Posts by stopthepain

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"College, oh no!" PT 1-New guy here

by theundecided2004 in

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hello everyone, i have been keeping up with posts on this board for about four years now, been a member for about one year but have never had the courage to make my first post.

so now i'm going to make that first step to get rid of that fear i had of betraying myself, and vent my experiences and frustrations with this faith.

i think this board will be a good way for me to make acquaintances of people with similar feelings that i have regarding the jehovah's witnesses, as well as a good outlet for my frustrations as a jw, and get some advice as to maybe getting a reasonable exit strategy in the near future.

stopthepain

welcome to the sight.I was also raised a jdub.Great post ,looking foward to the 2nd installment.

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Does ANYONE exercise control like the Dubs?

by upside/down in

think about it...in what area of life does anyone do what they do...?

i'm talking meddling in your "personal" matters, inviting you to the "backroom" (wtf?

), discussing how you've "stumbled" someone, tell you you're not doing enough, dictate your clothes, your speech, want to know "why" you weren't at the meeting or fs, need to know the "intimacies" of marriage...to keep the congo clean..., label everyone either "weak" or "a pillar", want to know if you "beat your meat"...(but beating your kids is ok)..., have you been having impure thoughts, help you choose a "spiritual" (ugly) mate, why you bought a (gasp) 2-door car, whether you attended the meetings while on "vacation", turned down that scholarship to "pioneer"...actually got us to sell everything and move to timbuktu and stay.... .

stopthepain

Thats the discipline of the borg.It is truly mind boggling how they control both major and minor descisions.

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No Clapping at Wild Statements at DC????!!!!

by hamsterbait in

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friends

i just read a post that said the audience was not obediently clapping at the convention when the speakers made wild statements (presumably with the rising nazi voice).

did anyone else notice this.. will others look out for it at their dc and tell us?.

i'm not going.. bwaaaaahhhhhhh.

stopthepain

As a kid bored as hell at conventions,I will say the different variationsw you can put on a clap are fun.;

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How/Why were the Jehovah Witnesses chosen?

by Hondo in

i am not a jw, never have been, but lost my wife (a japanese national) to them in 2003. i have been in and out of some of these forums trying to learn as much as possible about what drove my ex-wife to, for the most part, reject me and take her jw congragation as her new family, her new counselors, her new best friends, etc.

a jw doctrine that has always bugged me is the belief that jesus came to earth in 1918/19, or there-a-bouts, and chose them as his one and only representative orgainization on earth (i think i have it right).

some may take this the wrong way, as it may sound a bit glib, and i apologise in advance if this is the case and i offend anyone, but my ex-wife truely believes, no matter that she can't explain why (and maybe this is my answer.

stopthepain

DY--this guy isn't a stupid witness!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Why should he go to the local congregation?They don't have shit to do with him or his relationships.There is no need to involve self rightoeusss cleaners/elders in all of this.

CYP-your right on.He should move on and be glad he didn't get sucked in.

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Embarrassing stuff you did as a JW kid...

by dorayakii in

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friends

kattiekitten: .

i had been invited to a kids house for tea - her mum was having a bible study with an elder.

me and this kid were talking at the teatable, we were about 7. this kids parents were divorced, and was telling me quite embarrasing things about how her mum and dad fought.

stopthepain

go out in "service

give talks

judge every man ,woman ,and child if they weren't a jdub

call holidays "pagan",w/out knowing what that meant

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How/Why were the Jehovah Witnesses chosen?

by Hondo in

i am not a jw, never have been, but lost my wife (a japanese national) to them in 2003. i have been in and out of some of these forums trying to learn as much as possible about what drove my ex-wife to, for the most part, reject me and take her jw congragation as her new family, her new counselors, her new best friends, etc.

a jw doctrine that has always bugged me is the belief that jesus came to earth in 1918/19, or there-a-bouts, and chose them as his one and only representative orgainization on earth (i think i have it right).

some may take this the wrong way, as it may sound a bit glib, and i apologise in advance if this is the case and i offend anyone, but my ex-wife truely believes, no matter that she can't explain why (and maybe this is my answer.

stopthepain

please DY----------You can't control someone who wants to join a cult.And if she joined a cult to lose a 20 year marriage,she is immature in doing so.She should have confronted him about the real issues.IMO,your way of thougfht is way off.

good luck hondo,you'll find many answers to your questions here.

They are a buisness masquerading as gods sole channel to humans,claiming jesesus invisible prensence came in 1914.They have been deceptive with there followers,and have outright lied about speculating on aremegeddon.

Could your wife be going thru some kind of mid-life crisis?

Does she live with any guilt about things in her life?

Is she generally gullible?

These could all be reasons why.There are many charasmatic individuals in the cult.They have a way of making you think they have all the answers.If you scratchy below the surface,you'll see what this manipulative cult has done to many families.You are not alone.Good luck.STP

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