Posts by Purza

I remember them (apostates with signs) at the Cow Palace in SF. We didn't dare look at them (or else we would turn to stone). But I agree with mrk that it reinforces their beliefs about apostates. I think a subtle approach may be more appropriate.

Purza

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Do spiritual ones sit closer to the front?

by JH in

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df'd ones are asked to sit in the back row at the hall.

although i was never df'd, i always sat in the back because i felt more comfortable back there.

i never did participate much anyways so i sat in the last row or before last.

Purza

When I was DF'd I WANTED to sit in the back. But I usually ended up somewhere in the middle. It was pure torture sitting there. Even when I became "spiritually strong" I still sat in the middle. I wouldn't say that the spiritual ones sit in the front -- maybe only the ones that want to "appear" more spiritual?

Purza

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mind games to free yourself of jw fear mentality

by boy@crossroads in

i find that to get rid of the jw mentality i have to play mind games on myself as i go throughout my day.

one tactic that i've been using recently involves telling myself "now as i go through this (whatever) situation how would you act if you had never been exposed jehovahs witnesses".

it really is an amazing thing for me b/c after i think about the situation i really do become more comfortable and the true "me" comes out.

Purza

I hear you. I have been faded for about 2.5 years now and I still have trouble with singing happy birthday or celebrating xmas. It is weird -- I feel as if I am doing something wrong. I have to almost talk to myself out loud to tell myself it is okay now. Its strange realizing that we were programmed to think/feel a certain way about these things. It does get a bit easier as time passes (or so I am finding out).

Good luck to you on your fade.

Purza

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Brief Introduction

by frozen one in

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thought i would join the forum after following the posts for a while.

i used to post on tishie's x-jw site but have not participated there for a while.

anyway, i was born into the religion...cult...borg...whatever.

Purza

Welcome Frozen!

Do you still have contact with your family?

Purza

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Did You Ever Enjoy Going To Assemblies and Conventions??

by minimus in

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every january, they read the letter as to where you'll be "assigned" for the convention and then the our kingdom ministry will detail all the do's and don'ts to remember.

was going to these things ever enjoyable to you?

Purza

I used to have fun working in the food service. My dad had a "stand" and I would take the tickets from the people while standing on a milk crate. I also would help get the food -- I remember spilling coffee on myself quite a bit.

I had fun hanging with my friends as a teen.

But the last few years I was there, I would dread it. Saturday afternoons were so long as were Sunday mornings before the drama -- for the "meat" talks. The last assembly day I went I spent the day text messaging my boyfriend (now fiancee) -- that was a better use of my time.

Don't miss anything about being a dub one bit!

Purza

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if gf throws an ultimatum, what should one do? scary question........

by Buck in

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friends

if your very serious about a girl and youve been going out for over a year, but she is waiting on you to get baptized before marriage.

its too hard to leave.

but there are questions i have that i dont even think there are answers too.

Purza

Please try to think with your brain, not your heart. Your heart is telling it will hurt to leave -- hell yeah it will hurt. I have had my heart broken and I thought I was going to die. It was the worst time in my life -- but I survived it. And so have many others. I know that may not be very comforting, but just know it is possible.

Issuing an ultimatium isn't showing love to the other person. I caution you -- please don't get baptized -- you may/will regret it in the future.

Best to you.

Purza

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were there any embarassing moments in the congregation?

by badboy in

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?

Purza

Once this sister who was a tad on the heavy side went up to give a talk and when she sat down the chair broke. She was pretty embarassed, but went ahead with her talk anyway. What a trooper.

Or how about my daughter that was goofing off and broke a vase in the front of the hall -- man was I pissed. But my dad was the PO and he "took care of it". My daughter who was about 5 years old still remembers that incident -- and laughs about it now (she is a teenager).

Purza

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SPIDERS!!!!

by Sunnygal41 in

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last night, i'm lying in bed, getting all sleepy and comfortablehuge spider in the corner of my room!!!!!!

eeeeeeekkkk!!!

i rush from my bed and grab the vacuum cleaner and flip the switch...........and voila he's sucked up safely and hopefully very dead inside............feeling much safer and again serene, i climb back in bed and pass an uneventful, peaceful night.

Purza

I have so many spider "incidents" that I am trying to block from memory. Thankfully I have a man around who knows just by the tone of my voice that he must do some spider hunting.

Before he was around I used to suck spiders up in the vacuum cleaner. Then one day, about three days after I sucked a spider up I had to replace the bag. I open the door to the vacuum and low and behold that same damn spider was there and had crawled out to the ledge! Freaked me out. Now they must be "crunched" in tissue and flushed before I can rest easy.

Purza

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Pioneer Pace!

by The JellyBaby in

i never had the priveledge to go to any pioneer school or anything, so i was just wondering if there was any special training for this pace that the pioneers walk at, (it is not just limited to the pioneering ones..but they seem to have it mastered) it is noticeable from a mile away, usually breifcase swinging, one arm gesticulating, but not much progress being made.

Purza

It was almost impossible for me to walk slowly -- I just wanted to get service over with. My favorite was finding a door where no one was home and staying there as long as I could -- so the others could get the doors that had people at home (i.e. doors with garage doors open, etc.).

Purza