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  Help! I am having feelings of doubt.

  by cab1000 in

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  when jesus "selected" the faithful and discreet slave!.

  "faithful and discreet slave" and therefore that the society was not.

  the witnesses as "the faithful and discreet slave".. .

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  Thegoodgirl

  Cab,

  I just hate when they paint "this world" as going "downhill" and what horrors are in store for our children. First of all, the world is not going downhill. It's same old Sh*t, different day. Don't let them paint that picture and let you feel guilty about your kid's future. It's just silly.

  Also, don't so many religions use Jehovah's name? Especially the pentecostal ones and such?

  That's so funny about you scrambling about when the JW came to your back porch. Brings back memories of "Mom-proofing" my room in college when she came to visit. There would be always something I forgot. Put away the pictures of me and boyfriend, me drunk, holiday decorations, and short skirts, but forgot to put away the package of birth control pills! Oops.

  GG
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  Trying to get people to "support" pioneers!

  by LongHairGal in

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  this was one topic that used to make me furious!

  here the bible makes it perfectly clear that back then they supported their own ministry by working.

  there is also the scripture about "counting the cost" implying that one should not undertake any project without making an assessment as to whether or not they could do it.

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  Thegoodgirl

  Ah, my favorite subject.

  Doubtfully yours, not so fast. Though some help out the pioneers when they have to, it certainly isn't like the high life. My mom was the "single mom pioneer" and we got help, but not that much. Sure, my mom definetly should have gone back to school, or moved close to her parents, or worked full time, but instead she chose to pioneer. But people were certainly not shoving money in our pockets. I'm grateful for all the help they did give, though.

  It' is annoying though. I was talking about this on an earlier post. Do you continue supporting them when you aren't a JW anymore, but they are related to you? Anyone would help out a relative in need, but if that relative is Choosing to be in need...

  But anyway, it's complicated.
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  First time on here- DF'd almost 3 years ago

  by feelinglost in

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  i have toyed around with the idea of finding fellow df'd ones for about a year now.

  i recently got married, and of course it has made me look at how it feels like i gave up one life for another.

  the only member of my family who is a jw is my mother- and it kills me that we pretty much no longer have a relationship.

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  Thegoodgirl

  Welcome! My husband is non JW, which is good, but bad too. It helps so much to have people who understand our background.
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  So maybe I am occasionally bitter...

  by feelinglost in

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  the first blow came the first christmas after i was disfellowshipped.

  my boyfriend was gone with his family, so i had asked my mom if she wanted to spend the day together (like we used to do before i was df'd).

  watch a movie, make some food.

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  Thegoodgirl

  F.L.

  So good to hear your story. Your mom sounds like my mom. Alienating people, and then sad that she doesn't have people to talk to and count on. That's a tough situation for you. I would think, when the time comes, your mom will talk to the elders, and they will say it's okay to live with/rely on your daughter because you have no choice. Who knows, all the elders are different. And I'm glad for your dad that he has the joy that you arent' a JW anymore. Welcome to the board.
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  am i a prophet?

  by tsunami_rid3r in

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  ok im not crazy.

  but ive had dreams of getting into accidents in my truck 3 times(has happened 3 times).

  something bad like theft happening to this girl at work at night time(happened recently, she lost 500 bucks).

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  Thegoodgirl

  Haha, cute, Tsunami, "It's called Jehovahs Witnesses".

  I have so many vivid dreams. I agree, though that they just tell us about our psychological stressors. I also have noticed they help me imagine things they way I want them to turn out. Don't worry about it too much, maybe you're worried about those things in your life, so you dream about them at night.

  I have one dream that I started having as a teenage JW. It was when I was having doubts and I wanted to move off to college because I was just so bored studying and going out in service. I will dream that I am so bored and my life is so empty that I have nothing to dream about. Isn't that weird? I've had that dream so many times as a teen, and a few times recently. It's a horrible feeling.

  And recently I'm reading about how to treat high blood pressure and I dream that I have a patient and they have high blood pressure and I don't know what medicine to prescribe. It was like a real nightmare. Scary.
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  Multiple bombings in London

  by jula71 in

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  there has been a report of multiple bombings in london, 3 subway car and 3 double decker buses.

  we have a lot on the board with from england, i hope they all are safe.

  my thoughts are with them.

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  Thegoodgirl

  Oops, just catching up on all the postings from previously today. What I read so far, it seems like everyone's okay, but I haven't finished reading. Anyway, good to read the play by play of this morning. Thanks for sharing what's going on, and I hope you all feel safe and secure again soon.
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  Multiple bombings in London

  by jula71 in

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  there has been a report of multiple bombings in london, 3 subway car and 3 double decker buses.

  we have a lot on the board with from england, i hope they all are safe.

  my thoughts are with them.

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  Thegoodgirl

  Yes, you guys from England are the only people I know over there. Let us know how it is. You're in my thoughts as well, guys. Glad you're okay Paul, where is everyone else?
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  Being a JW mother, I really don't understand how these women do it.

  by Dragonlady76 in

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  2. experiences

  while reading through some threads, i sometimes wonder what my life would have been like if i had stayed a jw and had kids.

  i now have a 23 month old son, that's very active, i can not begin to imagine what torture it would be for both of us to attend meetings or go out in field service.

  i would be expected to keep him still the whole time without toys, snacks, books or any sort of distraction at all, except maybe the my book of bible stories.

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  Ah the memories. Mom wouldn't even let us look at the Bible Stories Book. If that's not the book that the speaker is discussing, then we had no business looking through it. We couldn't even play that game where you count the number of times the speaker says "Jehovah" or "Bible" and make a mark on your paper each time. We could only take good old fashioned notes. And even resting my head on mom's shoulder, she would wait about 5 seconds, then shrug her shoulder to get my head off so I would sit up and pay attention. She was a single mother of three girls, and she too would spend many meetings crying, either at the meeting or when she got home. Usually because the sisters wouldn't talk to her or because she felt she wasn't living up to Jehovah's standards. Anyway, we were those kids so well behaved, you would be scared (to whoever wrote that!) My non JW uncle told me that just last year. He said we were so well behaved, it was unnatural, and they wondered what was up.
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  I want to let you know....

  by RichieRich in

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  at least 2 or three times a week, i get a pm from someone that sounds similar to this:hello richie, .

  i just read your recnt post from the assembly.

  appears you've no concern about being located?

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  Thegoodgirl

  Richie,

  I've almost posted my photo for my avator, but I had to stop, I'm too scarred. It's so stupid, but good for you for being the brave one. Moving on with your life, it's nice to watch. And Florida is a great place for college!
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  FedUp

  by puppet in

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  2. friends

  thank you for letting me post this un-sent letter to my father.

  i am writing this to voice my opinion; this is not open for discussion.

  i find if upsetting that you feel its appropriate to invite my husband into your home and demean the religion he was brought up in, not only have you done that in your home but youve also done it in his home.

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  Thegoodgirl

  Hey Puppet, welcome. Not sure how your overall relationship with your parents is, but I would soften that one up if you don't want to cut them off. It's logical and to the point, but remember, JWs do not use logic!

  GG