It seems that you are the one who needs to use the strategies.
Be very accomodating of your childs behaviours, likes, dislikes, ideas of fun, and don't be yelling at them (and certainly not at first contact times).
First contact times make an impact - e.g. get home from work and go off about untidiness or something - no way. Children enjoy nicety, and being taken care of. If parent A yells at initial contact times, even at parent B - child wishes to avoid parent A.
Be nice, but use that war strategy - during a nice happy time after prolonged contact, slyly let the child know that the wtbts are absolute nutjobs and have been known to lie and be nasty, but you let 'mom' go along with it because she'll get over it one day, and not be so scared of God, like you and your son.
As for someone sneaking your child away without your approval - briefly, calmly, subtly and slyly mention that you heard of some people involving police, kidnapping charges and adverse publicity.
Under no circumstances make a threat - either do something or not.
bang
Edited by - Bang on 1 August 2002 3:24:57