Posts by Cellist

some of my friends accept it some don't and one had big arguments with his wife about the issue until the time when he cunningly got her to become overweight something that spoilt her good looks.

think of it, a married woman going out wearing tight shorts showing so much leg and buttocks and a top that reveals too much breast, as if almost saying "i am going out to entice some men", should a dignified husband accept that?

Cellist

Ballistic, I agree. The whole question points to serious problems in the relationship. Best to find someone who shares the same "values" that you do. And, a relationship where respect is a two way street.

Cellist

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How much should a married woman show?

by greendawn in

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do you think a married woman should go out provocatively dressed?

some of my friends accept it some don't and one had big arguments with his wife about the issue until the time when he cunningly got her to become overweight something that spoilt her good looks.

think of it, a married woman going out wearing tight shorts showing so much leg and buttocks and a top that reveals too much breast, as if almost saying "i am going out to entice some men", should a dignified husband accept that?

Cellist

Well, if a woman should take her husband's opinion into account when she dresses, then I think it should be based on what her husband's real standard is. Whatever he shows approval of (by ogling and giving undo attention to) that is the level at which his wife should be able to dress. If she so desires. Otherwise, he's being a hypocrite.

We don't have this problem in our marriage. My husband is a secure person and I use my own common sense when I dress.

Cellist

P.S. a person can be made to gain weight by destroying their sense of self-worth. This will almost always result in binge eating for comfort. Although sometimes it can lead to the reverse.

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A letter to the board

by lola28 in

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hey guys,.

well look at this, i have been here for a year!

actually that's not really true, i lurked here for a year before i began to post, i rememeber the first time i did, i was so scared but you all came in and welcomed me.

Cellist

Congrats on the one year anniversary. You're one of the people that makes this board nice.

Cellist

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My personal experiences. How long can I keep up this facade?

by alienagent in

i am a 34 your old man who has been raised a jw.

i am baptised and have been inactive for some time now.

i live with my mother (a devout jw) and my youngest sister who is df'd.

Cellist

Welcome to the board. I agree that you should get your own place. As much as you might love your mother, don't let your worry for her get in the way of what you need. You'll be in a much better position to be of support to your family if you yourself are strong and happy. And, in the long run, you are not responsible for your mother's happiness. We are each responsible for our own.

Wishing you the best,

Cellist

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slip of the tongue of elder

by DannyBloem in

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this morning the speaker was late and they had to change the wachtower study with the public talk.. the young elder introducing this, was maybe a bit nervous of this happening (although it is certainly not the first time this year), and told that the public intercourse of the wachttower study would be held first, instead of the public discourse.

Cellist

We had one elder who kept proclaiming that Jesus gained immorality.

Cellist

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help--my car chugs when i takek my foot off the gas...

by orbison11 in

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greetings all you car buffs.

i am having troubles with my car...91 t-bird,,,when i take my foot off gas, it chugs, like it is going to stall...... any ideas?.

orbi

Cellist

Could also be a vacuum leak caused by a cracked hose.

Cellist

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I cannot beleive i am an " apostate"

by sspo in

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my hell is just beginning, 26 years of marriage, almost divorced last year until we finally decided to get back and give it another try this year.

now i'll have to meet with the elders and tell them about my spirituality and doubts about the wts, 1914, 1995 generation change,malawy/mexico,and on and on and my wife will be there.

i do feel sorry for my wife because she has already lost 13 members of her family, "apostasy" and some just left the truth and even though some are not disfellowshipped she won't talk to them, now her husband, is going thru the same thing, she cannot accept it because out of 31 y. in the truth i was an elder and how could that happen.

Cellist

Welcome to the board. I agree with everyone's comments. You DON'T have to meet with the elders. If you feel you have to, just remember, you don't have to tell them anything. Tell them you're depressed, tell them you're sick or whatever you think will work for you. They have no right to command you to tell them what you're thinking or feeling. That's your business.

Like others have said, concentrate on being a decent human being.

Cellist

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Money & WTBTS

by Mystery in

reading the site http://www.cultnews.com/index.php/2006/02/08/jehovahs-witnesses-sells-out-to-cash-in/ a participant ask the following question.

buildupnotteardown said:

february 9, 2006 at 7:33 am .

Cellist

Look for the "brothers" who are doing business with the WTS.

Cellist