Posts by Thegoodgirl

Well, from a really small town to a mid-sized city 4 hours away, if that counts. It was quite different for me, but such a GREAT change. I was so excited when I left, and loved my new life. Of course there were a few challenges, but nothing compared to the sad small town and sad situation that I was smart enough to leave.

Go for it, Cabin.

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EVERYONE...PLEASE JOIN ME IN WELCOMING OUR NEWEST MEMBER

by jaredg in

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welcome kimberb.....it was so great to rediscover you!

!

Thegoodgirl

KimberB,

I read your profile. So glad your mom grew out of that bad situation and did such a favor to you by moving far away from your controlling stepdad. Glad you are free to think for yourself. I've been out of JW for a while too, but somehow it's nice to talk to others who've had similar experiences. sometimes, it helps explain why we are the way we are.

Even though my mom left me in public school all 12 years, I still missed out on making friends and having a normal social life with activities besides door-to-door work. I can relate...

Congrats on starting college! It's never too late, I'm sure you'll meet plenty of other non-eighteen year olds at college with you.

TheGoodGirl

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HEY I HAVE SOME GREAT NEWS!

by jaredg in

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i have found one of my old jw friends from when i was a teenager.

i discovered her on myspace and wrote her message and it turns out that she is out of the religion and doing well.

this is the first time i have met one of my friends from my inner circle who has left the jw religion...i'm so excited!

Thegoodgirl

Jared, how awesome. Glad good things keep happening for you.

Welcome, KimberB! Where in FL?

GoodGirl

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What nice, interesting thing did you see today?

by Lady Lee in

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so often we are stuck in the negative part of life and see so much of the bad.

the news is full of it.

i look for the things that are nice.

Thegoodgirl

Today I was reading 40 year-old letters that my mom had written to her parents when she was in college. (Grandma just died, and we cleaned out her house--she'd saved everything.) It was amazing to see my mom's "young" thinking. Also, I noticed that she is so much like me. It was a side of her I had never really known. I'm so glad Grandma didn't throw out those letters.

(also it was mom's pre-JW days, so it was interesting to see that her life wasn't quite as bad as she'd made it out to be when she told us what it was like to be worldly.)

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What Do You Think About Yourself???

by minimus in

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do you like yourself?

is there a lot that you would want to change about yourself?

(personally, i think i'm alright).

Thegoodgirl

I think I have potential, but I am wasting lots and lots of time, and don't know why.

I think I have "amotivational syndrome" (but you're only supposed to get that after long-term pot-smoking, and that's just not me!)

I've got to get out of the house....

See ya'll.

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Dealing with guilt and your own self perception

by Satans little helper in

being a witness leads you to believe that if you are less than perfect then you are detached from god's love and are unworthy.

it's a very black and white thing - either you are getting through armagheddon and keep to all of the rules, or you are not keeping to all of the rules and are going to die.

personally i think that is one of the jw faith's greatest strengths and also it's greatest weakness - a strength in that it leaves adherents unable to question their beliefs lest they anger god enough to condemn them, and a weakness in that as soon as you discard one stone in the wall then you are forced to reject the whole structure as you feel damned anyway.. .

Thegoodgirl

I agree. I've often felt that coming to this site just makes me continue to dwell in the past. I have all the ingredients to move forward. It's great to have support once in a while, and to help others, but I think I should post less often so that I can move on.

Book sounds interesting, I'll keep an eye out for it.

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Would you change the way you left if you could?

by Gadget in

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if you were put in a similar position to when you left the jws, would you choose to leave in a particular way because of your experiences?

if you had nothing to loose from family etc, would you be tempted to leave with a bang, or to get some sort of revenge on those who shun you?

Thegoodgirl

I like the way I left, but I wish I would have done it a little bit earlier. It's hard to arrange the logistics of a fade, though.

And if I didn't have any family/friends in? I still would have done it quietly. I have nothing to gain by putting energy into a mindless cult.

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Diet, exercise, post inury -- any suggestions?

by Madame Quixote in

the week before i broke my foot, i resolved to join weight watchers and start exercising.

now, i'm still planning to do it, but have a great excuse not to bother with either one right now.

and in order to deal with anything, i have to go up and down my staircase to get outside!

Thegoodgirl

Wow, how frustrating. I have never had such a serious injury, but I did sprain (?-not officially diagnosed) my ankle in January. I was really planning to run my first marathon this year, but every single time I ran, even half a block, I was limping from the ankle pain the next day. A doctor I worked with told me that I was probably re-injuring it every time I ran. So I tried to be easy on it for last few months, and taking anti-inflammatories (Advil, naproxen) for the swelling that leads to pain.

Now it's less bothersome, though pain is still there. My goal now is to just walk 30 mins to one hour every day for the next week. After that, I'll see if I can add jogging. But just the walking has helped me to re-build the muscles so that I have more support, and can avoid re-injury.

A broken foot? Totally different story, but don't give up! Have you been prescribed physical therapy? You probably will be after the cast is removed. Tell them your concerns and weight loss goals. They'll love to be a part of that. ( I know I love helping people lose weight. It's one of the few medical conditions that can be totally reversed!)

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Stay up all night researching lymphocytosis

by MsMcDucket in

oh well, it was my night off.

so, i posted a new topic on here, and then started looking up my latest lab results.

i still have elevated lymphocytes and have developed neutropenia.

Thegoodgirl

Ms McDuckett,

Hope you get some clearer answers. Let us know what they say.

GG