Posts by medstudent

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I guess it was not meant to be

by Dayshdees in

http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/20/63523/1.ashx.

i guess i should have listened to all your posts a while back when i asked if a relationship could work between a jw and a non jw, many of you shouted run like helll !!

, run dont walk !!!.

medstudent

I don't really have much advice but do want to wish you all the best! I'm a fim believer in love and am sure that if you two marry and everything works out your family will see your happiness and will turn around when they see that you are happy. However I'm kind of afraid that she might one day realise that she wants to change her beliefs into a more JW way, that she will try to turn you around and that if you get children she will probably want to raise them in a JW style (please don't let her....)

So there may be a lot of bumps on your road to happiness but if you are 100,000 % sure that you love her then I believe that it will all work out for you two.

Good luck!

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a personal question about gasp sex!

by missylissy in

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lol.

ok here goes.... how old were you your first time?

medstudent

I was 17 when i first had sex which was with a worldly boyfriend whom i had dated for about 2 months then, but i wasn't baptised by then. The shit hit the fan cause i got pregnant..... I didn't tell my JW parents. Luckily i didn't have lots of signs, and was still wondering about whether or not to go to a clinic to get an abortion when I miscarried after almost 3 months. My parents never knew, and never will if it is up to me.

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Son in Hospital.

by Gordy in

on new years eve morning, my son (28) ex-jw, da'd 3 years ago, went to see the doctor, he hadn't been feeling well for a while, tired and run down.. they took some blood for a test, at 5:15pm the doctor rang him up to say their was an ambulance on the way his blood count was only 5.7, should be 13. he was very aneamic, which would explain the tiredness.

next day they gave him 2 units of blood and another 2 units the next day.

he had no hesitation in accepting the blood.

medstudent

Hey Gordy,

I'm glad to hear your son didn't get ill when he was still a JW, because it would have been a lot harder to treat him without blood!

My grandfather passed away awhile ago and he was an elder and a very lovely man to everyone. He and my grandmother used to pick up whoever wanted for the congregation and always visited and helped the ill JWs (and non-JWs they knew). He literally did everything for everyone until he got cancer as well. He sometimes had arguments with other elders because he thought differently than he did and sometimes they made him feel horrible while he was the most wise and lovely man i ever met in my life. When he was in the hospital many people came to visit and also to the funeral when he died. An elder who my grandfather considered to be his best friend gave the lecture at the funeral. When he came over to the house to talk the speech through he wanted me to leave the room. My grandmother refused and told him I was her dearest grand child, JW or not. After the funeral he left immediately and my grandmother never saw him again. A month after he died a sister called her to ask why she hadn't be to the kingdom hall yet, she just had to get over his death (even though they were together for more than 60 years!) and go to the kingdom hall because that would be the best for her. Even though brothers and sisters lived approximately 3 minutes away from her house, my parents used to drive up there (an hours drive) every weekend to do her groceries, otherwise she would have died of hunger. In about 2 months after my grandfather died she hadn't had a visit of more than 3 sisters. An elder called her 6 months later and asked for my grandfather, didn't even knew he died! Luckily my dear grandmother moved near to my parents so they can take care of here. She now is even more connected to the cong of my parents than the one in which she and my grandfather put so much effort for 48 years!

Sad isn't it. May my grandfather rest in peace

medstudent

23

Did you ever lead a double life?

by imzadi in

those of you who are now x-jws, did you ever lead a double life while you were "in"?

did you have "worldly" friends, watch r rated movies, drive fast cars and do other things you weren't supposed to do, yet believed you were a "good" jw because you belived in the truth, "put in time", and attended meetings?

if you did, how long did it take you to see the truth about the truth and leave?

medstudent

Yeah the famou sdouble life, in a way JWs really teach you to lie....

Until i was 16 everyone thought of me as the holy JW girl with the golden heart, not only did they describe me like that but i was! When my parents would not go to the kingdom hall because they didnt feel like it i would go on my bike, etc. I really didn't know half what was going on around me. Funny though: i didn't have that many young JW friends because they thought i was to much of a saint.

then i went out a night in the big town and smoked, smoked pot, kissed and had oral sex on the same night....well that kinda opened my eyes a little ;)

Within a year i went from the school nerd/dork to the most popular girl on school dating the popular guy, doing popular things and i was telling an awful lot of lies (my bf at that time didn't even know that i was a JW). O men i had such a blast that year! I started to skip classes with my bf but luckily still finished high school with good enough marks to enter med school.

