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  my mom is a psychodub

  by Tim Horton in

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  i told my mom that i tried to commit suicide and she asked me who was going to have a bible study with my son.

  there was no other word's from her other than that.

  not even a reaction.

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  BrendaCloutier

  Mrs. Tim. I think about everyone here can at least relate to what you're going through.

  Me? Been there, done that, finally threw away the t-shirt.

  I don't have children, but it was my cats that kept me from suicide - several times.

  Sometimes we have to walk away from extended family to regain/maintain our own sanity. This is actually true of "worldly" people, too. My spousal unit, Kevan, had to walk away from his family for 3 years. It was with the help of a family councellor that he was able to reconcile. Unfortunately, with JW's there's usually no reconciling.

  I'm estranged (strange?) from my own family - Adoptive parents and 3 sibs and their children whom I grew up with. Raised in the "truth".

  I went through my own grief over the losses. There is a grieving process involved. But it's ok.

  There has been some really good advice given here. Do find a therapist. Preferably one who has done work with cult or "toxic faith" issues. It will help a lot.

  Do take care of yourself. You're family can't have you until you have yourself back. Remember, Jesus said
  Love God
  Love your neighbor as
  You love YOURSELF

  Right now you come first.

  Hugs

  Brenda
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  You Know What Beanz Meanz..

  by Englishman in

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  bacon, egg, sausage, fried bread and toast.

  would you like beans or tomatoes with that?.

  i was curious that visiting americans find it strange that we should eat baked beans with our breakfast over here.. when else would a person eat beans?.

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  My sister doesn't like breakfast food for breakfast, but will make breakfast for dinner often. Instead she loves toast spread with leftover beans - refried, boston, whatever.

  Beans, beans
  The musical fruit
  The more you eat
  The more you toot!

  When making your own, add a little bit of Wakame (dried japanese seaweed) to your beans. It helps break down the protein so it is more digestable and reduces gas. It really works! About 1 tblsp crumbled. Doesn't taste in the beans, either.
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  hangovers

  by Lostreality in

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  simple.... got any home remidies?.

  ive heard that water and a multivitamin help.

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  BrendaCloutier

  When I drank (clean and sober now, had too much fun then I guess) my hangover remedy was

  Drink 2 glasses of water and take 2 tylenol before going to bed. (If you're lucky you'll get up to go pee instead of using the bed).

  When you come too after passing out and go pee in the lu, take 2 more tylenol, 1 Super B Complex (helps repair the braincells) and 2 more glasses of water.

  In the morning, 2 more tylenol, 1 more B, 2 more glasses of water, and 1-1/2 pots of coffee and a couple of doughnuts, or an Egg McMuffin. A hot shower, eye drops, and a supply of menthol cough drops to chew on all day so your breath doesn't give you away, although your body odor might.

  Please be a responsible drinker and don't drive, I did enough of that for all of us. Thank you!

  Bren
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  Name a Person That You'd Love To See On This Board

  by minimus in

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  i'd love to see ray franz come on this board.

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  BrendaCloutier

  Several Peeps, actually:

  My step-brother Craig "Feezer" Cl****** of the Boring, OR area. He's always treated me poorly, or ignored me, even when I was supposedly in good standing.

  Shelly Schafer (Rena C** married name) of somewhere in E Portland. She is a girl I grew up with and when our congregations split, sorrily our friendship died. I spoke with her about 8 years ago. She wanted to see me, but had to talk with her husband and mother to make sure it's ok.... she was 39 then!

  My nephew Nathan V******** from one of the NE PTLD congregations. I grew up with him and love him dearly. I also believe he is gay, and born that way. But no way he can come out, if he is even aware of his tendencies.

  God bless them all.

  Hugs

  Brenda
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  Who Does Jehovah Resemble?

  by Englishman in

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  as a small boy, i pictured jehovah as resembling finlay currie, the kindly old boy who played roles in solomon & sheba and the 10 commandments.. .

  later on, probably thanks to paul hogans influence, i started to picture jehovah as resembling charlton heston.. .

  i still picture him as a bearded gentleman, wearing a dressing gown and sandals, surrounded by billowing clouds.. then again if i think of the creator, or lord, he doesn't seem to be the same entity as jehovah.. strange, isn't it?.

