talk was about appreciating jehovah's provisions, something like that.... the po gave the talk.
apparently, after the last co visit, our congo got a letter from headquarters, informing us that our numbers are wayyyy down.
several inactive publishers, several more irregular, poor meeting attendance, and our hourly average is less than the national average (8.3 compared to 9.9).
I always remember eagerly anticipating those special needs talks, hoping to find out something unique or interesting about our cong. But they were always generic and boring, Maybe our cong. was just generic and boring!
I do love your worker analogy, though, Captainshmid. Right on.
i got my car from an elderly sis from my congo and it only had 52000mi and its a subaru gl-10 wagon '88 it looks just like this.
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My first purchased car was a 69 chevy nova. 4-door, of course, for field service. It was a great car. Unfortunately I sold it in a hurry because I was moving "where the need was great".
but what I really consider my first car was my mom's 59 caddy. How I loved that car! I'm still mad at her for selling it.
minimus' thread on tv shows has inspired me to ask all you guys (and gals) who you would prefer to "be with".... ginger or mary ann?.
jeanie or samantha?.
wilma or betty?.
gimme Mick. Of course!
minimus' thread on tv shows has inspired me to ask all you guys (and gals) who you would prefer to "be with".... ginger or mary ann?.
jeanie or samantha?.
wilma or betty?.
Kirk AND Spock both for me. *shivers at the thought*
The professor - although Mr. & Mrs. Howell present interesting possibilities. I might even go for Gilligan. And/or the Skipper. Geez, I'm sounding desperate here!
Barney and Fred - YUCK to both.
all in the family is one of the very best series, in my opinion.. when i see re-runs of the andy griffith show, i smile.
when i was a kid, i never really appreciated don knotts and the gang as much as i do now.. taxi was another favorite.
hill street blues was great.
New: Nip/Tuck
Boston Legal
Family Guy
Simpsons
Older: Star Trek (Original)
I Love Lucy/Lucy Show
Fawlty Towers
Saturday Night Live
Bewitched
Stingray (supermarionation!) - i actually like the Nick Mancuso one too.
Fireball XL5
gilligans Island
Twilight Zone
Outer Limits (but we could only watch this one when my parents were not at home)
mine is the verve /bitter sweet symphony...... what's yours?
icanchange, icanchange, icanchange....nonono!.
r..
It's hard to pick one only - music defines every aspect of my life. Three songs come to mind:
Stormy Monday - because things are still often pretty rocky and I never know what new troubles might be waiting tomorrow.
What a Wonderful World - because in spite of everything I still give thanks every day for my blessings and the wonderful wonderful world I enjoy (when I was a JW I disliked this song - go figure!)
Imagine - because I'm still dreaming and hoping that one day i might be able to make a difference in the lives of others.
in nigeria, a bus carrying mostly jehovah's witness women, collided with a large truck on a return trip from a wedding ceremony.
24 died; doctors at a hospital are trying to save 13 others.
see "nigeria: road accident claims 24 in abia.".
I'm crying too. What a horrible thing to happen. My heart goes out to their families. So sad.
well, tuesday was the day for my laser eye surgery.
to be honest - it really wasn't that bad at all!
for all those that commented on my other thread about being chicken - if it's something you are thinking about - i say do it!.
I'm still really scared to try it. I looked into radial keratotomy, and rejected the idea because of exactly what MsMcDucket says.
My vision is so bad they always told me I'd need glasses even with surgery, so it was interesting to read lenny's experience.
Thanks for the update...maybe I'll finally get brave one day. I sure hate my glasses. Always have.
i have told my new therapist so much about jwd, some of the insightful comments here, and how much it has helped me and other dubs that we both now wonder if there are other jw help sites.
i really don't know as this was the first and only one i ever found, and it was just what i needed.. he has pegged me well as impatient, and knows i was vocal about my wake-up from jw.
his advice right now is to back off totally on trying to help any others, and i have told him that many here have said no one will wake-up until they want to for some reason.
Heh. I was being polite with my post, obviously, given what others have said. And Magick does give good advice, doesn't she?
I still think that a good relationship with a therapist is most important, even if that therapist is clueless about JWs. I also still think that the therapist may not be giving advice as much as reflecting your ambivalence, Oompa. You may be the one who still thinks a part time relationship with meeting attendance will work.
I felt very sad reading the comment by wings about making fading a lifestyle. I again realized how lucky I am to finally be through it. There is an end in sight. Another side. It may be hard to see it now, but things do get better. But as so many others have indicated, it helps to make a firm decision on one side or another. If you want to resign yourself to staying as you are now, attending meetings but hating every minute because you want to keep your family together - that's a valid choice. But where you will be 10 years from now?
maybe it's like ripping the bandage off quickly.
i have told my new therapist so much about jwd, some of the insightful comments here, and how much it has helped me and other dubs that we both now wonder if there are other jw help sites.
i really don't know as this was the first and only one i ever found, and it was just what i needed.. he has pegged me well as impatient, and knows i was vocal about my wake-up from jw.
his advice right now is to back off totally on trying to help any others, and i have told him that many here have said no one will wake-up until they want to for some reason.
OOmpa, I'm not on the board often, so I don't know much about your situation. It surprises me that your therapist would be suggesting divorce (however subtle the suggestion). A good therapist will try to help you find your way and try to help you clarify your thinking, but you are the one who chooses the direction. That being said, perhaps you are giving off some strong signals that you feel divorce is inevitable and your therapist is simply reflecting your feelings back to you.
I hear what you are saying about not having much in common outside JW, and I'm sure you would face a difficult road if you try to keep going to meetings for the sake of your family. At the same time, divorce is extremely traumatic, particularly on the children. I'm twice divorced and would never remarry, but I do wish I could have found a different way to do it.
I think your therapist has given you good advice overall on slowing down and finding stability - its hard to make good decisions when too many things are competing in your mind.
I've found that taking a step back from things and asking a couple key questions has been very helpful: 1. will this matter 10 years from now? 2. how do I envision my future and where do I want my life to be 10 years from now? Another important thought I've come to embrace is that I cannot change the past so there is nothing to be gained by agonizing over past choices and past behaviours I regret.
Seeing a good therapist can make all the difference, so I'm glad you've found someone who you are comfortable working with and who understands a bit about your background as a JW. As we all know, that's an area many of us have a problem with.
