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  feelings of hopelessness for wife and I. Any video or book recommendations

  by PaNiCAtTaCk in

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  ive read coc and isocf and they destroyed my faith in the society and faith in man.

  ive officially gone inactive in the last 2 months.

  ive had several email conversations with ray franz that have also made me more convinced that i could never be an active jw again.

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  joanne_

  Hi Panic....dont despair, it will all shake out....just ride it out and dont worry. you will find that time heals, and you will find that its not so bad 'in the world'. dont try and rush yourself or your wife. and be there for your wife, love her and support her as she goes through all the feelings she goes through. and one thing i remembered for myself through all this, is that God is a God of love...he knows us and understands us better than any man or society on earth....and he will always be with you no matter what...just tell him you love him but you cannot belong to a society that does the things it does...be honest with God. and you will find the peace you are looking for...

  wishing you all the best...

  joanne
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  What can you do to protect your family from the elders?

  by Dragonlady76 in

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  i have a question i hope someone can answer for me.. my folks are sick and elderly dubs and i worry the borg will hasten their death.

  they have those ridiculous blood card with an advanced directives pre-printed on them.

  they also have a person from the cong designated as their surrogate?

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  joanne_

  hi dragonlady, I dont know what the real law is about all this, but i do know of one instance where an older brother was in a car accident, had his blood cards, and the two brothers came to stand up for him, but, when his own sons came along and said no bloody way...the brothers backed off...it was like the family had more right than the blood cards did. or maybe it depends...the brothers may have not wanted to really interveen if the family members were adament about the whole thing. but anyways, the brother did die, too many injuries. but at least his sons were left alone and not pressured to do the wts's will. i dont know, but all i do know, is leave the family alone when they are going through this, no one but family has the right to make decisions for the person at a time like that.

  joanne
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  Did it ever bother you that Watchtower never did charitible works?

  by AK - Jeff in

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  i mean, for forty years believing the witness lie it always made me wonder.. judas was the keeper of the money box - and there are statements that indicated that the apostles thought that wasting money that could be used to aid the poor was sinful - so indications are that the earliest christians were doing charitible works.

  of course there are many scriptural passages that encourage that activity among believers.

  today all the organization ever does is pay lip service to charity.

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  oh man o man, did this ever bother me. i was a single mom on welfare with 4 boys and it was wrong to take food from the salvation army....but in our community, it was the only food bank. soooo what was i to do....so i did take and i felt very guilty for doing so. but then again, some bros and sisters shopped at the sally anne, while others would not. and i must say that a couple of times i did get help, but when you are really broke, its an ongoing thing of not been able to buy enough food....so its a struggle every month to make ends meet. and i just hated getting help from the congregation book study like that. and what use to make me really mad was how one older sister bragged on how much food was in her freezer...she just did not know what to do with it....that really pissed me off...she knew my situation and the situation of the other sister that was with us....did she offer to help out and share...nooooo.

  I always thought that there should have been a food pantry in the kingdom hall....but it never was done...

  ohhh and one time, i did get food from the bros and sisters and some were really good, fresh meat, treats for the kids, but some donated stale out of date stuff...

  I guess what i am trying to say is that they should be more community minded and not lay on the guilt to bros and sisters when they do have to reach out for help.

  anyways thats my 2 cents worth to the discussion

  joanne
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  Are you a contradiction of yourself?

  by IP_SEC in

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  i was having lunch with my best buddy once.

  he was a workmate that i shared an office with and we became very close.

  in fact i credit him a lot for helping me to see the world from a different perspective which led to my taking a closer look at the dubs.

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  just like the song from chris kristofferson...."I am a walking contrictidiction, partly truth and partly fiction...etc." ...anyways...i feel like that all the time...i am a work in progress...

  joannne
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  What do you feel when you see groups of Jehovah's Witnesses on the street?

  by nicolaou in

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  regret, anger frustration?

  how about sadness, sorrow, sympathy, understanding, even yearning!.

  it can be quite confusing at times.

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  this is so funny that you ask...when i see a group of witnesses, i feel soooo envious, because of the way they are dressed and conduct themselves....then i think of all the dysfunction and unhappiness and phoniness...then i am okay....LOL...at least I can be real in my life and not put up a front on trying to be happy

  joannne
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  Strangest thing you were called on the carpet for.

  by Icansaylucky in

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  i would like to hear some of the strangest or most ridiculous thing you got in trouble with the elders for.

  here is mine.. back in the early 70's i was married at the age of 18, typical witness thing to do.

  my husband who was 6 years older than i ruled me like a overly strict father.

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  joanne_

  hi kwi....i know exactly how you feel....i felt near the end that i just didnt quite fit into the puzzle...you know that piece that does not quite fit...looks like it does...but just does not fit...and basically thats how it is and thats all there is to it. simple...i still love god and jesus, always will and nobody can tell me otherwise.

  so take care

  joanne
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  14 YEAR OLD JW GIRL ORDERED BACK TO BRITISH COLUMBIA

  by SHUNNED FATHER in

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  i was interviewed on ctv national news and it was aired tuesday night and wednesday morning.. there are a few video clips .

  lawrence the web ctv.ca .

  home.

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  this is such a tragic case.....gary my heart goes out to you. you explained so clearly exactly what happens to the jw family when they do not do right 'in the eyes of god' according to them. it is so pointless for this doctrine to be in place. God is a God of love, and I cannot understand the thinking that would make him (god) want to give up our life....they forget...'life is precious'....cherish it, fight for it...God will be with you...etc...Gary I am so sorry that you lost your wife...but just remember, you and your wife did what you thought was right at the time...and with the knowledge that you knew at the time. I pray that everything will turn out ok for you and that you have peace in your life.

  Remember, we only do what we know, and when we know more, we do more..and we do better ..

  joanne
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  Cyber Relationships / Cyber Sex

  by Lehaa in

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  was wondering what everybodies ideas were on cyber relationships and cyber sex.. are they safe, when is the right time to meet face to face and do they work.. have been having a close friendship with another poster on this board for a while, and was looking for input.

  if he wishes to identify himself that's fine with me.. i know that a few marriages have occured from people meeting on this baord and was seeking their input too..

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  joanne_

  hi there lehaa, i met the fellow i am dating online at lavalife.com. we have taken it really slow. the one thing that clinched it for me, so that i wanted to meet him, was the web cam. he just came across as a really decent nice guy that way. anyways, you get a feel for someone if you talk quite a bit with them. anyways we are dating, and both of us do not want to rush into living together or marriage at this point. we just enjoy each others company....and btw..that is the same site my brother met his wife...and lots of people at work apparently have met their husbands and boyfriends/girlfriends on line too. you just have to be careful as in any other way.

  hope this helps, just follow your gut feeling

  joanne
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  i am back!!!

  by joanne_ in

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  hi all, nobody here probably knows me here, but i have been reading the posts everyday for almost a year.

  i was registered, and then one day i could not log back in....but i have finally figured it out..... cheers to all.

  talk with you soon.

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  joanne_

  thanks everyone...its kind of funny...i feel like i know you all..but you dont know me...LOL...ah well soon i will reply to some posts..

  'better to be out, than in'

  joanne
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  i am back!!!

  by joanne_ in

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  hi all, nobody here probably knows me here, but i have been reading the posts everyday for almost a year.

  i was registered, and then one day i could not log back in....but i have finally figured it out..... cheers to all.

  talk with you soon.

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  joanne_

  hi all, nobody here probably knows me here, but i have been reading the posts everyday for almost a year. i was registered, and then one day i could not log back in....but i have finally figured it out....

  cheers to all

  talk with you soon

  joanne