Just to go along futher with td, a good female should be hard to identify. Why? Because her being good really isnt a function of vaginas or breasts. Its good acting, good character development etc etc...
an example that was mentioned earlier: furiousa. That she is a chick is irrelevant to the movie. Shes a good character, male or female, shes well acted, well developed and in an overall strong movie. If we want to add in a layer that she is a woman rescuing young women from sexual slavery then thats a bonus.
Another example cited: kill bill. The whole movie was centered on female assassins who turned on one of their own and her revenge.... it could have worked with male leads... but we never stopped to think about it. Uma and cast did such a great job who cares????? Ditto for alien. The riply character didnt have to be male or female. We didnt care! It worked because weaver was great.
On the character of rey, the distain has nothing to do with her being a chick anymore than hating kylo is because hes a guy. They suck all around, as has been gone into in far too much detail already.