Hi I was with a ex JW for 5 years, and he never attended funerals, christmas, birthdays, weddings, etc. I found their reasoning that it is Pagan and their bible verses against birthdays to be ridiculous. I was bothered more with funerals. How is it love or respect to not attend a family or friends funeral. My ex gradmothers funeral service was in a Catholic Church he stayed outside as well as him mother. When i was with my ex and reading peoples stories there seems to be guilt of celebrating birthdays etc. What if someone i loved passed away he wouldn't be there for me. Did any of you do that how did you justify not attending a funeral, or shunning someone who just lost someone they loved. What are your thoughts regarding this now that you are no longer a JW.
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thoughts
by prgirl79 inhi i was with a ex jw for 5 years, and he never attended funerals, christmas, birthdays, weddings, etc.
i found their reasoning that it is pagan and their bible verses against birthdays to be ridiculous.
i was bothered more with funerals.
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jw's and holidays
by prgirl79 ini was with a ex-jw for 5 years or shall i say disfellowshipped but still never moved on!
anyways the whole time we were together no birthdays, funerals, weddings (only reception not church), thanksgiving, christmas.
i always felt alone and like i would offend him celebrating these things.
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prgirl79
I was with a ex-jw for 5 years or shall I say disfellowshipped but still never moved on! Anyways the whole time we were together No birthdays, funerals, weddings (only reception not church), thanksgiving, christmas. I always felt alone and like i would offend him celebrating these things. It always felt like a lose lose situation. Totally one sided. thought the reasons they gave were simply not good especially with their explanation of birthdays. Also not entering churches for funeral or wedding services. According to them it has pagan roots. I honestly felt that not going to a wedding or funeral service was ridiculous and rude. If someone i cared about passed away my ex would be outside!!!!!!!!!!
What are your thoughts about holidays etc since you have been out? Do you celebrate those things now enjoy it?
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Woman poses as Army officer... hilarity ensues
by pr_capone inwoman poses as army officer.
from correspondents in london.
april 22, 2004. .
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Hi PRcapone
Saw the flag. Are you living in PR now? Are you a former JW? Just curious!!
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Marrying a non-believer?
by sparky79 ini am currently dating a jehovas-witness, and have been for a while.
we have talked about marriage, but a lot of what i hear and read is that for her to marry a non-believer is frowned upon by others in the religion.
i am a non-believer of any religion.
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prgirl79
Hi Sparky79,
I have been in a very similar situation, and i think it depends if she really believes in it. If she does then you should run. I was with a jw who never moved on and still believes in the "truth" If she does then most likely your relationship will fail and you will be left with a lot of heartache and lost time. I hear stories of jw and non jw and i don't think a lot of them work. I wish i saved myself from this cult and especially 5 years of heartache. I guess everything is a learning experience. If she puts you first then it could work, but if she believes then she won't. JW's put the "truth" organization first. If she truly drifts and leaves then it can work, but if she feels it is because of you that she is suffering losing her family etc then you will suffer. I think for some people it can work BUT ONLY if the person is not committed to JW's, and has TRULY moved on. It is easier to leave now instead of having to wait and see, and try to figure it out. Also it is easier to leave then work on it. It can be draining trying to be with someone who is a JW. In the long run it can be draining. You can't change them unless they are ready.
Best of LUCK!!!
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Court grants divorce to husband of JW in Korea, makes her pay !!
by Gopher init's about time.
he even got the boy!
good for him.. http://www.yonhapnews.co.kr/engnews/20040414/300100000020040414102150e6.html.
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it's about time!! A child has been saved from their cluthes and hopefully will have a chance to have a normal childhood.
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witness/non-witness romance- how'd yours fare? Check in!
by detective ini'm just doing this as an easy reference point for our new board members who came here seeking advice on their witness/non-witness romantic relationships.
questions for board members: .
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Detective,
I totally agree with you I would recommend a non JW dating a JW to consider not being involved. My ex was disfellowshipped but still leading a life of not moving on. It's frustrating and really drained me. I don't think most relationships like these last. I have unfortunately gone through this. I was also afraid he would go back then it would be worse. I tried everything thinking since he didn't go back he had doubts he could change, but the reality is with these people you can't.
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witness/non-witness romance- how'd yours fare? Check in!
by detective ini'm just doing this as an easy reference point for our new board members who came here seeking advice on their witness/non-witness romantic relationships.
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witness/non-witness romance- how'd yours fare? Check in!
by detective ini'm just doing this as an easy reference point for our new board members who came here seeking advice on their witness/non-witness romantic relationships.
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For those with family in the org...
by kibizzle in...have they justified the un involvement to you by saying that the wts was only getting information for their magazines, that they weren't "aiding" them in their political work, so the involvement was ok?.
imo, there is no justification for the un invovement.
how do you reason with your family when they defend the actions of the wts?
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I do agree they defend anything and call it a tool of satan. It is rare to find a Witness who hasn't heard or seen ingo against the watchtower, but as you know they are prevented from analyzing factual information. They are trained to cut themselves off from doubting the organization. They create a wall that you can only go so far. WHat first bothered me was their explanation/justification for shunning. It is love are you serious!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Unfortunately they are!!!
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witness/non-witness romance- how'd yours fare? Check in!
by detective ini'm just doing this as an easy reference point for our new board members who came here seeking advice on their witness/non-witness romantic relationships.
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I am new, and had a post on my failed relationship with an ex jw. We dated for 5 years, and I believe for the most part it doesn't work. It didn't work for me, as he was still under the JW mindset. It is also difficult when the person you love is never there for the holidays, birthdays, weddings funerals etc I think that in relationships like these the person does care for you, and might love you, but a lot of JW's and even ex Jw's are loyal to the Watchtower and feel the choice between Jehovah and you is tough. From what i have been though and seen you know that you are not the choice. In these situations there is no compromise. I was not willing to become a Jehovah's Witness how could I! He was not willing to move on after being disfellowshipped 7 years ago.