The real difference between everyone in the pecking order was if you were included in social events.
If you were an elder, elder's wife, elder's child, there was always get togethers and picnics, and fun things planned. If you were a single mother or a child of a single mother, you weren't included, you weren't anything but pioneer material, you got patted on the back for making a good comment at the meetings, but you weren't "worthy" enough to socialize with them.
Unassigned territory was also a social event, not everyone would be included.
Trips to assemblies sometimes included dinners out afterwards but if you weren't in the "in" crowd you had to return to your room and figure out where and what to eat on your own.
I remember many events that I heard of afterwards and was extremely hurt by, all because my mom was a single mother and poor and we weren't ever sought out to do things with. That is where the "love" is most evident.