Posts by reboot

having to be segregated in a special baby room at the back of the hall with huge windows at the front to breastfeed your baby...for a better view for those on the platform perhaps...

soledad, yeah we had the tampon 'rule' too...no tampon pic Si?

...no music in your car on the way to meetings was a good one...and making sure your car was always hoovered and washed...:s..life's too short, surely?

oh, and on no account try to occupy and play with bored babies in the row in front of you..it'll stop them 'learning' to sit still..and get you a stern look from the mother....

..but the best one was when I was told not to grow poppies anymore as it was illegal(??!!) and people would think i was a drug addict..yep-it was mentioned from the platform too ...lmao

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King Arthur.

by Englishman in

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yes, most enjoyable.. slow to start but gradually speeding up to a first rate climax.

the perceived story of arthur's exploits that lead to him becoming king of britain.. anyone else seen it?.

englishman.

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im going to see it tomorrow Mike; I wanted to see it but was worried it'd be awful- was only going for the horse fest....i'm really looking forward to it now.....

'Bend it' was so good.but as my son's obsessed with Pirates of the Caribean i'm a bit sick of her...he thinks she looks permenantly constipated incedently lol.....

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Freedom to Choose God

by UnDisfellowshipped in

come to the wedding.

' for i say to you that god is able to raise up children to abraham from these stones.

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Man's Responsibility vs God's Sovereignty

the predestination that Calvinism advocates,thus creating this paradox is my personnal proof that the answers we look for cant be found within the information we're given, perhaps that's the point of all the confusion?

If I have a view then I tend to lean towards the theory that we are supposed to create our own views and that we are being steered in the direction of hopefully realising that we have to reject following someone and perhaps leave god to find peace...using the information he's given us to move away from him and to take responsibility for our lives using the information given but by reworking it for ourselves, as a parent would do for a child.

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Sad news...

by bull01lay in

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i had a fantastic holiday in florida with some good friends back in 2000 - 3 couples and a single lass.

the link below to the news story was the seventh member of our party.. http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/england/nottinghamshire/3539662.stm.

feels really weird - was looking through some video footage of the holiday to try and get some extra pictures of her, for her best friend.. what could possibly have been going through his mind when he did this ??

reboot

(((((Bull)))) so sorry to hear you knew them...Ive just been reading about this in the paper..poor girl, it's a terrible tradgedy....the piece inferred how close he and his daughter were...sometimes life events can make people act with blind rage and temporary insanity.Such a sad situation.

As for the wedding video, I cant begin to imagine just how dreadful that must've been for the groom.

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Do All JW Children Suffer From Psychological Damage? The First Bit..

by Englishman in

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..and if so, what form does such psychological damage take?.

my own experience is that damage does occur.. i was 8 years old when my parents became converted, so i wasn't exactly a totally white canvass on which my personality could be painted.

but i was a light shade of grey, so the impact of wt teaching was still quite considerable.. i think the most damage that i suffered was in the area of guilt and unworthiness.

reboot

I'd never have thought that the young Mike and you were the same person...you should be pretty proud of yourself after starting life with such a stressful set of compounding guilt complexes..

I was brought up Cathloic, then Methodist, then LONG break then JW.Perhaps the origional Catholicism effected the decision to have a bible study later in life..There is a whole 'group' mentality with the Catholics and also rigid dictrinal issues and allegiance to the body as a whole and the infalibility of the Pope could be likened to that of the Governing Body..I certainly think guilt reinforced even more strongly by the WTBS had an effect on me..

...and if so, what psychological damage does that take?

I feel that another aspect of psychological damage from the WTBS is the failure of some teenagers to grow into well rounded individuals.

There was a psycholocist on radio4 last year who defined a group of children as being likely to suffer mental problems later in life.

She argued that teenagers have to be allowed to make their own decisions and more importantly mistakes, to develop correctly .

She explained that this was because the process of decision making is a learned skill that needs to be encouraged and developed and that children denied this due to a rigid set of rules-and she specified strict religious upbringings..are less able to cope when older that children from a supportive background who knew their parents views, but had been allowed the freedom to choose their own standards, suffered less from psychological damage and were well balanced adults...

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How Do You Regard Yourself?

by minimus in

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are you happy about who you are?

do you look down upon yourself?

are ya feelin' pretty good about yourself these days??

reboot

This really made me think.

I am happy with myself and my own company and happy with my social network... i'm quietly confident about my abilities to cope with anything and never contemplate failure as an option...

....having said that; perhaps negative interactions with others affect me too deeply and I would like to be able not to let my selfesteem be lowered by others' behaviour towards me.

I do know that i'm an eternal optimist, though I would like to have a stable,strong, loving, relationship as a basis to strike off from but, hey... if I dont, i'll live.

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Hi everyone!! "Neo"bie on the forum

by Neo in

hi all posters!!

this is my first post on the forum so i just would like to drop a hi and introduce myself!

i'm an xjw doing the fade (like so many are doing nowadays).

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Hi((((( Neo)))))).and welcome..hope to get to know you and hear your story soon

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Have you been divorced?

by Joker10 in

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anybody who reads this post please respond.

have you been divorced?

and if so, was it after being an active publisher?

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ballistic.youre back... and still up...?!

i will have a huge party when mine comes through

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Chilling experience

by TallTexan in

o.k....most people that know me know me to be a rational and logical person not prone to hype or the sensational.

nor am i infatuated with the supernatural as many jw's/ex-jw's are/were.

with that said, let me relate what happened to me at work last night.. on saturday night, we had four bad burns come in.

reboot

The is no scientific evidence of a detached consciousness

That was what was so interesting about the programme sleepy. they seemed to think that they had found evidence for a detached conciousness-although it was a physical electrical impulse outside of our usual understanding of where conciousness should be centred, not proof that the 'spirit' was leaving the body but that conciousness could exist outside of it when close to death for a limited time.

Hence the near death experiences some people have when they have 'died' on an operating table for example; and can see what's happening to themselves and describe events later...i'll have to try and remember what the programme was and if i can find a link to it-it was last year.

But there was a provable natural occurance in the death throws of the firing neurons; I think, that explained it convincingly..