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hello to all, i was raised pretty much as a jw and became one of the super goodie two shoes type, you know......didnt even swear when i was alone.. im now disfellowshipped and since i followed the guideline of not having friends outside the organization i now find myself completely alone, my friends are all jw's and none of them can talk to me.
so now i feel lost....on another planet almost .
Michelle,
Welcome to the board. If you are anything like I was, you'll be quickly addicted to this board. It's a great place to learn and make friends. I've been here for over 4 years and have actually made tons of new friends, even met in person in my city. I also caught up with some friends of my parents from years ago. So pull up a chair and stick around. This board has a tons of amazing people!
Love,
Andi
i am trying to do the "fade" for the sake of my wife and family, but it is getting extremely difficult.
my wife's cong.
is even more nosy than most.
LOL@garybuss!!!
If you get cornered just answer fine, fine, enough about me tell me..... keep turning back to them. Most people love to talk about themselves.
Carla, this is my best advice too. If someone is asking too many questions, start asking about them.
does anyone find it difficult to express their emotions to their jw parents?
my father has never been a jw and i feel comfortable enough to tell him how much i love him without hesitation.
when it comes to my jw mum i feel like it is forced and then i feel resentful and then i feel guilty all at once.
I love my parents like I love no other people in my life. It's a different love though. It's very arms-length. That's for my own mental and emotional well-being. I know my parents have come a long way since I was DFed and they kicked me out of their house, but words are words...once they're out, they're out and there's no taking them back. Once my Dad said some of the things he said, he may as well have cut my heart out with a butter knife. The pain was excruciating and has taken many years and thousands of dollars of therapy to just begin healing.
My father and step-mom have re-entered my life this past summer. It's been very civil and cordial and absolutely no arguments about anything. I should be happy about this and a part of me is. But a part of me is still the pained little girl that can't grow up until the adult in me forgives them. It's a struggle. I vascillate between wanting my daddy's arms around me and wanting him to die and be out of my life forever. I've just started being nice to myself and understanding that all of these emotions are just part of the package of healing. If they aren't loving to me, then it's okay. They truly aren't capable of giving me what I need. Why do I keep wanting that from them??? So I learn to feed myself with the other people in my life. No, they aren't mom and dad. But they are what they are and I have what I have. There is no changing it, so why cry over spilt milk?
Feeling very linear today as I read back over this comment, which is a little strange for me.
yesterday i saw something i've never seen before.
a protestant church on the left side of the road has a sign saying it's their 50th anniversary.
there is a rc church right across the street.
JWs would like you to think that most churches out there do NOT get along and that there are major divisions between them. What I've found since I've been DFed is that most churches get along very well and do all they can to support each other. Of course there are exceptions as always. But most churches just want people to be good and go to church. Do they prefer you go to theirs? Of course! But at least go somewhere where you are getting "fed" spiritually.
The churches I've attend usually partner up with other churches (even not of their own denomination) when it comes to serving the community. Red Cross events, major disasters, etc. There really isn't the rivalry that JWs would like you to think.
richie's thread got me wondering what ever happened to the practice of chaperoning???
i mean really, was this just a regional thing where i grew up?
we had to have a chaperone always with the opposite gender even if we were old!
I grew up in Missouri and Hawaii. The chaperone thing was in full force when I was a teen. I remember a male friend (that I had no romantic interest in at all!) drove me and a girl friend home one time. I was SOOO scared that I would get in trouble for it since no adult was there. Dad wasn't happy, but at least there were three of us. I didn't get in trouble, but Dad made it very clear that it was NOT to happen again.
well, we were going about our business today as we usually do on a monday.
mrs kwin went to work, kids went to school, i stayed home and made apple sauce and beer.
2:30 comes along and it's time to pick up everyone and, oh yeah ... we have that appointment today.
We signed a confidentiality agreement.
Kwin, just something to think about: that confidentiality agreement that YOU signed, does not protect your privacy if she decides to do something with your information.
when i was younger i remember my jw best friend had a bible study who was malaysian i think and he passed on some superstitions.
i wonder if any of you have heard of them before.. if you have a very thin/short upper lip you will have a tendency to be thrifty and if very thin you will be mean.. if you can fit your pinkie/little finger in the dip in your ear lobe you will be very sensuous and extremely so if you can fit it neatly by breadth and up to the first bendy bit ( sorry is that called a knuckle) you will be highly sexualised.. and can you encircle your left wrist with the thumb and little finger of your right hand.
if so you will be lucky even when you make bad choices.. try them and see if there's any truth in it.
Joelbear, if you can lick your eyebrows with your tongue you need to switch teams!!
well, we were going about our business today as we usually do on a monday.
mrs kwin went to work, kids went to school, i stayed home and made apple sauce and beer.
2:30 comes along and it's time to pick up everyone and, oh yeah ... we have that appointment today.
In the US, the patient signs it, and it has to be witnessed.
The question is, did the RECEPTIONIST sign it? As an employee of a medical facility, that should be part of the regular hiring/orientation process. Even as an admin in a pharma company (where I had NO access to medical records of any kind) I was required to sign one.
Kwin, there is a Watchtower somewhere (Questions from Readers?) that basically says that loyalty to Jehovah must come before loyalty to a job regarding private matters. You may consider giving a copy of that article to the counselor if you are concerned about your privacy.
well, we were going about our business today as we usually do on a monday.
mrs kwin went to work, kids went to school, i stayed home and made apple sauce and beer.
2:30 comes along and it's time to pick up everyone and, oh yeah ... we have that appointment today.
Kwin,
So you'd think that as she's in her place of business that we'd get a break, but no. She attempts to ignore us, and doesn't even tell us that the person that we're waiting for isn't in the office dispite the fact that it's 3:25 and our appointment is 3:30.
I hate to think this would happen, but is it possible that as the receptionist she would tell the counselor that you cancelled? Or perhaps the counselor had to cancel due to an emergency and the receptionist was supposed to call you to tell you to reschedule? I would definitely bring it up when you see the counselor next time.
And as a sidenote: just realize that to JWs working in a medical type of environment, HIPAA means nothing when it comes to taking gossip to the elders or others at the KH. Just a reminder that your privacy may mean nothing to her.
Andi
as has been demonstrated on this forum, the only two positions regarding religion which are logically consistent are fundamentalism and unbelief (whether of the atheist or agnostic variety).
an in-between position, though some of us would like to hold it, is not logically persuasive.
yet, that is exactly the situation which is produced in mainline (or "liberal") seminaries today.
But the seminaries are supposed to be turning out a product - ordained ministers and priests.
Justin,
Just curious...what makes you think this? I have a few friends that have and are going to seminary for their spiritual education and edification - no plans to take it further in terms of a formal ministry.
Andi
