My husband and I struggled with leaving, which meant leaving our friends and his family. But once we actually made the break; We told the elders we wanted out, and they officially announced it at the meeting. It was very freeing for us and we were able to move on. It was easier for us though I think, because my sisters and father were not JWS and were happy for us and my husband's parents, while they were strong JW believers, did NOT believe in shunning and would not turn their backs on us, even after they were counseled several times by the elders to shun us. In fact my husband's father was eventually made an elder. and still didn't believe in shunning us. I guess that made it easier for us as we didn't lose family. Everyone's situation is different and you must do what feels best for you. I know the feeling of wanting them to know they have no hold on you any longer and you are free to think and live as you want. The only sad part is to have to lose family. Hopefully you can find your way that will work for you.
lilybird
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Coming out from hiding
by pc ini post here on and off but always read everyones post to see what's happening.
lately i have had this really strong desire to just say screw it this is who i am and write it here.
i told my husband who has never been a witness, but he is afraid that someone will try to df me.i have faded for a really long time.
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What Annoys You???????
by minimus inone of my pet peeves is being behind a too slow driver.
it "drives" me crazy!
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lilybird
People who don't understand that a 4-way stop at an intersection means you must stop .. then proceed, not slow down and then proceed..
Paying the GST in Canada which adds 7% on everything we buy, on top of the PST which is another 8%, even though the gov't promised they would do away with the GST tax several years ago.Being taxed 15% on practically everything really makes your purchase expensive.
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What I remember from 1975
by Big Dog insince i am sort of late to the party this has probably been beaten to death and if it has just kick this thread to the curb.
i was 11 years old in 1975 and i remember being scared silly the whole year.
i mean there was so much hype about it and the tension in the air was so thick it was unreal.
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lilybird
In 1974, many brothers refered to 1975 as a "marked" year. I think by that way, they were leaving an "out" in case nothing did happen, but if it did... they told you to be ever faithful!!! Also I remember many brothers who had sold their homes prior to 19'75, only to turn around and buy homes again a few years later. Its sad the way the WTS messes with so many ppl's minds..
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1975??????
by whyamihere ini have a question....what did you all think dec 31st 1975 right before 1976 hit?
then after it turned 1976 what did you all think after that?
i never asked that question before.
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lilybird
I was relieved too really,, I didn't really believe it would happen, I was 17 at the time, and didn't really want the world to change , not as much as the JWS did anyways..too bad I stuck with the Org until I was 29 though... it took having kids of my own to realize what the real "truth" of life is...
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Mass. High Court Makes Landmark Child Abuse Ruling--JW
by blondie inhttp://www.metrowestdailynews.com/localregional/view.bg?articleid=91413&format=text
high court makes landmark church abuse ruling.
by michael kunzelman / associated press.
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lilybird
Well, the WTS doesn't look so "spotless and unblemished" now.....
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Gathering to support Lawrence Hughes -SHUNNED FATHER
by TresHappy injehovah's witness church in court
posted at 11:50 am wednesday, february 23. .
supporters of a man suing the jehovah's witness church gathered outside a calgary courthouse wednesday morning.
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lilybird
That is so sad for the little girl, influenced by her mother and Org. She was too young to have her own say. I hope the lawsuit stands and they get sued BIG TIME. Its about time that the "real truth" about the Org is revealed. That they brainwash and ruin people's lives. I'm not sure how her mother really justifies to herself what she has done. Its very sad.
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Tell us about you
by kls inso many posters and most communicate either on this site or have the pleasure to meet in person and know much of some posters lives ,but for thos who don't ( like me ) let's share some of our lives with others,,, .
are you married or single?
= me married .
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Am I married? yes. for 26 years
Do I have children? Yes. 3 ..2 sons and 1 daughter
Do i have pets? yes. a golden lab who is like another child
Do I have hobbies? I like to hike, swim, long walks with my husband, watching my son play university football
Am I a grandparent? No, hopefully not for a while yet, at least until my kids are done college :)
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Things that Hallmark cards don't say
by Morgan inthings that hallmark cards don't say .
my tire was thumping.
i thought it was flat .
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lilybird
I enjoyed your "not likely to be found on Hallmard card" verses..although I have to say I could have used a few of them at one time or another.. LOL :)
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Any former Witnesses here in Toronto or Southern Ontario?
by Toronto_Guy ini was df'd last february, a year ago now, from my cong.
in toronto.
just wondering if anyone on this board is from toronto or the gta?
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lilybird
Hi Toronto_Guy, We live just east of Toronto, DA'd in 1986. My husband and I were friends with a lot of JW's in the Toronto area. WE were lucky that in the mid-70's, teens were still allowed to have parties(dancing and disco music also!! ) , so we made a lot of friends in and around the city. :)
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10 Longstanding Problems that I have with the WT Society: A Summary
by Bluegrass Tom ini have a problem with this.
do they know what the right thing is?
this must mean that college is worse today than it was years ago, but is now okay to attend?
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Thanks for your summary, It was very enlighting. The WT Society proves that it is in fact worse than the "worldly" religions and organizations, because they pretend to be so pure and apart from the world. When in fact, they are deceitful and so, harmful to all their followers that they deceive.