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  As a JW, Did You Ever Look DownOn Other Witnesses???

  by minimus in

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  and were you ever looked down upon?

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  nevergotwet

  Our family was also seen as "spiritually weak".

  Of course when you're a kid, that means target practice for the kids of "spiritually strong" parents
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  Why my view of the witnesses changed

  by nevergotwet in

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  as i explained in my first thread i left when i was 18, but first started doubting at the age of 11, after a specific incident.

  i'd like to tell that story now.

  sorry if it seems long-winded, but i've only just been dealing with this one, and i've been carrying it round for 20 years.

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  seeitallclearlynow:

  Many elders are very caring just like many publishers and pioneers, but still, since they are our "leaders" and exemplars, we have a right to expect them all to be that way

  I agree. I freely admit that the incident has clouded my view of elders and I am sure there were some who genuinely cared. My memories of them always seem to be negative though.

  Some people simply dismiss children anyway. They are contemptible.

  I couldn't agree more. It is shameful to brush the concerns of children aside - no matter how trivial.
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  Why my view of the witnesses changed

  by nevergotwet in

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  as i explained in my first thread i left when i was 18, but first started doubting at the age of 11, after a specific incident.

  i'd like to tell that story now.

  sorry if it seems long-winded, but i've only just been dealing with this one, and i've been carrying it round for 20 years.

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  nevergotwet

  As I explained in my first thread I left when I was 18, but first started doubting at the age of 11, after a specific incident. I'd like to tell that story now. Sorry if it seems long-winded, but I've only just been dealing with this one, and I've been carrying it round for 20 years. But here goes...

  Picture the scene: An April Saturday afternoon, just after the end of the special assembly day programme. My congregation was on the rota for assembly-hall cleaning and our car-group was driven by Brother Super-Elder, so we were all in for an extra hard dose of scrubbing. Great fun for the 11 year old nevergotwet!

  Before beginning my bout of cleaning, I needed to ?use the lovingly-provided facilities?. So I excused myself from the group and made my way to the men's room.

  As I was just finishing off, the door swung open, and in staggered a man, almost on the point of collapse, made it to the basin, where he was taken extremely ill. This man was clearly in need of medical help, and I did not know what to do. My first thought was find someone who does. So being one of ?Jehovah's little helpers? I thought: ?I know, I'll go and tell an elder, he'll know what to do."

  I was panicked by this man's difficulties, but as I exit the men's room, I spot someone who took one of the assembly parts that afternoon. Knowing that he was more than likely an elder, I approached him.

  I said to him that there was a man in the toilet, that he was very ill and needed first aid.

  The ?loving shepherd? replies: ?can't you see I'm busy!?

  I cried with panic and worry and went to find my mum, who was tucked away in the depths of the hall. I never told her about this, I was too upset.

  I often think about that man and whether he got the help he needed ? and sometimes I think maybe I could have done more to aid him.

  After that experience, I never looked at elders in the same light again. I was scared of them after that (strangely, even after I left), but now I just feel contempt.

  Thanks for letting me vent.
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  Time to de-lurk!

  by nevergotwet in

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  i've been lurking around these parts for a while and thought it was time to make a post, although one or two of you have come across me when i wandered into chat a few weeks back.

  just a quick intro: .

  i'm early 30's, was involved with the dubs since birth, but made the break when i was 18 to go to university (culture shock!).

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  Glenmore:

  Are you near Southend

  Very near.

  PM me, and we'll talk further about it.

  On second thoughts, check your PMs
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  Did You Ever Attend A Meeting After You'd Left?

  by Englishman in

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  did it seem strange to you, almost surreal?

  it's happened to me several times.

  about 2 years after i was df'd, hl and i were newly weds heading for a weekend in london.

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  Carmel:

  I was as welcome as a fart in a diving helmet or the bastard child at the family picnic.

  LOL!

  I have a friend who is a priest and he once told me he'd like to go to the public talk wearing his cassock.

  I wonder what the reaction would be then?
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  Time to de-lurk!

  by nevergotwet in

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  i've been lurking around these parts for a while and thought it was time to make a post, although one or two of you have come across me when i wandered into chat a few weeks back.

  just a quick intro: .

  i'm early 30's, was involved with the dubs since birth, but made the break when i was 18 to go to university (culture shock!).

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  Bubbamar:

  And congrats on never baptizing yourself into the WTBTS!! Smart one!!

  Thanks! I must agree that it was a good move.

  I was lucky as my mother told me I should make my own decision and be old enough to understand what a serious step it is.

  I had my doubts about the JWs ever since I was 11, so by the time I stopped going, I was already pretty unconvinced by what they had to say. I'll write about the incident that turned me around at some point when I have time.
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  Did You Ever Attend A Meeting After You'd Left?

  by Englishman in

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  did it seem strange to you, almost surreal?

  it's happened to me several times.

  about 2 years after i was df'd, hl and i were newly weds heading for a weekend in london.

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  nevergotwet

  I've never been back, but my last meeting was a memorial. It was the first (and last) meeting one non-believing member of my family went to.

  He was astounded at the lack of genuine welcome, and coouldn't believe the stuff he was hearing. His summary: A load of rubbish!

  That sealed the deal for me. I never returned.
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  Time to de-lurk!

  by nevergotwet in

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  i've been lurking around these parts for a while and thought it was time to make a post, although one or two of you have come across me when i wandered into chat a few weeks back.

  just a quick intro: .

  i'm early 30's, was involved with the dubs since birth, but made the break when i was 18 to go to university (culture shock!).

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  nevergotwet

  Special K:
  
  

  Could that mean .. You never got baptized. If not.. GREAT!!..
  
  nevergotwet... there has got to be a good story there.

  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  Oh, who am I kidding? I can't make that stuff up as well as the dubs! It was because I never got baptised!
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  Time to de-lurk!

  by nevergotwet in

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  i've been lurking around these parts for a while and thought it was time to make a post, although one or two of you have come across me when i wandered into chat a few weeks back.

  just a quick intro: .

  i'm early 30's, was involved with the dubs since birth, but made the break when i was 18 to go to university (culture shock!).

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  nevergotwet

  Thanks for your welcome. I feel at home here already!
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  Were You Ever Really "On The Watch"?

  by minimus in

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  jws are told to always be on the watch.

  always be ready.

  be alert in the "time of the end".

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  nevergotwet

  I couldn't help wincing whenever a politician mentioned the words "peace" and "security" in the same breath.