Is this a thing when you are a JW? For the 6 years we've been married, we have both always worked and both done cooking and cleaning together. It was never anyone's job. Now that we are out, nothing has changed except the fact that now we have more time together since we don't worry about field service on Saturday, meeting on Sunday, and all those extra books and magazines aren't lying around everywhere!
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All you men here, who does the house cleaning?
by James Mixon indo you help or is this a woman job?
have you change your ways since.
leaving the borg.
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Talking with JW Elders possibly..
by bradford inas i wrote in a previous post i have recently written a da letter to the elders and haven't heard anything in the way of an announcement, phone call, or visit since.
i called the elder the letter was personally written to yesterday and left a vm to call me back which he did this morning.
he said they did get it but were meaning to call me and possibly meet with me to try and see if there was anything they could do to encourage me because they of course find this very sad.
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Yeah screw all that. Already called and said "no thanks." No point wasting any time talking. I'm walking away. I will try to stay away from this forum also. Time to live life without thinking about all this stuff and rehash it constantly. -
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Talking with JW Elders possibly..
by bradford inas i wrote in a previous post i have recently written a da letter to the elders and haven't heard anything in the way of an announcement, phone call, or visit since.
i called the elder the letter was personally written to yesterday and left a vm to call me back which he did this morning.
he said they did get it but were meaning to call me and possibly meet with me to try and see if there was anything they could do to encourage me because they of course find this very sad.
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@chris
My wife is still a JW. My family are still JWs. I would like to tell them I at least tried to reason with the elders and have open honest communication so they can see that I am not being unreasonable. I also still love these people. They are only doing what they feel is right and are blind to everything that we now see. It is pretty much my last chance and explaining everything to them. One of the elders is my former best friends father in law and is known to have loose lips when he has a few glasses of bourbon. Perhaps what I say can go beyond the "official" discussion.
Also, a question for you. You say walk away, but you are on these forums..why?
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Talking with JW Elders possibly..
by bradford inas i wrote in a previous post i have recently written a da letter to the elders and haven't heard anything in the way of an announcement, phone call, or visit since.
i called the elder the letter was personally written to yesterday and left a vm to call me back which he did this morning.
he said they did get it but were meaning to call me and possibly meet with me to try and see if there was anything they could do to encourage me because they of course find this very sad.
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As I wrote in a previous post I have recently written a DA letter to the elders and haven't heard anything in the way of an announcement, phone call, or visit since.
I called the elder the letter was personally written to yesterday and left a vm to call me back which he did this morning. He said they did get it but were meaning to call me and possibly meet with me to try and see if there was anything they could do to encourage me because they of course find this very sad.
I said I would meet with him personally or the other elder personally but I would not meet with both in an official capacity. He said it had to be both so I politely said I would rather not. He asked me to call or text the other elder to let him know so both are aware of my decision..
On a side note..if I don't contact him do I stay in this limbo indefinitely?!
Back to the point and hoping for some input..if I were to meet with the elders I feel like I know how it will go so what is the point..
I will explain how I got to this point, all the wrong teachings, I don't believe this is the channel Jesus is using, etc etc. They will point to a few things as evidence it is the truth:
Proclaim god's name, the ministry unitedly taught earth wide, the trinity, paradise earth, living in the last days, maybe the immortality of the soul..something like that and it will basically be let's agree to disagree and I would have wasted an hour or two of my time and their time.
To go or not to go, that is the question.
If any have had a meeting like this can you please share your feedback.
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Attending memorial tomorrow?
by Ghiagirl inthis is my first year i will not attend memorial.
to be honest if it wasn't for my husband i would probably be going still.
he says what's the point, don't be one of those people who doesn't give a sh** but just shows there face once a year.
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I've decided to officially disassociate myself
by Garrett inhey guys, .
i just wanted to thank you all for all of your input, support and help over the past few months.
i've decided to officially disassociate myself from the organization and move on with my life.
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Has This Site Ever Hurt You In Your Journey Out Of The JW Religion?
by minimus inthis site has gone through many metamorphosis over the years.
i believe it is a kinder, less edgy place tan it was a few years ago.
i wonder how many people were helped versus turned off by this place.
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Then we found out trevor, the fake wife, and the third person were actually members of the governing body and we were duped again. It was hard to come back from that, but we are still here. -
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Ex-Christians being angry
by Jonathan Drake ini know i'm angry.
i was curious if others are too.
i feel completely justified in my anger as well.
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Jonathan,
I think I'm more angry at myself for letting myself get sucked in and not waking up sooner. As for the organization and the people in it - I try to think how I was a year ago, five years ago, and how I would be the same as them, trying to be more zealous, following all the rules of the organization that Jehovah has chosen. I guess I can't be mad at them because they honestly believe it and I can't see what the GB gains except the power trip. They are blind themselves. You can't be mad at someone who is blind for not being able to see. They went through decades themselves of the same brainwashing techniques.
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Newbies , Are We Seeing An Accelerated Increase? This Past Year ? Newbies Feel free To Respond Please .
by smiddy inis it just me or does anyone else see more newbies joining this site this past year and especially in the last few months .. we would love to welcome you with genuine friendship ,support ,encouragement ,a place to vent ,and not judge you.. you have the freedom to express whatever view you like and you won`t be kicked off the board.. and to learn more about the "truth" about the truth , you will not hear at a kingdom hall .. smiddy.
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I am new to the site but have been on the way out of the org for a while. I just didn't find this site before. I was regularly on jwsurvey, jwleaks, and jwfacts.
It wasn't until recently that I found this site, wish I found it sooner.
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Pride or Humility - I guess it depends how you look at it..
by bradford inone of the constant themes of the literature and of the well meaning witnesses who regurgitate it to those that have left or are in the process of leaving is this:.
you are filled with pride.
you think you know better than jehovah's organization.
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One of the constant themes of the literature and of the well meaning witnesses who regurgitate it to those that have left or are in the process of leaving is this:
You are filled with pride. You think you know better than Jehovah's organization. You need to wait on Jehovah. Jehovah hates pride. Therefore he hates you. You need to humble yourself.
I came to a realization recently. What is more prideful? To believe that you have the one single truth, the one single religion that god approves, and that everyone else is wrong (and going to die!) -or- to admit that something you believed in, advocated, preached to others about, gave talks on, shared experiences with other witnesses about: WAS WRONG. You were duped.
A close friend tried this line on me how I was being prideful and I asked him if he realized how humbling it was to accept that I wasted 10 years of my life believing something that wasn't true and to walk away. I guess it is all about perception. He actually seemed like he understood what I was saying.