Posts by Thegoodgirl

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See Ya Next Year!

by HadEnuf in

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(emotional music swelling in background) good-by hostas, roses, coneflowers and daisies.

farewell astilbe, vinca, hops, black-eyed susans.

adieu to sweet potato vines, ferns, day lilies and cat mint.

Yep I just spent the moring taking in the pots of geraniums, and saying farewell to the planted petunias and flowering vines and snapdragons. Then I took a walk in the big flakes of snow and gusty winds. Crank up the heat, and am putting away all the tank tops and sandals--"until next year".

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The Impact of this Discussion Board in your Present Life

by The wanderer in

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the impact of this discussion board in your present life from time to time that question comes into my heart .

and mind.

all of the information and research that .

Thegoodgirl

I've stopped posting for a while because this board was taking over my life, and I was sort of living in the past. I've not been a JW for 6 years, and not stepped in to a KH in just about as long. (faded, but still baptised). Anyway, I left the JWs before having access to internet, or these websites. I also never would have visited one of these sites as "The Good Girl" JW that I was.

I found the site 2 years after I had decided to leave on my own.

I find that it was easier to have an opinion about JWs before coming to here. Before I kind of thought they were stupid, and had some anger. But when I read some of the really awful stories here, I have so much more hatred for them. Sometimes I think that's not good to carry around. On this board, you hear some of the most tragic things that happen to people. YOu would never hear that stuff from people who you have only a casual relationship with in "the real world". So it can be a bit overwhelming and can be sometimes depressing when you worry for other people.

I'm very grateful for this site validating my feelings. and it has helped me through the long and lonely years of grad school. And I have learned so much about life just from reading your stories. But sometimes I think I have to purposefully wean myself away. Still love you guys, though!

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I met Roger Waters of Pink Floyd Sunday night!!!!!

by Thegoodgirl in

hey all you pink floyd fans!

i have to share this with my old pals on jwd: me and my husband went to three roger waters concerts this fall: (detroit, chicago, los angeles.

) we went to the la concert sunday night.

Thegoodgirl

Thanks, guys! Yes, it was so cool. (Those words don't do justice to the experience, I know.) We had gotten a hotel room that night, but only slept for 2 1/2 hours and then had to get up for our flight. But it was so worth it. I've become a fan the past few years, but my husband has been an absolute die hard for his entire life. (He's 33). So the experience was unbeleivable for him. The other band members had different reactions. Nick Mason had played drums at this particular concert, and he signed about three autographs, and decided he was done, so the body guard literally shoved the next fan away to let us know Nick was done. P.P. Arnold (one of the amazing backup singers) didn't even look back when we were all yelling her name. The saxaphonist was cool and signed a few (Ian Richie.) Snowy White told one fan that he wasn't Snowy White (as he climbed into the trailer sitting there.) Anyway, Roger Waters was by far the coolest and nicest one. He was dressed so casually (jeans, boating shoes, and a white polo shirt advertising the concert.) Just like a nice normal guy who hadn't let it all get to his head.

Bikerchic, I absolutely do plan to frame it. We have been discussing ways to arrange it in the frame for the past two days. (Floating frame? Include our other concert tickets in the frame? Etc.) :)

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I met Roger Waters of Pink Floyd Sunday night!!!!!

by Thegoodgirl in

hey all you pink floyd fans!

i have to share this with my old pals on jwd: me and my husband went to three roger waters concerts this fall: (detroit, chicago, los angeles.

) we went to the la concert sunday night.

Thegoodgirl

Hey all you pink Floyd Fans! I have to share this with my old pals on JWD: Me and my husband went to three Roger Waters concerts this fall: (Detroit, Chicago, Los Angeles.) We went to the LA concert Sunday night. We decided to stick around after the concert while the traffic died down. We found a group of die hard fans that were moving from doorway to doorway, trying to get a glimpse of band members leaving to their limos or vans. Well long story short, we stay for 2 more hours, slowly the member trickle out, some a bit friendly, some not at all. But finally Roger Waters comes out of the building, gets into his limo, pauses and comes back out of his limo. Of course security was all over us, yelling at us to form a single file line (this is after hours of security trying to get everyone to leave.) Roger Waters walks out of the little barrier gate and signs EVERY SINGLE PERSON'S STUFF. (Well there were only about 10-15 people left, but still.) He didn't say much except that one guy asks him if he's touring next year and he says "Yeah, 62 dates." I don't know if he was kidding or not, but anyway, it was such an awesome experience!

