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  ??? what would you change ???

  by zev in

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  if you had the power, and ability to change one thing in your life, be it a major life changing thing, or a small but significant thing, tell me what and how you would do it, and how it actually was, and how it would be different after the change.

  please don't include jw'ism as that's something we would all want to change

  if you tell me yours, i'll tell you mine

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  bad_associashun

  That's an easy one. It's a major.

  What a difference it would have made in everything we need to learn in life: how to make good decisions, handle relationships, financial management, find & keep a good job, buy a car or home, how to keep from learning all your lessons the 'hard way' and possibly save yourself grief & guilt over screwing up so many times along the way.

  I'd love to have found my mother. Or even my father. Foster homes & orphange upbringing are certainly no replacement for the true guidance & direction, not to mention the love, loyalty & attachment, one gets from a real family.

  When the one person who is to love you & care for you from the beginning does not, your entire life lacks direction. Adding to it, the JWs will never know what pain & grief they cause by their shunning tactics.
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  Confusion / A Thorny Thought

  by Xandria in

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  a thorny thought.

  growing up in the jw religion (if you can call it that) was soo confusing.

  the terror tactics have left scars on my sisters, brother and myself.

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  bad_associashun

  ahhh Xandria,

  you are not reading your magazines! The elders are no longer 'imperfect vessels of Jehovah's judgement'. They are royalty- see Aug 1 WT.

  perfectionseeker- you brought back to my mind the times a brother had to find someone's kid to cart along with us in service because we were the only 2 out that afternoon, and he didn't want things to 'look bad' or 'stumble anyone'- Funny, I always wanted to respond to any accusations, "We were out serving Jehovah- what exactly were YOU thinking??"
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  My Life

  by Paradiselost in

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  my experiences, i'm sure, are not unique among the posters of this forum.

  i am 19 years old and was born into the religion.

  my family although devout, avid witnesses are on the liberal side.

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  bad_associashun

  ParadiseLost,

  good advice stated here for you- if df'd, your life will become a living hell- in every sense of the word- not to mention the mental anguish & destruction of self-esteem.

  all the best in re-focusing your energies into a new life for yourself. You have so much of it ahead.

  health & happiness :]
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  Deprogramming

  by Perfection Seeker in

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  i am new on here- already posted one thing about life after leaving- got great responses.

  as you can see by my name "perfection seeker" i was a witness.

  i am now leaving, and not a perfection seeker :-) does anyone have information on exit counseling or deprogramming?

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  bad_associashun

  double edge,

  LOTS of helpful, thought-provoking statements in those threads- big thanks to you!
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  How do YOU deal with it??

  by bad_associashun in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  hello all- recently joined, had some probs getting logged in, but here at last.... anyway, the question is: for those that can relate, when your heart feels heavy from the hurt, pain, regret, sorrow, bitterness, anger... and the lost years, stolen time, forsaken friends, broken relationships, wasted energies, abandonment, and lost love weighs on you --> caused by wt org.

  stress.... how do you get past it?

  what heals you, brings you relief, rescues you from total worthless feelings of inadequacy, comforts your wounds, keeps you from jumping on the train tracks?.

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  bad_associashun

  'control of your life'

  'power of choice'

  'freedom to think'

  thanks obiwan- phrases I've not heard or given much thought to in a long time.

  It seems many of you have been successful at 'moving on' and making a good life for yourselves- and the part about "making friends, instead of having them made for you"-I like that a lot.

  (O) <--- hugs to all responders
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  RUSH fans?!

  by bad_associashun in

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  coming here in concert sept 25- southern cali.

  anyone in the area going?.

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  bad_associashun

  Ummm... perhaps I should have been a bit more specific.

  The 'Closer to the Heart', 'Tom Sawyer', '2112', 'Xanadu', 'Freewill' RUSH.
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  RUSH fans?!

  by bad_associashun in

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  coming here in concert sept 25- southern cali.

  anyone in the area going?.

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  bad_associashun

  Coming here in concert Sept 25- southern cali

  Anyone in the area going?
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  Memorial attendance

  by QUANTUM in

  1. watchtower
  2. child-abuse

  i have worked for and with a jw for over twenty years.

  for the last three years he has not attended church in any way.......that is except one.......the yearly memorial meeting.

  prior to this inactivity he was a staunch supporter in every way a witness is expected to be.

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  bad_associashun

  Remember too, the pioneers, etc... are working weeks in advance with handbills waving desperately grabbing their Bible Studies, mag takers, book placements- virtually, any & all who have ever come in contact with them- kids & other available family members in tow- to the Memorial, in attempt to 'up the numbers'.

  This is strongly suggested in the km weeks in advance each year, along with bringing inactive ones.
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  How do YOU deal with it??

  by bad_associashun in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  hello all- recently joined, had some probs getting logged in, but here at last.... anyway, the question is: for those that can relate, when your heart feels heavy from the hurt, pain, regret, sorrow, bitterness, anger... and the lost years, stolen time, forsaken friends, broken relationships, wasted energies, abandonment, and lost love weighs on you --> caused by wt org.

  stress.... how do you get past it?

  what heals you, brings you relief, rescues you from total worthless feelings of inadequacy, comforts your wounds, keeps you from jumping on the train tracks?.

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  bad_associashun

  I'm with ya' Perfection, and hear ya' loud & clear.

  Yes, the scriptures DO say the angels rejoice over one sinner that repents, and Jesus taught loving forgiveness in his illustration of the lost or prodigal son- however the WTS somehow receive a different message, no doubt thru their 'inspired royal priesthood of elders'.

  I have been out-ed twice. Upon return, I was not expecting music with dancing, nor was I expecting the sandals, the ring or the robe- certainly not the fatted young bull. In fact, what I DID get was, much like you, a cold response from those 'standing back' to see how I would prove myself- only one sister would go in the ministry with me.

  Fooey on 'em. One day, when I get over the mental distress this roller coaster of religion has brought me, I will throw my own party.

  thought for the day: I wonder if anyone has ever sued the WTS for mental anguish, slander, depression, defamation of character...hmmm, interesting thought
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  Pro-JW article in the Boston Globe! write 'em!

  by detective in

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  well, sadly i missed catching this article when it ran this past sunday (june 23).

  that means that i can't link to the article online so that people here can get a look at it.

  i've got a hard copy but it doesn't seem likely that i'll be able to scan it.. if i have time, i'll try to put some highlights out there for you folks to consider.. here's the lead-in paragraphs:.

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  bad_associashun

  thank you detective- my letters are on the way already