Posts by seeitallclearlynow

Well, shoot, many elders tried to be encouraging to me, but I was so shy and so nervous in their presence that I literally hated talking to them. One tried so hard in my last congregation, but he was just annoying. He annoys my son too, who is NOT in need of encouragement. LOL! But this poor man keeps trying to be his "buddy". So sad really. My son picks his own friends, like anyone; and no elder is going to implant himself as his friend.

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Introducing my Mother.....

by PaulJ in

my mum has asked me to create a thread for her (basically her computer is crap, and she hasnt quite worked the site out yet) to introduce herself.

please read her biography-.

http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/member/18597.ashx.

seeitallclearlynow

Welcome, Tez! It's great to have you here, both as yourself and also as Paul's loved mum.

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The Atheist's Book of Bible Stories - Ch. 1 - In the Beginning

by RunningMan in

here is the long awaited first chapter.

as always, a complete formatted copy can be obtained if you drop me your email address.

in the beginning.

seeitallclearlynow

I love it, RunningMan! Keep 'em coming!

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Recently Disfellowshipped

by dfd in

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i having been "lurking" around here for about a month--right when i was disfellowshipped actually.

in a year long relationship--broke up-five months later had a bout of conscience and told on myself.

myself and my ex are disfellowshipped and now most of my former group of "friends" are getting in trouble.

seeitallclearlynow

Welcome, dfd!! Just keep reading here and at Freeminds and you'll get plenty of comfort and the information you need to break free from the pain and control.

It's true!

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Well....it's that time of year again.

by Nocturne in

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that's right, we're in district convention season, and of course that means it's been a year now since i left the dubs .

at the second funeral, it was for a relative of mine who also went to my old congregation but it was held at a funeral home.

alot of dubs from my old hall showed up, and of course the most embarassing moment was when this older sister in my congregation came up to me and started saying out loud: "oh my son, why did you leave, why did you leave?

seeitallclearlynow

It's so nice to hear how far along you've come since you first came to this site, Nocturne! All that worrying we do, so much stressing out about leaving. It can't be helped; how else could we feel?

Not to mention all those issues that come up along the way, right? Each one with their own special set of circumstances but the common thread for all of us. You seem to be managing everything very well. I'm so happy for you!

Please keep posting! We don't hear anywhere near enough from you.

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The least likely of people are the ones who shun you...

by dh in

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as anyone who might remember will remember, i posted some time ago that my mother finally stopped going to jw meetings a couple of months back, after 30 years of being an anchor of her congregation... now, ever since leaving there have been no elder visits (my dad is still an elder), and the c/o came around and my mom talked to him one on one, and that all seemed sorted.

'sisters' from the congregation still come around and see my mom (but only 'ones' that we here 'friends'), and there were about 150 'we miss you' 'please come back' cards... but as much as most of the people in my mom's congregation are 'cut up' and 'sad at the loss of sister _ _ _ _ ', they still call around for a coffee, or meet my mom for a coffee and are ok about it... this in itself might seem strange, but not so, considering the congregation i grew up in, everyone would still talk to me since i am not df'd and they always ask how my brother and i are doing.... anyway, to cut a long story short, i asked my mom how her oldest friend was, a woman who was her friend when she first became a jw in the mid 70's... now this is a person who always lived over 100 miles away from us, but would come and stay at our house every now and then, for assemblies etc, a person my mom had a very special friendship with... a very open minded and spiritual woman by all appearances, somewhat eccentric and a big fan of dr. seusse (which is where i get my love of dr. seusse from)... well, it turns out this one person who you would never in a million years expect to pass a sweeping judgement, when my mom told her she would no longer be going to meetings, she said 'then i don't want to speak to you again' the end!

can you believe that garbage?

seeitallclearlynow

Well dh, I think that is just terrible and so high minded of that sister. Cult thinking for sure. And they were so very warm to you. Like you said, hard to imagine who will ultimately do this kind of thing. (Isn't it this same sister, or am I mixed up?)

I do recall a sister who sickened me over the same kind of thing. A girl who was studied with and taken under the collective wing of a certain family was summarily dropped, and worse, was told point blank by this high and mighty "sister": "Since you say you won't be going to any more meetings and you don't wish to be one of Jehovah's Witnesses, I don't care what happens to you. You can live or die, I don't care."

This was just a young teenaged girl she was talking to. What a despicable attitude.

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If you won the lottery would you still work anyways???

by JV in

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i'm really, really curious about everybody's opinions on this.

say you won the lottery would you continue to work???

or would you retire to pursure a shuffleboard career among other things??

seeitallclearlynow

I would keep busy, that's for sure!! Depending on how much I won, and kept after taxes, of course! But I assume you mean a really big win with the option of never having to work again. Well I love to work, but I would like it to be in a field I would love! Not some meaningless type of work like I do now.

I would seek out something I love to do and fit it in with all the travel I would be doing. I would really enjoy forestry, horticulture, or something to do with animals.

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I love this site

by Podiatrist in

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just want to say to everyone how much i love this site, in 4 days i've learned more than in last 3 years.

you are the greatest bunch of people one earth.

seeitallclearlynow

I'm hoping to get an improved chat-room availabled again soon so which I hope people will find useful for peer-support

Great! Great! Great, I say! (Thanks, Simon. )