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  Could This Be the Most Repellent Watchtower ....Ever?

  by metatron in

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  you'll be getting the aug. 1 watchtower soon.

  on it's rear cover, it has the following article:.

  "the branch office of jehovah's witnesses in nigeria recently received a letter that, in part.

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  This really is abhorrent. But I can honestly say that when I was an active JW I probably would have been "touched" by this story and not seen the other side of things. I guess that is part of "mind control".

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  Old Friends

  by Purza in

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  2. friends

  i walked away and faded about 2-3 years ago.

  i moved an hour away and i thought i was forgotten by a lot of my friends.

  last year i got a call from a very old friend and was totally shocked when she called me at work.

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  I walked away and faded about 2-3 years ago. I moved an hour away and I thought I was forgotten by a lot of my friends. Last year I got a call from a very old friend and was totally shocked when she called me at work. (She got the number from my best friend who still lives down in that area). This friend called to say she was pregnant. After 10 years of marriage they finally got pregnant. Of course I was happy for her, etc. I kept in touch with her over email and her husband called me the day the baby was born to tell me what the sex was and that everything was okay.

  I emailed this friend last week and asked if I could come and visit them so I could see the baby. I told her that I was not attending meetings, but that I was not DF'd, just inactive. I told her this so that she could decide if she wanted to see me or not. Her reply was "don't be silly, we would love to see you". So then I asked if my boyfriend/financee could come too and she said yes. Granted, this couple (who had the baby) are not pillar's of strength in the cong., but still they are active.

  Here is my dilemna. I live with my boyfriend and we are engaged. They are going to ask questions to both me and him like "where do you live", etc. Do I come clean and tell them that we live together? Or do I just side skirt the issue and not answer the question directly? The only reason I care is that I do not wish to be DF'd and although I doubt this couple would "tell" on me, I still would like my private life to stay private. But I also don't want to be afraid or lie to them either.

  Any suggestions as to how I should handle things? Thanks.

  Purza
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  How many raised in "the truth" have left??

  by L_A_Big_Dawg in

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  this subject has been gnawing at me for awhile now.. so many of you:.

  1) were raised in "the truth?".

  2) did you get baptized and at what age?.

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  Purza

  I was born into it.

  Baptized at 15

  DF'd at 19

  Reinstated at 20

  Left/faded/ran away/started my life at 30

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  Death

  by desib77 in

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  i know, i know this is kind of a morbid subject but the subject actually came up between my husband and i the other night.

  we have two completely different backgrounds and we have discovered that we want diff.

  things to be done to us when we die.

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  I work for an estate planning attorney so I think about "planning for the future" -- even when I was an active JW. I always wanted to be buried so my loved ones could have a place to visit in order to feel closer to me (if they wanted to). I like to visit old cemetaries and look at the dates and the names of people -- don't know why I like doing that, but. . . . then the thought of being enclosed in a place underneath the ground kinda creeps me out.

  Whatever I eventually choose, I will would like a place where someone can go to remember me.

  While I was a JW I used to be afraid of dying. Now that I have walked away from the Borg, the feeling of death is not as strong. Weird.

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  jewelry mishap - too funny

  by Dawn in

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  i went to visit an old friend yesterday who was in town visiting.

  he's like a second dad to me.

  he was never a jw but his wife is a long time faithful witness.

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  OMG that is entertaining. Thanks for the laugh today.

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  Need Advice

  by Purza in

  1. social
  2. relationships

  i am going to try to make this short.. i have a best friend who is a faded jw (not df'd, just inactive and attends meetings infrequently).

  i have been friends with her since we were toddlers so i know her pretty well.

  she was in a 20 year marriage with a jw who also happened to be a drug addict and abuser, etc.

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  Thanks exjdub and kls. You are right -- it is just SO HARD to sit back and watch everything begin all over again. I will support her of course, but I think I will need to distance myself a bit. Sigh. . .

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  Cary Verse - A "Sexualy Violent Predator" JW is Released

  by Gerard in

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  2. child-abuse

  sex offender attends placement hearing

  verse happy to return to motel

  http://www.nbc11.com/newslinks/3452060/detail.html

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  They showed him on the news when he was first released and the camera got a picture of his reading material which was a bunch of JW literature. I did not know he was an active, baptized JW. Scary thought.

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  Woohoo... I had a great day in family court yesterday!!!

  by outbutnotdown in

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  my ex-wife and i were to start our custody/equalization trial yesterday but due to time constrictions we had a settlement conference instead and it is over!!!!!

  woohoo!!!!.

  financially, i will end up having to pay $5,000.00 more than what i should.. (only because my ex lied about a few things) but i get joint custody of the kids now.

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  I am so happy for you Brad. Its nice to see a father come out ahead in the legal system.

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  My ex-wife is a psycho bitch...

  by Abaddon in

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  (rant)

  friends of my girlfriend's family are lending us a cottage in france this summer.

  i want to have my two daughters there for a week.

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  Purza

  My boyfriend's ex is also a psycho bitch from hell. Completely self centered and thinks every thing she does is for the goodness of her child. Her court papers are maddenning. We are still fighting for more visitation time and we go back to court again next month. She is evil and won't give up trying to hurt him (and the kid in the process) because he left her. We don't get lawyers involved because we don't want to make someone rich just so they can fight for us. She has an attorney and we don't and a lot of the times the judge makes some concessions for a party representing themselves.

  And yes, father's get the short end of the stick in the legal system. It sucks!!!!! My only consolation is that the kid will see how insane her mother is/was in the long run. I have an ex and I am so over him that if he wanted to see his child I would be more than glad to accommodate him. But he has not contacted me (or his child) in over 10 years. Sad.

  I wish the best of luck to you -- it sounds like you are going to need it.

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  Need Advice

  by Purza in

  1. social
  2. relationships

  i am going to try to make this short.. i have a best friend who is a faded jw (not df'd, just inactive and attends meetings infrequently).

  i have been friends with her since we were toddlers so i know her pretty well.

  she was in a 20 year marriage with a jw who also happened to be a drug addict and abuser, etc.

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  I am going to try to make this short.

  I have a best friend who is a faded JW (not DF'd, just inactive and attends meetings infrequently). I have been friends with her since we were toddlers so I know her pretty well. She was in a 20 year marriage with a JW who also happened to be a drug addict and abuser, etc. My friend had a litter of children with man and felt like she had to stay for the kids sake. Well she finally kicked him out a few years ago.

  And then she went right into a relationship with a "worldly" man. This man never treated her well and I would say things to her about it now and then, but I figured she knew what she was doing (he was married, but separated at the time they originally got together).

  Fast forward to this week and she comes to find out that this guy is cheating on her. She is devastated. She says she is in love with him and she thinks this is the first time this has ever happened and he swears it wont happen again and she says "I can't say that I won't go back with him". That infuriates me. This man does not like her kids (and she has a lot of them) and he is completely self centered. She deserves so much more.

  And I have been very hard on her trying to get her to see it from the outside. She asked me not to judge and her and stand behind her in whatever decision she makes (as she has for me in the past). We have a trip planned to go camping with her family, him and my family. I told her that he is not welcome to go camping and she said "you mean if he goes then you won't go?" (She really wants this guy to go) And I said, "no, I will go, but it will be very uncomfortable is he is there".

  She did take my advice and has scheduled an appointment with a counselor, but I do not know how to handle it if they get back together. We have been best friends for many, many years, but I cannot sit back and watch this happen all over again. Being raised as JWs I would say that we are both very naive and I think this has caused us to be too trusting sometimes.

  Anyone have any advice they wish to share? Thanks.

  Purza