My God, Talesin, and all you guys, this group of posts almost gets me cholked up! Yes, yes, me too me too, me too to all you. I somehow can never connect with anyone. Well, rarely I do, and I think "this person thinks like I do." Anyway, I think that's why I resort to this board, I am too shy to bring up my true feelings to people I see and know. Have been really "in a funk" this past week, and it's so good to know some other people are in the same boat. I know the JW stuff messed up my adolescence, especially, and that is the time you are supposed to learn to belong to a group of peers, so I kind of missed that, and it will always be a challenge for me. And it's so true. Being married does NOT erase the lonliness. It's nice to have a person to talk to, but if you really don't connect, it's just not enough.
Thegoodgirl
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Am I the only one ...
by talesin inugh.
it seems that the jw, along w/ other stuff, has led me to a solitary position in life ... how about you ... is that why you are here?
tonite?
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chronic fatigue group " too tired" to organize event..
by candidlynuts inok, i know this is a serious illness.. one of my kids suffer from it.
but this just made me giggle.
tomorrow is international awareness day but members of nelson's chronic fatigue support service say they are too tired to arrange any activities.
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Thegoodgirl
Wondering how many X-Jdubs have this? My sister has it, too, though she's still in. Came on after a bad marriage ending in divorce.
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found my biological father
by lobaugh ini just found my biological father whom is a jehovah's witness too.
but he chooses to deny the fact that he is my father.
i know that deep down he knows i am his daughter.
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Thegoodgirl
Sounds like a difficult situation. Am also wondering what were the circumstances with your birth. The only thing that may have to do with his JW-ness is that if he has sex outside of marriage from which you were concieved, and he was a JW at the time, he has to confess that and be repentant, even this many years later. This involves formally having "comittee meetings" with heads of the congregation. Then they announce it at one of the meetings (church services.) It's pretty involved. but again, that's only if he was a Jehovah's Witness at the time of your conception. Wheter he was a Witness or not, I hope he contacts you.
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I have now felt all the tension drain away!
by AK - Jeff inwe finished franz' books just about 18 months back - and that nailed the lid shut on the watchtower coffin for wifey and i. but i just noticed in the last few weeks that i am starting to feel 'normal' - that is all the tension is gone now.
no guilt nagging in the back of my head, no concerns about being found out [we faded out].
as if it took 18 months to get the mind free and start the process of getting on with it!
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Thegoodgirl
congratulations to you! It took me about 2 years to be able to say I was raised a JW or my mom is a JW instead of "I'm a JW but not attending". Feels great, don't it?
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a question from a girl....for guys
by kittyeatzjdubs inso my b-day is this month on the 22nd...whoop!whoop!...anyway.
i've been trying to get clues as to what my hunny bunny may be getting me.
i think i may have a theory.
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Thegoodgirl
Kitty,
Though I'm not a guy, thought I'd put my two cents in. I am thinking maybe it is a ring... (maybe that's just how we girls think). Anyway, I really like the idea of waiting it out, like Jared and Evilforce. People always told me I was a very mature 19, 20, 21 year old too, but you still do grow up a lot and learn a lot about people, so if you feel uncomfortable, don't be afraid to tell him you need more time. Maybe bring that up now, instead of the moment he is proposing. Anyway, just had to put that advice in since this is maybe the second most important decision of your life, the first being having left the JWs.
GG
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Your Mothers first date, and first Kiss ... How well do you know mom?
by xjwms in.
how well do you know your mom?
in view of may 8th, i thought it would be fun to think about.. i have heard these storys over and over, how about you, ..... and anything interesting?
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Thegoodgirl
Hmmm, good question. My mom would always be kind of hush hush about her pre-jw days. But sometimes, we'll get something out of her, and it is wild. Like I mentioned Mexico, and she said, "Oh yeah, I rode in a car from NY down there once with this guy I was dating. I think he was selling drugs. Anyway that was before I knew the truth." It's like WHAT? She has all these little stories, but she doesn't want to be a bad influence, so I don't know much.
Happy Mother's Day!!!!
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What Is The Purpose Of Life? - please read if you care about me
by Cygnus inthese last 2 months have been the worst of my life.
i can only answer my subject question by saying the purpose of life is the 4 things sought after in the wizard of oz: love, courage, intelligence, and home.. and we all possess them whether we know it or not.
and especially love.
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Thegoodgirl
Cygnus,
I just read your post "the awakening". Very moving. Hope you're able to continue coping with whatever you're going through. What's going on?
GG
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went to assembly past weekend lol
by JE1234 inwent to an assembly this past saturday.
reason why i went cause my mother in law was baptized so the rest of us non believers went for moral support.
it was in the "famous stanley theater" in nj that i heard so much about growing up, my mother was so happy even thou i went, watched baptizm, ate with my inlaws, and was out like a bolt of lightning lol.
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Thegoodgirl
Glad you made it out without being sucked back IN. I too wonder if they'll ever re-brainwash me. So do you have to bring your own lunch now?
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Remember the not-at homes?
by Thegoodgirl inthat obituary post reminded me of those awful weekday mornings knocking on entire neighborhoods of not-at-homes.
i remember one particular neighborhood in florida where it was one big trailer park of "snowbirds" who would move back up north for the summer.
however, being the thorough jws that we were, we would knock on every single door, leaving magazines, etc, even if the awnings were down and it was obvious no one would be livng there for months.
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Thegoodgirl
That obituary post reminded me of those awful weekday mornings knocking on entire neighborhoods of not-at-homes. I remember one particular neighborhood in Florida where it was one big trailer park of "snowbirds" who would move back up North for the summer. However, being the thorough JWs that we were, we would knock on every single door, leaving magazines, etc, even if the awnings were down and it was obvious no one would be livng there for months. It was one of the most depressing moments of my life, and when I think to why I left, I always, among other things, picture that humid hot day knocking on doors in that empty neighborhood. What a waste of my youthful years!!!!!
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JW working the obituaries
by Icansaylucky ini was reading my local paper this morning and there was a letter to the editor.
the writer had recently lost a child and the child's obituary was recently printed in our paper.
the writer said she received a letter with a "jehovah witness tract" called "what help for dead loved ones?
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Thegoodgirl
It's hard to remember, but I think we used to do this writing too. I specifically remember one time going to a cemetary, thank God there were no mourners that time, just workers, so of course we placed the tract with them.