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  A big hug to all of you!

  by caballoSentado in

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  i do not post much.... but i read this forum dayly... .

  this is to give you my friends a big hug & tell .

  you that many of you have become my friends just by reading .

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  ditto to boa,dan-o,sassy & etc. from dorothy.
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  This site has been the most incredible help to me-UNTIL TODAY

  by ohiocowboy in

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  reading through some of the recent posts, ie; the topic of lazarus and the gay issue, i was flabbergasted at what i was reading.

  i can't believe-well maybe i can, that some people on this site are calling gay people "faggots", and telling that person that they are going to get "what sodom and gomorrah got".. this site has been a godsend to me, and have been telling my friends how nice it is to be in with a group of people who can relate to my life, my feelings, my insecurities, and my fears relating to the org.

  and not being a part of it anymore.

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  Cowboy,

  Thanks for posting not only does it help you it encourages the rest of us too. I commmend you for not quiting & at least giving folks the opportunity to show you that "we" cannot stop people from haveing there own opinion but we can show you Cowboy that we do not all feel the same way.

  Had to say also that when I noticed your time here we joined on the same day. Hope we are able to heal what needs healing. And strengthen what can be made stronger to help us endure. Look forward to meeting you .

  D.J.
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  child abuse

  by bem in

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  what have elders counseled if molester was of another religion?

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  Abuse is a wound that just never seems to heal... for a long time I have thought of myself as a survivor no longer a victim...I had sympathetic clucking from sis's in the cong.as sympathy. But now as I look back it was always treated as a done deal just forget it & go on so I tried to but now reading so many things to the contrary of what I thought was a "cleaner" life( can't think of another way to phrase it.) I feel so disgusted now. And sorry for so many folks and what they have suffered. Where does that leave the clean cong. theory?
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  child abuse

  by bem in

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  what have elders counseled if molester was of another religion?

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  Even tho' I have been in-active for awile. I was horrified that the catholics would cover up so many ugly acts. My head is still spinning to read so much about the abuse in the org. I literally listened. and I have never looked into anything "apostate". I have had internet 6 weeks. And it took three of those to have enough nerve to look up Jws. I wanted to be "theocratic" As everyone can tell that have helped me.
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  Be afraid... be very afraid...

  by LittleToe in

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  i really must be on here too much - 4000 posts and counting.. supreme one seemed so far away, not that long ago.. now it's a mere 1000 posts away - a drop in a bucket, six months at most, surely.... it seems so long ago, that i protested giving up my light-saber in preference of the fullness of "the force" imbued by the "emperor class".. and now another impending transformation.... to which i say.... .. .. .. .. .. .. ..

  argggghhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh!!!.

  .. (monty python quote of the day - but which movie?

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  Had to reply if for no other reason than get it back on top page...

  You guys make me laugh and I so need to laugh. Thanks!

  Congrats. on the # of posts.I'm still trying to understand the process.wish we could award you one of the former prizes.
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  child abuse

  by bem in

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  what have elders counseled if molester was of another religion?

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  This may have been asked before and I read as much as time permits...

  I just wonder what Jws are told to do if the molester was of another religion I am imagining they would be told to report to authorities. since it's a way to defame another religion. Do any know. How this might of been handled?
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  child abuse

  by bem in

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  what have elders counseled if molester was of another religion?

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  what have elders counseled if molester was of another religion?
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  nightmares

  by in a new york bethel minute in

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  i grew up having nightmares about armageddon, satan and, most of all jehovah.

  i am 25 now and i still get nightmares, and they're always about these same things.

  i was wondering if my brain is overactive, or if other people on this site get nightmares about things they learned as a witness.

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  THANKS to you for the info on sleep paralysis I didn't know it had a name. Mrs.2 I have had those nightmares too where I couldn't wake up Or would scare hubby to death waking him up by screaming. but now I am a little aware at times & whatever is going on I am begging some one to wake me up. And I am out sorts that following day especially since I usually recall dreams and they are unpleasant running anywhere from protecting granchild,home,hiding from burglars.a lot of times they are repeats of previous nightmares.

  When my family were young and we raising them in what we thought was the truth I usually nightmared about total darkness and not being able to get to children who were usually in school etc. but I was always alone and trying to remember (and I mean no disrepect) much as I suppose a blind person would by sensing where I was and how I needed to do things to get to them in this total darkness. Boy did they get big ole' hugs that morning when it was time for them to get up.

  I don't think I am insomniac but nights after these latest nightmares I dread going to sleep.
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  How Many Reveal Themselves Totally On This Board?

  by minimus in

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  2. friends

  some feel that you should put out a history of who you are, what your life was and is like now and express it in a very simple way so that everyone can "know" you.

  we've had posters say they were elders, elder's sisters, hurt jws, etc.

  it could all be a little fantasy.

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  being new to board I appreciate that some are really who they say.

  as far as revealing goes. Elsewhere thanks now we know what the back of a smily face looks like. too funny. oh yea and the back of xjw...

  But Big Tex now I am nervous again about the whole world watching thing.
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  Did the second-class status of JW women ever bother you? Does it now?

  by True North in

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  if the jw organization were considered a normal business operating without the protections of being a religion, it obviously would have to make some big changes in order to avoid being sued out of existence for sex discrimination.

  i wasn't raised to think that women should be relegated to second class status or that they should have less opportunities than men or be relegated to a limited set of life roles.

  however, when i became a jw, i freely accepted all the sexist nonsense that came with the territory without ever being bothered by it.

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  Even tho' I told myself we were honored. My mind knew better. I have the highest respect for older folks or ones who have challenges to overcome so it really disappointed me to see ones in cong. not value aged sis's that had been active for years but were now treated as a burden. I seen it in car groups for service some would argue about who was gonna get "stuck" with certain ones seen men and women both do this. Had a couple elders always reminding us we were beneath them for a reason...They said so do not forget it.