It all changed when i started university and moved to another town. I could lead my life without hurting my parents with it. I slowly got them to accept me and adapt to it. And now: no more lies! no more double lives! Not that i'm telling them every thing that i'm doing wrong according to them but that is more to respect them, not because i feel guilty or should cover it up.

Damn.....i didn't plan on telling my story this way ;)

medstudent

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Tips For Lurkers To Get Out

by minimus in

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do you have any suggestions to help jehovah's witnesses who visit this site get out of the religion?

medstudent

I would say: go get drunk put on your latex suit and then go to the kingdom hall to say that you quit their religion

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Black Dog Of Depression.

by Englishman in

i used to suffer with depression.

it happened to me twice, the second time was far worse than the first.

each episode lasted several years.

medstudent

Hey Englishman,

I haven't spoken to you on the board yet, but thanks for telling the story and i'm glad you're feeling so much better now.

I studied depression last year in my course and was actually quite shocked by the way we as med students study it. All is related to the brain and the receptors and everything that goes wrong....except for the social factors! We studied medications as well and i think it was very wise of you to stop, now you've actively learned to deal with it yourself instead of with medications that you would otherwise probably still on if they helped for fear to get it again. Depression so widely known and diagnosed is often so badly treated. I'm glad it worked out fine for you, i have seen so many patients for whom it didn't. Good for you!

medstudent

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"Weak People Become Jehovah's Witnesses"

by minimus in

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somebody recently expressed that point of view to me.

do you agree with that??

?

medstudent

Hi astro-girl,

Welcome! I'm new around here too and have found the site very useful as well.

For the question: i wouldn't call it weak, but people that tend to ask questions about the world join the JWs because they provide some answers, false ones in my opinion but they do play at those people in the fieldwork. They seek the desilusioned ones, people that just lost a beloved one etc. Somehow these people do lose their will to question everything when they join the JWs. So i wouldn't call it weak,but just people that need someone else to provide them with answers.

medstudent

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What Did you Plan On Doing In The New System?

by minimus in

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every child and bible student was told about how wonderful the "new system" was going to be.

"and what animal do you want to have in the new system?

"......that was a very typical question.

medstudent

well first of all: i always wanted to be a doctor so paradise kind of blows if you are without the job you've always wanted to do.....

second of all: i'm not so fond of nature...i mean i like it and all, am a vegetarian and always buy biological stuff, but if i have to live continuously in some kind of farm i would kill myself....

third of all: God kills a lot of people right in armageddon....so aren't we suppose to clear all the rotting bodies first.....and clear all the mess of the destroyed buildings.....that would take us about 100 years to do anyway....

medstudent

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Hmmm what did i do...?

by medstudent in

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my first question on the board... .

well i was browsing through the website of my former high school and i ran into an emailaddress of a former friend.

so i decided to email her.

medstudent

Thanks for the advice :)

She indeed didn't ask me, but there is one more complicating factor i didnt tell you. Although she has moved to another country her family (JW) still lives here, and they are in the same cong as my aunt and uncle who are very JW and shun me a little. She also asked me whether i'm still in contact with some of the friends we shared in the cong. What do i say? Just 'no we lost touch?' or 'no because i got dfd'?

Maybe it's all not so important, but i just don't her to find out and then thinking that im some kind of hypocrit not telling her, but i also don't want to lose contact by telling. 'sigh'

Thanks for the advice again, mouthy i'm inclined to follow your advice but still have to sleep a night on it i suppose.

She herself entered law school though a few years ago, but she told me that she is married, so i suppose she is still a JW because she is only 22 and married....

medstudent

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Hmmm what did i do...?

by medstudent in

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friends

my first question on the board... .

well i was browsing through the website of my former high school and i ran into an emailaddress of a former friend.

so i decided to email her.

medstudent

Hi all,

My first question on the board...

Ok so what did i do? Well I was browsing through the website of my former high school and i ran into an emailaddress of a former friend. So I decided to email her. Somehow I didn't even think about the fact that she is a JW and i'm not because religion somehow was not something we ever discussed. After high school she moved to another country and we lost touch. Only when I got a very enthusiastic reply of her today did i think of that fact. So what to do now? I mean she obviously is still a JW i got disfellowshipped.

So what should i do? Should i just tell her 'yep i'm doing great' or should I tell her i am disfellowshipped? Somehow i feel that i owe it to her but i'm not sure what to do cause it is so nice to hear from her again.

Hope to hear your advice,

medstudent