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  Sad News Orangefatcat's husband died this morning.

  by orangefatcat in

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  2. friends

  this is one of the sadest days in my life, my beloved husband marco passed away this morning at 5:15 am.. it has been a dreadful day.

  but my dear friend was with most of the day while we went togerther to make funeral arrangements.. that was really hard on me.

  i have done nothing but cry and cry all day, i finally fell asleep a few hours ago while my friend diane was here and she let me sleep.

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  bikerchic

  ((((((((((OFC)))))))))

  Thinking of you and sending positive vibes your way.
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  Fight with ex-Wife

  by thepackage in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i just got off the phone with my ex-wife (we where talking about the kids) and out of the blue she starts tellnig me how much everybody at teh kh is supportive of her (she files for divorce after i decided not to go to meetnigs any more.

  n i did not cheat on her).

  any ways, she star5ts naming names of all the people that "love" her and how she is a better dub now than ever.

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  Hey I don't mean to sound harsh or rude I also hate two-faced people and gossip. I've learned to simply say "none of my business" and it's so freeing you don't have all that negative garbage filling up space in your head. I am truly sorry for your troubles and I hope things calm down for you soon.

  krgds
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  Fight with ex-Wife

  by thepackage in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i just got off the phone with my ex-wife (we where talking about the kids) and out of the blue she starts tellnig me how much everybody at teh kh is supportive of her (she files for divorce after i decided not to go to meetnigs any more.

  n i did not cheat on her).

  any ways, she star5ts naming names of all the people that "love" her and how she is a better dub now than ever.

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  Hey sorry you are going through such a tough time divorce is no picnic!

  I hate the fact that all these JW calll me and talk sh*t about my wife (which by the way I agrre with), then when she is at the meeting, they hug and give her the "how are you holding up" line.

  Seriously it begins and ends with you, if you don't listen to it or contribute to it, it stops. Hang up the phone it's all crap and drama and who needs it?

  Good luck with the whole mess.
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  growing emotionally :)

  by Missanna in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  i've been thinking a lot lately about how much i've changed over the last year.

  i've only been out of the borg for a year but i've changed so much.

  my father called me the other day and told me that he found out that my husband has been going on these xjw boards and wanted to know how i felt about it.

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  Keep the conversation lively and away from touchy subjects. What you did here was perfect and you can do this face to face:

  He wanted to know why i didn't believe that it was the truth and surprizingly i didn't go off on a rampage but calmly told him that it was something i didn't want to discuss with him at this point. that was something i tried in the past but failed miserably. lol but i'm very proud of myself.

  You don't have to discuss things with them, period. Remember the feeling you got after you spoke to your Father how proud you were of yourself, hang onto that feeling if anything uncomfortable comes up, keep the feeling then pause, think before you speak and you'll say the right thing.

  Also set a time limit in other words don't stay too long and don't drink alcoholic beverages it loosens the tongue! LOL Be prepared, rehearse in advance anything which you can imagine coming up in conversation and how you will answer or not answer! You have a long time between now and October to prepare.

  I hope it goes well it would be a shame to miss out on seeing your nephew grow up!
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  Are some of us still judgmental and think ourselves morally superior?

  by nvrgnbk in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  is a certain "uptightness" creeping into our community?.

  should we be scolding one another?.

  especially kids?

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  Guess I'll be the judge of that eh? Bwhahahaaaaaaaaaa!
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  growing emotionally :)

  by Missanna in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  i've been thinking a lot lately about how much i've changed over the last year.

  i've only been out of the borg for a year but i've changed so much.

  my father called me the other day and told me that he found out that my husband has been going on these xjw boards and wanted to know how i felt about it.

