I understand how you feel Codeblue. I have been going through the same thing. At first I thought I just wouldn't tell family and friends and when they conversed with me about talks or articles in the magazines. etc, I either nodded in all the right places, or changed the subject if I could. My mom started mailing me the magazines because I think she figured out I was missing meetings. It was starting to weigh on me though and so just this week I wrote an email with an explanation what I was doing and why. I tried to be as tactful and loving as I could. I know it still hurt any way. For me I had to come out in the open and tell them. However, I have a bf too now and I knew the day would come that he might answer the phone or something, so I better let them know ahead of time rather than get busted. You have a different situation. You are married and so you could fade w/o too much drama. If I could have done that, that is what I would have done. It's just easier. Then later they feel bad that you are inactive but they get used to it some. I've seen that with other family members that stopped going 10 15 or 20 yrs ago.
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by codeblue inhow to handle this situation: as of june i have stopped going to the meetings.
i do have one sister that tells me i should keep on my schedule of meetings....she currently thinks i am not going to the meetings because i am new here and my husband works out of town a lot and i already remarked that i didn't want to go without him.
i have also told her i have been going thru a depression, with this move, major move #13 and being new here.. well, today, she dropped of 2 watchtowers for this sunday.
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Sox, Cubs......I Believe
by rocketman ini believe in curses.
the billygoat.
the bambino.. the sox just lost to the yankees 6-5 after leading by three in the 8th.. we all know what happened to the cubs.. and i believe in the rally monkey too, from last year's angels (though i guess he's looking for work these days, poor little fella).. this is all in kidding, but it does make me wonder.....are some teams "cursed"?
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Sassy
There is nothing like a little team rivalry at work. I love it!!
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anyone into rap music?
by babyboo ini was just wondering if anyone has heard dmx's new song "we right here", and also ja rules new hit "livin it up"....their my fav artists...ja and i are secretly "involved" right now....(but don't tell nobody).
now, ja's my boy, but that song w/j.lo has got to go!.
and i want to know if anyone thinks fabolous is gonna stay around....i kept tellin everyone he's gonna be hot-the next one to blow it up....damn it feels good to be right.. get @ me.. ~boo.
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Sassy
Coming from a conservative state and moving to a progressive area I found Hip Hop only a few years ago. I love it. As well as R&B. It's all new to me and I have been purchasing cds to fill up my collection since my enlightenment.
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Wedding-related dilemma: help appreciated
by comment ini received a phone call from an old non-witness friend tonight.
he's just proposed to his girlfriend and they're getting married next summer.
she is catholic; he is agnostic.
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Sassy
My cd is in storage with my other literature. I turned down a friends wedding once for the same reason. Not sure what it gained me in the long run but you need to do what is best for you.
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Sox, Cubs......I Believe
by rocketman ini believe in curses.
the billygoat.
the bambino.. the sox just lost to the yankees 6-5 after leading by three in the 8th.. we all know what happened to the cubs.. and i believe in the rally monkey too, from last year's angels (though i guess he's looking for work these days, poor little fella).. this is all in kidding, but it does make me wonder.....are some teams "cursed"?
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Sassy
Sorry, I've been watching the sports page for MLB on yahoo and rooting for the Yankees. My Twins haven't made it far in a long time and my bf's team is the Yankees. Gotta suport my man.
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Sassy
Vancouver is a beautiful place to live. I'm jealous (sorry I know I am off topic - let me get it on topic -) I will have to come to Vancouver to get my nails done. Massage too? man I could use a good massage.
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Spiritual Terrorism
by Xandria ini look at what many have gone through here as spiritual terrorism.
inability to remember
talk to people - talk is the most healing thing you can do.
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Sassy
This is what is known as spiritual abuse. Take the time to rethink your path. You will be better for it.
Thank you. What I don't get is that we were 'told' to ask people at the doors if they were just 'given' their religion from their parents and then if they said yes, to use it to have them question if it was really the true religion for them. But if we are born into this, are we allowed to make sure it is correct? can we investigate? No.
I have to figure things out for myself, not be forced into a belief or be tormented if I don't just follow blindly.
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Sassy
they look good. I sure need mine done!
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Women look nicer in other towns
by JH in.
when you travel to other cities, do you find that women or men look nicer or more sexy than in your home town?
maybe it's because we see new butts faces, that give this illusion.. so, is the grass greener elsewhere?
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Sassy
Generally men look better in other towns too.
Unless, that is, you get them to move closer.
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"The Big D, and I Don't Mean Dallas"
by Robdar intomorrow the divorce will be granted.
even though the past few months have been hairy, scary and horrible, i am glad for them because they led to my freedom.
i woke up a couple of years ago from the nightmare that was my marriage.
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Sassy
I hope this freedom gets you to a better place.
Did you have a divorce party? When I got divorced, friends from work gave me one. Wow the drinks they bought me. I think aftershock was the one that kicked the most.