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  Do ALL men cheat??

  by ChakkaConned in

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  i was watching an old eddie murphy hbo special a few weeks ago where he was talking about relationships.

  in his bit, he went off on how all men cheat on their wives and girlfriends.

  he was adamant that even the nicest of guys will take the opportunity to cheat if given the chance and that women need to understand that this is the way it is, 100% of the time.

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  fairchild

  I have been 'approached' several times by married men.

  One of my best friends is married and cheats on his wife.

  I once dated a guy but broke up with him when I found out that he was dating TWO more women, other than me.
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  Where ... oh where ...?

  by ESTEE in

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  i have an on-line bible now .... and i still can't find the scripture that says something to the effect that if you leave god he will leave you.. please help?.

  estee

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  fairchild

  Hey estee, could you post that link to your on-line bible? Thanks.
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  Pathetic JW Web Site

  by DevonMcBride in

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  this guy needs a friend...and a life.

  definitely a few fries short of a happy meal.. http://www.flyinhi.freeservers.com/.

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  fairchild

  Why not leave Daniel in peace? He knows of this site now, so if he wants to read, he can come back and do so. He has all the information available to him. But I think people should stop posting things in his guestbook, he will find his truth in his own time. Just place yourselves in his shoes for a minute.. has he not been bashed enough by now? (especially in this very thread here) I know that you have his best interest in mind, but do remember that there is a day and a time for everything. Back then, when you yourselves were Jehovah's witnesses, did you want to HEAR some of the things you yourselves have said to this kid in the past couple of days? Probably not. Again, he has the information you wanted to convey and that should be sufficient. To use a JW expression.. you have given him 'food', but by his responses, both here and in his guestbook, it was obviously not at the 'proper time'.

  I am sorry if I am overstepping boundaries here, being a new member and such, but I couldn't ignore this thread.
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  I didn't love God enough to stop smoking

  by embeth2525 in

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  yesterday, i went to visit my friend, who is the jw that i was studying with and i told her about the problems i had had with the other congregation i had been in before.

  i told her about how they had treated me not so very nice and how i had a terrible time, then quitting cigaretts.

  i wasn't able to quit smoking back then, although i have since quit about 3 years now.

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  fairchild

  Some might disagree with this, but I am convinced that the addiction to smoking is at least 99% physical. Researchers are more and more starting to agree that any addiction (including smoking), is directed by a part of our brain, just like walking, talking and anything else.

  Some people are good at sports, some people are excellent chess players, other people are good at something else. Etc.. etc.. It all depends on exactly which part of your brain excells, compared to someone else. If the part of one's brain that controls (attracts) addictions is of a rather strong nature, then I feel truly sorry for this person if he or she picks up smoking, drinking, gambling, or whatever. Yes, quitting needs willpower, but for some people it is one heck of a lot easier to quit than for other people, and I truly believe that some people cannot quit, no matter how hard they try. it has nothing to do with love for God, it has nothing to do with how strong you are emotionally, it has everything to do with the brain function of each individual.

  I personally know a guy who tried to quit over and over again, to a point where he was obsessed with quitting, but all his efforts were unsuccessful. Everything else he ever did succeeded and it bothered him that he could not quit smoking. He would wear the patch, take the zyban pills, chew the nicotine gum all at once, and he would STILL smoke, even with the gum in his mouth. Then one day he was diagnosed with a brain tumor. He went in for surgery and brought 8 cartons of cigarettes with him to the hospital, as he didn't know how long he would have to stay there and he was terrified of running out of smokes. After his surgery, he never had another urge to smoke.

  This is only one example, and one I can witness as being true, but there are many examples like this one out there. To me, it proves once again that the success of quitting is directly related to the activity of someone's brain. No more, no less.
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  Do you remember when you first Googled "Jehovah's Witnesses"?

  by Funchback in

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  2. experiences

  i remember when i first googled "jehovah's witnesses".

  i was sick to my stomach because i feared that i was disobeying jehovah.

  although i was scared that i would find something "apostate" or "demonic", i still continued to click on different links.

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  I never googled JW sites. I actually found a poem on a poetry site about someone who had left the organization. I sent this person a pm, telling her how I was struggling both ways (do or don't become one of JW's). She sent me a link to this site here.

  Since I live alone, I don't have to look over my shoulder while I'm on the internet, but I do have to say that I'm worried about going to the bookstore and buying Crisis of Conscience. What if a JW is in the store and sees what I buy, or worse, what if a JW works the register? It makes me feel sooooo two faced.
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  Why do some people post things that they did not write ... ????

  by Wild_Thing in

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  who do some people post things that they did not write and do not give credit to the original source?

  so ... maybe you don't know who the original source is.

  maybe you got it in an email that has forwarded and then forwarded a zillion times.

