The only way that I felt somewhat safe was in the thought that at least I had the answers to life's tough questions....even if I didn't like the answers!
lovinlife
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Did You Feel "Safe" Being A Jehovah's Witness???
by minimus ini think many people remain as jws because they feel an isolation that spells security for them.
they enjoy being in their protected bubble.
the realization that they never have to make any real decisions is appealing.
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Harsh reality of disfellowshipping
by lovinlife inhi everybody, it has been forever since i have been here!
i have missed you.
i had some harsh reality of disfellowshipping thrown in my face yesterday that made me realize how much i have missed being here with all you lovely people.
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lovinlife
Hi everybody, it has been forever since I have been here! I have missed you. I had some harsh reality of disfellowshipping thrown in my face yesterday that made me realize how much I have missed being here with all you lovely people. My parents are rather militant about shunning me. I am not allowed in their house, they will not be in the same location with me for any reason (i.e. "worldly" family reunion, etc.), and they will not initiate any conversation with me whatsoever. Okay, now that you have the background, this is what happened: I had occasion to have to call my parents a few days ago (long story, won't bore you with details), and found that my mother was not home, she was in Florida due to my sister in law's extreme illness. She went down to help my brother with the kids etc. My father very haltingly told me this, but it was obvious that he was completely uncomfortable talking to me. I discussed my business with him briefly, and that being concluded, ended the call. Well, in the course of following up on the business started, I called the house again and only my Grandmother was home. She told me that my father had flown to Florida and that the situation was very serious and that my sister in law was dying! I asked her for more details and found that sis in law has been suffering for a long time with an unknown illness, docs can't figure out what is wrong, but she has been in constant pain for a long time and has been on morphine etc. She is now down to 76lbs and is filling up with fluid and the docs can't stop it and are basically just making her more comfortable until....whatever.
Okay, so I am now confronted with the really harsh reality that even if a family situation is dire and someone is about to die, I will not be notified. I only found out because I had the freak occurrance to have to call. I was very close to my sis in law and I wonder if they would have even bothered to have called me if she died (or does die, for that matter)! I just hurt so bad for my brother, who will be left alone with 2 children under 5 yrs old if she dies. I am just so amazed at my family's inhumane behavior that I just keep staying on the verge of tears. And I hurt for her since she is one of the nicest people I have ever known, such a kind hearted person even while being fooled by the JWs. With all this, I am reminded of how judged I am and how I am not worthy of being included in any family situation -- in their opinion! So I felt compelled to come back and visit you all where I know that I am never going to be judged and where I know people understand. Thank you all for reading my painful story. Just knowing that you all know how all this feels is a comfort in itself. Thanks again.
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Civilian Encountered the Damage of JW Occult
by Forever_classy incivilian encountered the damage of jw occult
i have to admit that i came out of a spiritually abusive 20 year long marriage and never once did it compare to the damage that jw religion did to my past boyfriend.
the lies and fear that was feed into this man as a child messed him up royal!.
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lovinlife
Welcome.....may you find comfort here among us. We all live with some pain from them in one way or another. Hope the site helps!
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lovinlife
Two things....
The first was jumping off a 50 ft cliff into a very small, but deep mountain stream strewn with rocks at the bottom the day before I got married. (The way my marriage turned out, I am sorry I didn't just float on down the stream!)
The second thing was after I got divorced from the abusive jerk, I had a fling with a guy that turned out to be married to the mob boss's daughter at their vacation house....found evidence of her and guns and overheard some phone stuff....that was enough for me!!! I was outta there!
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Hello everyone...I missed you all
by lovinlife ini have been away from the board...tons of personal crisis!
but i am back and i will never get caught up now on all the posts!
but i did want to wish you all a happy new year since i wasn't here to do it before!
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lovinlife
I have been away from the board...tons of personal crisis! But I am back and I will never get caught up now on all the posts! But I did want to wish you all a Happy New Year since I wasn't here to do it before! Sorry to be late! I hope all you had a great Christmas etc., too.
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Can We Give Words of Support To Simon For This Forum???
by minimus inwe go through cycles every so often here.
we get new posters every week and at times we lose some posters.
when most "newbies" find this site, they are thrilled to be able to express themselves in a way that they could never in a kingdom hall.
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lovinlife
Thank you Simon....you have helped so many...including me!!!!
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SCARY: My First Letter From Patterson!
by marriedtodamob inhope my attachment works- i will keep trying or perhaps someone can help me get this official letter posted if i fail...i just got this in the mail .
yesterday and finally opened it today.
i did not write to them!
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lovinlife
I was the subject of an article in the mags about domestic abuse....quite an interesting process. The brother who was my table head when I was at bethel wrote it. Funny....he didn't use my real name when quoting me! Must have been because that might have offended the witness ex husband!!!
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My dad died too
by Brummie innovember 9th, i got the call at approx 5.15am that morning and have just arrived home from his house in the midlands for the first time since then.
age 65, very happy man regardless of his illness, had all his wits about him but didnt have any lungs left to help him make it through, suffered a lot.
never became a witness inspite of mom and 3 of his children being jws for years.
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lovinlife
{{{{Brummie}}}} I am sooo sorry for your loss.
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VOTE FOR A CAMPGROUND PLEASE
by pettygrudger insince thunder bay & nova scotia are 36 hours drive time apart, i realize that we aren't all gonna get something within a stone's throw....so i've picked listed 3 different campgrounds (area's) - please vote & whichever gets the most votes will be the one i go with - as they are all within 16 hours of me (and yes it's all about me!.
#1: http://www.lafontaine-ent.on.ca/ - this is in the georgian bay, ontario area (i saw your batchawana bay idea calamity - but the area is the same - we can pick the campground next if this is selected).
#2: http://ontarioparks.com/english/slee.html (thunder bay, ontario area) .
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lovinlife
#3 for me!
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Only Time Will Tell
by SYN inonly time will tell
sometimes i think about what my life would?ve been like if i hadn?t run to catch that bus five months ago.
it?s doors were closing, but i ran to reach it before it pulled away.
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lovinlife
Wow, great story SYN. You had me there for a while.....!