me - me too, Coded Logic.

WTS may say that it's ok to be gay, as long as you don't 'commit immorality'. Although I happen to be heterosexual, I imagine it can't be as simple as that. If you continued in 'the truth' you wouldn't be allowed normal feelings of being in love. If you stayed 'chaste' but kissed another man this would also be wrong. You would be made to feel bad simply for having normal feelings and doing normal things that everyone does - gay and hetero alike.

If it's your choice to stay in because you genuinely believe, then ok. But re. homosexuality you can't listen to JWs only. Surely you can see that it would be unfair and wrong because of the ridiculous anti-homosexual bias of the witnesses.

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John Lennon, 34 years, long time gone

by designs in

imagine.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xlgyahhkpfs.

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LoveUniHateExams

How about this - Yer Blues live, with Dirty Mac. Dec 1968.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Iuy-10Ejck4.

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How can I ever leave this cult?

by Julia Orwell in

jw
friends

i've been out nearly two years but it's not out of me.

i am on school holidays now til february so i thought without work to worry about i can come off my medication.

i phased it slowly, starting in early november to avoid the physical side effects of coming down.

LoveUniHateExams

I'm damaged. I'm a survivor - I'm damaged, too. But I'm doing my best to survive as well.

I'm guilty and ashamed - try not to let the cult make you feel this way but don't beat yourself up over this. As someone else at JWN said - you're good to go.

All the Christmas decorations make me uncomfortable - If you're big on christmas - ok. If you couldn't care less about christmas - that's ok, too.

I know it's easy for me to type this but try and own the past - keep any good memories you have and try to discard the bad ones.

Take care

LUHE