If you want to go out with a bang, that is is course your right and your choice... But "going out with a bang" and "fading" are two mutually exclusive things.
Which do you want?
going out with a bang is self explanitory. You will end up DF'd but its on your terms. If you dont have family who will shun you then who cares :)
however if you need to or want to fade then the number one key is: patience. Absolute zen inner peace patience. Dont give into feelings of anxiety or a desire to run around screaming. You have the power. You are now in control because you know the real deal. Bide your time and be smart.