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  Today is my birthday

  by TR in

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  anyone want to give me cyber hugs and kisses?.

  tr.

  "yk is his name, false prophecy is his game"

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  Have a great B Day
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  A little story for you guys, I'm a little hormonal

  by closer2fine in

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  we are sitting at lunch when my friend casually mentions that she and her husband are thinking of "starting a family".

  "we're taking a survey," she says, half-joking.

  "do you think i should have a baby?

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  Closer loved your story on motherhood, brought tears to my eyes, how touching and so true. I being unable now to have no more children, reflected back to when mine where young, the first of all things, walking, talking,smiling, etc. I still remember and I cry sometimes because for me that will never happen again, and yet even though mine are 27yrs and 23yrs, I Still remember those days as if they were yesterday, and feel an emptyness within of not starting all over again and having another baby. I guess that's why we get grandchildren,then we can kind of start all over again. But with grandchildren there is no 2a.m. feedings. You just love them for any time that you see them, I call that good quality time for us both.
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  How to Get Rid of Witnesses

  by gilwarrior in

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  if you want to stop witnesses from coming to your door, here are some questions that will make them uncomfortable:.

  1) if your child got into an accident, would you rather let your child die then accept a blood transfusion?.

  2) (if the person has been a witness for than 26 years.

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  This is some really good ideas to ask when they land at your door, sometimes it's hard to know what to say, fortunately they haven't come aknockig at my door. If they do i surely will keep these statements in mind, especially about harbouring child molesters, which I had no idea that this happened.Thanxs for sharing this message.
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  Elder called tonight.......

  by LB in

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  got a message on the answering machine.

  our old po (former best friend) let us know that the traveling overseer is visiting next week.

  told us there will be some fantastic information.

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  It took me 4 years to be able to put up any exterior christmas decorations on the house,but hubby said why was I worried, guilty feeling I guess, or scared some JW may drive by and see it and surely gossip about me, gossip was the going thing in my ex cong. finally I decided to hell with it and I haven't turned back since. I do what makes me feel good and don't worry about what other people think.
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  I'm another Newbie

  by MyMy in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  hey peeps, how are you?.

  the name is mark, i've been hanging around here from time to time.

  i read about the elders meeting with officer danni.s.

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  bigfloppydog

  Hi Mark, welcome, that was a very interesting story.Shows how things always get covered up. Hope you stick around. I't feels good to be free of all that sh-t, hope you find freedom also.The best to you.
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  WHO SHUNS YOU IN YOUR JEHOVAH WITNESS FAMILY?

  by BERNARD in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  most people are under the impression that the watchtower.

  don't break up families, well people lets give them a. few examples.

  since i left the jehovah witnesses my mother .

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  bigfloppydog

  Mother - not a jw
  sister - is jw
  brother - inlaw - is jw
  all from my ex cong.
  shit happens - they loose out
  Lets not forget other relatives aunts, uncles, and all those who talk about you behind your back,yet gossip is considered a bad thing.
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  Can you be Df'ed without a JC?

  by BritBoy in

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  2. friends

  as most of you know, i quietly left the borg and moved countries.

  recently i heard from an ex jw back in my former country of residence that she had heard i had been df'ed and it was announced at a meeting... can they do this?

  if it is true that is!

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  I was not df, but at the time I decided to leave (on my own) I was so depressed the way things were going in my life, regarding being in the org. and the awful way some people treated others I decided I wanted out. I wrote a letter, left it at the door of one of the elders, because I knew he was at the KH that day. Bang it wasn't to long before I got the phone call, they, him and another bro. cause there had to be two come. They wanted to meet with me, because they knew I had intended to leave, well stupid me being the submissive one had them come to my home, were I might add my hubby who is not a jw was also present. I told them again I intended to leave, they tried to talk me out of doing that, I was so upset, crying constantly, finally I stood my ground and said I was not returning, they said they felt bad that I decided to leave. They said they realized I was not well, and that maybe when I felt better I would return. I just wanted to get OUT I was not sick or crazy, just wanted OUT. The job was done, and I assumed from then on the announcement was made at the KH that I no longer wished to be a JW.If If it was now that this happened I would not even let them come to my home to upset me more, I would have said don't bother coming and left it at that. Thank God I am FREE to make my own decisions in life and not abide by what they say.
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  when leaving the Borg....

  by lydia in

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  i know how very hard it is for us to leave a friend.. or let go of a loved one through death.

  many here have been raised in the truff..... while others have only been either associated or were in a breif time.... so i have a question.. .

  how long were you out before you were able to make a "worldly" friend??.

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  as a young child, only grandparents where in org. they were very loving and kind. Mom remarried we where teenagers, never really where involved at that time. I married, decided to join org. was in for a long time, hubby and kids where not, kids went because I did, when they reached certain age I let them decide what they wanted to do, never forced it on them. As time went on, things starterd to happen that eventually made me decide to leave. When I did it was very upsetting for a long time, the first time I was shunned I was devastated. I still had not found a lot of friends, but had my hubby and kids, they where very supportive. You go through alot of feelings when you leave some being saddness, guilt, anger, when I became strong enough and a little more guilt-free, the shunning did not bother so much. Not until I was shunned by my best friend, that really bothered me. Then after a few years, I learned my friend left the org. and I tried to find her, for a whole month I tried. Then one day I believe she was talking to my daughter, and some how we got hooked-up again. Our first time we re-met each other was full of tears and happiness, and alot of questions. Now we both have all sorts of friends. I think it softened the blow for her leaving the org. because I left first, so by the time she left, I had already made a few friends and was able to introduce her to a whole knew circle of people. We are still friends, and she is very happy now, and so am I. Having people shun you can be very difficult at first but you need to hand in there till your life changes a little and you meet knew ones. It takes time but it will happen, now when I get shunned at least my head is held high, not dragging on ground because of guilt.
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  Another Silentlamb

  by LittleToe in

  1. watchtower
  2. scandals

  the following article was printed in todays "daily record", for those interested:.

  http://www.dailyrecord.co.uk/shtml/news/p13s3.shtml

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  bigfloppydog

  what a sad and disturbing story of child abuse, to much of that goes on in the world, some jw would say this is only something that happens with so called worldly people, just shows the cover-up in these situations, it's enough to make anybody sick, obviously some in cong. think they can get away with such acts, they discust me i would think being taught God's laws, that this would not even have happened. There are really some sick-minded people out there.
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  X-JW FEMALE CIVILITY=X-JW FEMALE SUBJECTION?

  by GoldDustWoman in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  greetings gentle posters,.

  i have been inspired to write this by the following quotes from various posters on a thread started by amnesian titled the ex-[elders] files: eyes wide shut.. the following was quoted by amnesian from various responses to a thread started by amazing titled: ex-jw women, your side.. thanks for asking!...thank you amazing for asking that question...just my 2 cents.

  thanks for letting me share...amazing, this is a great topic!...amazing, great idea...thanks for starting this thread amazing...what an excellent topic.

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  bigfloppydog

  Really enjoyed the posting of this topic especially about the submission part, so many women are under alot of submission even from husbands who are elders. A family relative of mine is and such a change in her personality. I'ts sad to see her changed so much it's almost like she has lost a part of who she used to be instead of fun-loving and happy she has become sad looking and quiet. I't breaks my heart to see this happen, and I'm glad I'm no longer in that position.Great conversation.Some not all husbands who are elders, take it way to seriously and use scriptures as the one on submission way to seriously and demand their wives respect. I wonder if that is true love for ones weaker vessel,so to speak.