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  Vain imaginings all!

  The question is "Who does Jehovah resemble?" GOD does not resemble anyONE, but everyone and everything, because it is all an extension of (He, She, It, They).

  The Jehovah I grew up "worshiping" is a vain, ego-centric, unloving, false god IMHO. Hence my depiction of him as Saddam. Saddam is in the process of meeting his end, and I think Jehovah of the JW's will eventually meet "his".

  2 Corn.11:14 " And no wonder, for Satan himself masquerades as an angel of light. 15 It is not surprising, then, if his servants masquerade as servants of righteousness. Their end will be what their actions deserve."

  Great quote, UndantedDanny. Part of my point. Interesting that it came from Paul... (I don't like much of Paul's attitudes).

  Hugs, y'all

  Bren
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  Get Your Holy Ass Off My Sandwich

  by dorothy in

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  i went to check out the special assembly day this weekend.

  got there a hour and a half late but made it none-the-less.

  anyway, when the lunch break started i took my daughter to go for a pee before we ate and when i came back some woman was sitting on my seat, right on top of my lunch bag!

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  BrendaCloutier

  Since your sandwich was from the corner store, she was probably saving you from Ecoli, or Salmanila - a blessing in a big arse. You should have thanked her for your salvation! (LMAO)

  Hugs

  Bren
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  What the Hell??????

  by dorothy in

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  someone is erasing all my posts and i don't like it!.

  (foot stomp)

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  BrendaCloutier

  I liked the foot stomp.
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  Just had to have my cat put down! :(

  by bull01lay in

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  i had to have my 7 year old persian puddy.

  kashmir, put down on sunday.. poor thing was crying all the time and would hardly move, so i took him to the emergency vet.

  he had a huge tumour blocking his intestines.

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  BrendaCloutier

  {{{{{ Bull }}}}}

  I am so sorry for your loss. It is as loosing a family member. I've been through similar. You did the right thing. Thank you.

  Hugs and purrs

  Brenda
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  Who Does Jehovah Resemble?

  by Englishman in

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  as a small boy, i pictured jehovah as resembling finlay currie, the kindly old boy who played roles in solomon & sheba and the 10 commandments.. .

  later on, probably thanks to paul hogans influence, i started to picture jehovah as resembling charlton heston.. .

  i still picture him as a bearded gentleman, wearing a dressing gown and sandals, surrounded by billowing clouds.. then again if i think of the creator, or lord, he doesn't seem to be the same entity as jehovah.. strange, isn't it?.

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  BrendaCloutier

  Saddam Hussein with longer white hair and beard.

  Not a god of love, but of intollerance, selfishness, and "my way or hell!".

  Not my god at all.

  Bren
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  LYING TO YOURSELF!

  by Terry in

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  i truly hope there are people "out there" somewhere who do not lie to themselves.. but, i suspect everybody does.. we might lie to ourselves about our weight, our looks, our prospects--anything--it seems to be "only human" to do so.. what do you lie to yourself about?

  do you know why you do?

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  I have been a successful liar in the past, but it was only when I forced myself to actually believe them. I won a lawsuit in one instance, where I backed it up with phony documentation.

  I have lied when the person I'm telling the truth to won't believe what I tell them (ex-husband on why I was leaving) so I told him the lies he wanted to hear. Then I told him the truth again, but he prefered to believe the lies. 7 years later, and he still prefers to believe the lies. For him it's easier than the truth.

  Today my lies are usually those of omission... don't ask, don't tell.

  I know I'm fat. I know I don't look good, nor dress well anymore. I have my reasons (which are not excuses).

  Oh, yeah, excuses are lies, usually as much to one's self as to the person they are telling them to.

  However, I really do my best to be on the up-and-up, because lies become tangled webs. I also will not tolerate anyone lying to me, and will call them on it, even my spousal unit, Kevan.

  Hugs

  Bren