Thanks everyone for the suggestions....I guess I'm just going to toughen up a little and not let her place a guilt trip on me. I love her and hate feeling like I'm a disappointment to her....
I'll let ya know how it goes...
Desi
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A visit with my mom.....suggestions?
by desib77 inmy hubby and i had my mom over last sat.
and overall she was pretty good with the exception of the magazines she left at the very end.. now she has called and asked if we can get together, just us, for cokes on friday while i'm in town.
now, i know that she is going to witness to me and ask me if i love jehovah and tell me that if i do i should obey his commands.......and so on....and i will probably leave her feeling worthless.. i don't want to miss out on spending time with her because i really love my mother....but on the other hand i don't want to leave her depressed.... any suggestions?
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Last Comic Standing
by desib77 inis anyone watching this?
what did you think about last night's choices?.
my husband and i both thought bonnie and ant shouldn't have made it through but that monty and kerri louise should have.
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Double Edge,
Yes, I believe it comes on again tonight. We are going to watch it although it is kind of irritating that they aren't selecting on talent alone. Tonight they will select the final 5 people to be in the house.
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Last Comic Standing
by desib77 inis anyone watching this?
what did you think about last night's choices?.
my husband and i both thought bonnie and ant shouldn't have made it through but that monty and kerri louise should have.
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Is anyone watching this? What did you think about last night's choices?
My husband and I both thought Bonnie and Ant shouldn't have made it through but that Monty and Kerri Louise should have. We thought they were much funnier, esp. Monty.
What did you think?
Desi
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Another mother kills her children....
by desib77 inthis is so horrible....... http://abcnews.go.com/wire/us/ap20040615_247.html.
it seems like over recent years it is just becoming way too common for a mother to kill her children....it is sickening.
i wish something could be done to make this stop happening.....maybe if we started punishing the mothers more strongly instead of allowing them to get easier sentences based on insanity defenses then this would stop happening as frequently....i don't know, but i wish it would stop.
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Same could be said for fathers, couldn't it?
You have a point. I guess mother's stand out the most to me because I can't see how a woman can kill something that she gave birth to......but it is a problem with both parents.
I wish there was a solution. It is so sad.
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Does Anyone Else Ever Encounter This???
by ohiocowboy ini have been in a relationship for about 2-1/2 years now, and it seems that every time we have an argument or disagreement, it usually turns out to be my fault according to the other person, and my upbringing as a jw is always brought into the light, and also my depressive moods, this person knowing background of my exit from the org.
and the feelings it has caused me.
it feels as though they are using this as a "scapegoat", because even if that person comes home in a bad mood, or has to do something that they don't like, and an argument insues, i automatically am made the "bad guy", even though i was previously in a good mood before things started, and am reminded by this person how i must not be taking my antidepressants, or am thinking too much about my past, etc.
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((((Ohio))))
Desi
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APOSTAPETS!!!
by ohiocowboy ini thought it would be neat if we could see what each others canine, feline, avian, etc.companions look like.... .
here's my love, her name is chelsea, she is 9-1/2 years, and i have had her since she was 8 weeks old.
she is a golden lab mix, thus i affectionately call her "mutt butt" .
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Princess,
What a cute cat! My dog doesn't care for kids either but he tolerates them....hehe, he just walks off once he's finished allowing them petting his majesty...
Bubbamar,
Pugs are adorable....
I sent you a PM
Desi
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A visit with my mom.....suggestions?
by desib77 inmy hubby and i had my mom over last sat.
and overall she was pretty good with the exception of the magazines she left at the very end.. now she has called and asked if we can get together, just us, for cokes on friday while i'm in town.
now, i know that she is going to witness to me and ask me if i love jehovah and tell me that if i do i should obey his commands.......and so on....and i will probably leave her feeling worthless.. i don't want to miss out on spending time with her because i really love my mother....but on the other hand i don't want to leave her depressed.... any suggestions?
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desib77
well, finish your coke and politely excuse yourself if she starts in.
I think I'll do that......I just hope she holds off until the end so that I can partially enjoy the visit with her.
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A visit with my mom.....suggestions?
by desib77 inmy hubby and i had my mom over last sat.
and overall she was pretty good with the exception of the magazines she left at the very end.. now she has called and asked if we can get together, just us, for cokes on friday while i'm in town.
now, i know that she is going to witness to me and ask me if i love jehovah and tell me that if i do i should obey his commands.......and so on....and i will probably leave her feeling worthless.. i don't want to miss out on spending time with her because i really love my mother....but on the other hand i don't want to leave her depressed.... any suggestions?
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desib, you are going to have to learn to get stronger and not feel guilt, she knows how to push your buttons .
I know...you're right....It is difficult for me because I hate to feel like I'm hurting her....but it is something that I will have to work on.
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A visit with my mom.....suggestions?
by desib77 inmy hubby and i had my mom over last sat.
and overall she was pretty good with the exception of the magazines she left at the very end.. now she has called and asked if we can get together, just us, for cokes on friday while i'm in town.
now, i know that she is going to witness to me and ask me if i love jehovah and tell me that if i do i should obey his commands.......and so on....and i will probably leave her feeling worthless.. i don't want to miss out on spending time with her because i really love my mother....but on the other hand i don't want to leave her depressed.... any suggestions?
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If in fact she does start talking about jws ,tell her " mom not now let's have a nice time together".
I've told her this before, too....she says "but I love you and want you to be with me in paradise"...and she looks sad like she is going to cry and then I feel bad for having hurt her and usually I'm the one who starts to cry....
I'm really not good with this.
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A visit with my mom.....suggestions?
by desib77 inmy hubby and i had my mom over last sat.
and overall she was pretty good with the exception of the magazines she left at the very end.. now she has called and asked if we can get together, just us, for cokes on friday while i'm in town.
now, i know that she is going to witness to me and ask me if i love jehovah and tell me that if i do i should obey his commands.......and so on....and i will probably leave her feeling worthless.. i don't want to miss out on spending time with her because i really love my mother....but on the other hand i don't want to leave her depressed.... any suggestions?
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desib77
if she brings it up, just ask her to just enjoy each other's time and not get bogged down with religion. You love her and want to spend time with her.
We've had that conversation before. She says she doesn't try to stop me from talking to her about what I want so I shouldn't try to stop her.....it ended up with me feeling guilty as usual.