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  That's awesome! You should feel very proud of yourself for taking a stand for what you believe and not cowering or getting upset while doing it. True growth and it also has to be something your Father recognized in you as well even if he never says it to you.
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  Is anyone on?? I need someone to talk to its not really witness related

  by Mindyemt in

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  i just need someone to listen to me my depression is bad and got no one to talk to

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  bikerchic

  Hey girl you're among friends here, we're listening.
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  what to do? Grandson being beaten by JW father

  by slvrtrixter in

  1. watchtower
  2. child-abuse

  i am an inactive jw who has 3 sons left in the religon.

  my oldest son has been baptized for4 years and has recently married again.

  he gets his son every other weekend.

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  Can't you send Child Protective Services out to the house? Do whatever it takes even if it's camping out on the front lawn to help your Grandson. Call in the media, do whatever it takes to draw attention to the situation. An 8 year old is old enough to speak out if he is being harmed he will tell authorities.

  Okay my rant.....poor kid I hope you can do something Granny!

  Edited to add can you find out what congregation he's in and alert the Elders there to the situation? Maybe just maybe they will be of some help.
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  Am I being dumb?

  by bluebell in

  1. watchtower
  2. child-abuse

  i really and truly believe that my father did not abuse either of my two younger sisters, just me.

  my one sister was abused by my brother, which makes me think he was abused so as to act like that.. i left the jw's after finding he could get responsibilities again and because i realised that i would always be viewed as bad association no matter how hard i tried because i just didn't fit in.. i never wanted to take it any further than the congregation because i did not want to rip my family apart.. but if i had a child i would not let him alone with them.. can someone just abuse one victim (maybe two if my bro was abused as i think he was)?

  or do they always abuse more?.

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  bikerchic

  I really and truly believe that my father did not abuse either of my two younger sisters, just me. My one sister was abused by my brother, which makes me think he was abused so as to act like that.

  I left the JW's after finding he could get responsibilities again and because I realised that I would always be viewed as bad association no matter how hard I tried because I just didn't fit in.

  I never wanted to take it any further than the congregation because I did not want to rip my family apart.

  BUT if I had a child I would not let him alone with them.

  Can someone just abuse one victim (maybe two if my bro was abused as I think he was)? Or do they always abuse more?

  ((((bluebell))))

  Of course you are not dumb! Naive maybe but not dumb.

  If you really want to understand the mind of an abuser you have to do your research, plenty has been written about the subject and a lot of studies have been done. You'll have to draw your own conclusion.

  My concern is that the abuser gets away with the crime when he has silenced his victim. This is where your responsibility comes into play. You are correct beyond all doubt to NEVER leave a child alone with him, I would take it one step further and NEVER let him know I had a child to begin with.

  Oh back to the silence, you must speak out about it to your other family members if you've not already. Talk frankly with your sisters and forget about ripping your family apart his actions did that and if you don't speak up you will inevitably cause some other family members to become victims too. Like your future nieces and nephews, I for one could not live with that on my conscience. You won't be ripping your family apart you will be saving them from more harm.

  A lot for you to think about, but please don't keep silent. Draw from your inner strength and fight this evil, you are strong because you've survived this harmful act against yourself. Get professional help with it if you must but don't let him continue to harm others, he will it's his nature. You would become just like him if you ignore this and don't expose him, I know that sounds harsh but it's true the responsibility to correct the wrong belongs to the one who absolutely knows right from wrong and isn't afraid to fight evil.

  I wish you well hun I'm sorry you've had this experience in your life it truly sucks but you can and you will overcome it and if you know absolutely you played a part in saving other family members from harms way how wonderful would that make you feel?
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  Near Disaster

  by OUTLAW in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  ..i`m driving down the highway..and..theres a group of bikers having a group pee on the side of the road..they all seemed quite pleased with themselves..a vehicle coming in the opposite direction.drove into my lane while watching them and drove me off the road.....dam yur-a-pee`n bikers!

  !...outlaw

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  bikerchic

  Lousy biker! A really good biker can pee on the fly.......and he'll give those behind him a heads up so they don't get caught in the flow. Course us lady bikers have to go find a bush, darn.

  Um on the other hand OUTLAW I'm glad yer okay.