My husband was absolutley nervous, but managed to say, "Thanks for your music, it changed my life." and patted Roger on the back. It was so funny. Anyway, we didn't plan ahead, so we just had one of our tickets signed, but it was awesome!

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Glad I found this place!!!

by payinu in

just saying hi, and i am soooooo glad to find this site.

i have been out of the org.

for about 7 years now, and am just now feeling fully free.

Thegoodgirl

Welcome, Payinu! I've been out for about 6 years, but somehow, that JW stuff is always having an impact on my life in one way or another. Hope you stick around and enjoy the site!

The Good Girl

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Mama's Boys

by Thegoodgirl in

question: are you dealing with a mama's boy?.

i am afraid i am.

my hubby is on the phone with this parents (actually mostly his dad) for about an hour each night.

Thegoodgirl

Question: Are you dealing with a Mama's Boy?

I am afraid I am. My hubby is on the phone with this parents (actually mostly his dad) for about an hour each night. They live in different cities, and I'm all for family values. But when I prepare a special dinner, or when we are having the greatest conversation, it always seems his parents are number 1 priority. I'll say--after abougt 45 minutes on the phone-- honey, dinner is cold. Then he gets upset and says I'm being rude. But I think I'm just dealing with a guy who hasnt' cut ties yet like he should have.

What do you all do to help the Mama's Boy in your life cut the umbilical cord?

TheGoodGirl

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Nearly Lost my Son Yesterday

by XJW4EVR in

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friends

i got a call from the ex, she was in tears, and said that our son was struck by car while riding his bike to work.

when i got to the er, he was lying there in the bed.

he was bruised & scratched.

Thegoodgirl

My god, I'm so glad he is okay. This brought tears to my eyes. Keep us updated.

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What's the worst dish your mother ever made you eat?

by mrsjones5 in

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yep folks this is a fluff topic .

mine is yellow squash with onions.

it's a truely hideous dish.

Thegoodgirl

Elsewhere, you beat me to it. The spiritual food!

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Did you have the perfect JW family?

by misspeaches in

just wondering... how many of us had the perfect jw family?.

by that i mean, never in trouble with the elders, no loss of restrictions, no disphellowshippings, disassociatings, fadings, reproof - public or private.. of course most of us fit one of these categories.

what about any other families in your congregations?

Thegoodgirl

Peaches, thank you, you said it.

"The perfect JW family" EQUALS a messed up dysfunctional family. The less "perfect JW" the family is, the more healing is going on, and the better they are.

My family had single pioneer mom, three kids who auxillary pioneered during their summer and December vacations. Like all of us, no socialization with normal people, not allowed to go to college, no sports, no clubs, no acheivements, no class trips, no parades, no holidays, etc. Thankfully, this slowly unravelled when we each hit our late teens, early 20's. Older sister married a Bethelite who turned out to be physically and emotionally abusive, and who thank god, cheated on her so she got out of that one. I just walked away (the fade) after a series of depressing events and Eureka moments. Younger sister got DF'd after running away, and moving in with boyfriend.

We turned out very dysfunctional, I think.

Now we are the terrible JW family,and the more normal regular worldly family. One sister still in, and tries to keep things as functional as possible, staying loosely withing JW-law. Mom has unfortunately lost some of her common sense and ablility to make sense and of course is still in, pioneering when she can. One sister df'd, but does the best she can with the non-education that she was given (she had a scholarship, but mom refused to sign the papers letting her move into the dorms of the university to which she was accepted, so she gave up and never went.) I have moved far away, and stay as far away from anything JW as I can (except for this website). I try to help my family, while tip toeing around the JW landmines-conversations, if you know what I mean. And my dad, who never was a JW has become more involved in our lives than ever, trying to pick up where my mom is leaving off.

There is no family that can keep those standards. If there is, they are usually in need of some serious psychological help before long.

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Need your thoughts on this,

by crankytoe in

so i recently started dating a friend of a friend's sister.

now, i wasn't really interested in her romantically, but i was single and she's ok company.

so last sunday she came over my house for the first time.

Thegoodgirl

Cranky Toe,

Good job, stay "just friends", that was a good way to handle it, even if it was an awkward day. And I love that you're "writing this down". That's just adorable. :)

GG