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  You definitely brought up a good point, wild thing. Being a writer myself, I know the value of copyrights. Especially since the internet made its impressive entrance, plagiarism has gone wild all over.

  No words should be copied without mentioning the source. It doesn't matter if the piece is copyrighted or not, as soon as a person writes something down on paper, it belongs to him/her, even without a copyright label. Should someone want to quote something, but doesn't know where it came from (for example, you got it via e-mail), this person needs to write 'author unknown' under the piece of writing. It is a matter of courtesy.

  Not all works that are copyrighted bear the copyright label. Meaning, if there is no copyright label, a particular piece might still be officially copyrighted. It is a rule of thumb nowadays not to use the copyright label, as it is generally considered a sign of mistrust in publishers and readers.

  A dear friend of mine published a poem, you might have read it, as it has gone around via e-mails for a couple of years now. The title is "If I Could Catch A Rainbow". (go google THAT one and you'll see how many different 'authors' you come up with). Since the publication of that poem, several dozens of people have publicly plagiarized it and put their own name under it. This is where my crusade against plagiarism began, so I'm a real stickler when it comes to that subject.

  Anyone who wants more information on plagiarism, or on how to copyright is free to pm me.
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  I am rubbish at Christmas cards.

  by Peppermint in

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  this is the first year i have sent any at all.

  i have just got one from the neighbour two doors down, last minute so to speak.

  tell me what is the etiquette here.

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  fairchild

  Let me echo the above comments. By all means, send a card back to your neighbor. Even if christmas is over, you can still send a card with 'season's greetings'. Officially, one can send out christmas cards until the end of January. Once February rolls around, don't bother anymore, you would be considered out of your mind.

  No, it won't look as if you wrote her a card just because she wrote you a card first. Many people send cards to other people they don't even expect will reply. When they do, it is generally considered a nice gesture rather than an act of obligation.
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  CHRISTMAS DINNER WHAT DID TOU ALL HAVE???????++

  by vitty in

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  we had, wait for it.....................home made beef curry and it was fantastic .

  i was going to make a dinner, but since there only 3 of us and were not quite there yet, we decided to have our favorite....curry ym.

  if the day ever comes and my daughter and her man are out ill have the biggest christmas ever.. but for now, i feel a little empty, and id feel fake, you know trying to enjoy it.

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  fairchild

  wow you people make me feel very hungry.

  I don't celebrate Christmas, but did open a can of tunafish for my cat, which she gets on special days.

  I had a BLT sandwich for lunch and am making dinner as we speak.. corn on the cob, mashed potatoes and pork chops.
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  fell away.......wanna come back...please help.

  by Tiggerchick1012 in

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  ok, so here's the situation.

  i am 24 yrs old.

  married and have 1 child.

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  fairchild

  Hi Tigger,

  A lot has been said already. When I read your post, it felt to me as if you wanted something to take your depression away. If you want to go back to being a JW, make sure you do it because it is something you really want to do. Don't go back because you feel that concentrating on something else might take your depression away. As I am a person struggling with religion myself, I'd be useless giving you my opinion about being or not being a JW, as I don't really have an opinion at this point.

  Just make sure it is something you want to do without any doubt. If so, why not call the local KH, perhaps ask around, try to find a JW in your neighborhood and talk to him/her, see if you can go to the KH together?

  Good luck to you.
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  Looking for my Japanese mother

  by Billygoat in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  i've posted about this story in the past, but i've decided to do it again.

  i posted a thread last year with my full name on it and just the other day, realized, when i google myself, that thread comes up.

  i felt like dad had my step-mom and the twin boys had each other.

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  fairchild

  Hi Andi,

  Sad story indeed. Having lost touch with most of my own family over the years (because we were all travelers and went to various parts of the world, and also because I didn't grow up with my siblings), I have some experience in searching for family. Not much luck so far, just a little..

  I found one of my aunts (a sister of my mom), whom I had never seen, and it was strange to meet her.

  Anyway, I did the newspaper, radio, TV things.. they didn't provide any leads. What DID provide some leads was an extensive search in phone books. You can order phone books from all over the world through any of the major phone companies. Some will even let you borrow them and you won't have to pay anything. Since you had letters from her, there must have been a last name on the letters. Find that name in the phone books and send a standard mailing out to everyone by that name. The search will take many months, but I have found it to be the most effective method. When I sent out my mailing, many people reacted, even people who were not my family sent me letters to wish me good luck. It was a very nice experience.