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  Ive faded too successfully !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  by vitty in

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  we moved nearly 2 years ago, quite a way from our old hall, and only attended our new hall for 6 months before we started to fade.

  so we have never had a elders visit and we didnt have time to make friends, so our fade has been very successful here.. the only problem is, my family dont know we dont go anymore, which is a problem when they visit, cos we have to get around the "are we going to the meeting when we visit?

  " we have managed to get around it one way or another .

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  Dustin

  It's hard to say if your family will give you the cold shoulder or not. Some of my JW family still talks to me. They realize my disassociation was my choice and I'm a grown adult. However my parents haven't talked to me in about 7 months now, and act like I'm an evil person for quitting.

  My advice is let it go until you feel confident in telling them you are through. Giving half truths always comes back to bite you in the ass. When they ask just be honest, or change the subject. But eventually you will have to tell them it is over. Either you live by their rules or you don't. No use wasting time half-assing it for the sake of others. It's hard but you will be happier for it.
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  Kingdom Melodies - Can they influence people's moods?

  by truthseeker in

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  i've recently begun to observe the mood-altering abilities of kingdom melodies, when played at meetings and assemblies.

  after hyping up the audience for hours at a convention, a melody like, "we thank you jehovah" has the ability to make everyone all fuzzy and happy.

  some even have tears in their eyes.. before a meeting, a kingdom melody is usually played quietly in the background, but it sets the mood.

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  Dustin

  It definitely helps control the weak minded. They use them to make you feel like you are part of something special, and to make it feel like they care about you. They help to re-establish in your mind that you should have no doubts.

  Fortunately I can see throught the mind control now.
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  Top 5 Things to do If Your C.O. is a Jerk

  by metatron in

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  number 5.

  'forget' to announce his visit - or totally downplay it.

  ( this really gets 'em mad but i know some.

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  Dustin

  I love the suggestion about the birth control pills. That would be so funny if it worked. I'll bet most of the CO's wives are kinky in the bedroom. Lack of attention will do that to them.
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  Constantine...Throw up !!!

  by Legolas in

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  i just watched the movie constantine

  any thoughts???????

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  Dustin

  I liked it alot. The book was really good as well. I'm all about the blasphemy.
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  God's Guitar Hero[s]

  by sixsixsixtynine in

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  i bet it's hendrix.

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  Dustin

  I'll go with Dimebag.

  Hendrix is always a good call.

  Slash is also awesome.
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  Did you do crazy things post DF?

  by anewme in

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  2. experiences

  i was just wondering if anyone out there had similar struggles after being disfellowshipped?

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  all my life i was a good christian person, then after getting df'd i entertained the idea to do all manner of formerly forbidden activities, since everyone thought i was going to the devil anyway.

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  Dustin

  LOL about the smoking story. I am the world's worst smoker. I try to inhale but I just cough constantly. I can't hold it right either, unless I was in a gay bar. (no offense intended)

  Anyways, it sounds like you are going about things the right way. Alot of people when they get DF'd go off the deep end. Just realize that they don't control you anymore. Experience life and have a good time. You're going to love it.
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  Am I a Sucker?

  by El Kabong in

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  the other day, my wife ran into a girl who she used to babysit for and is now 19 years old.

  i remember when this girl used to come to our house, she was always such a little sweetheart.

  she always kind of reminded me of a little doll, just tossed in the corner and forgotten.

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  Dustin

  Sounds to me like you're doing all the right things. I think it's wonderful that you guys are helping her get on her feet again. Just be careful, and I'm sure everything will turn out fine. It's nice to hear about somone being kind to another person.
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  Do You Think Bag Searching Violates Your Rights?

  by minimus in

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  in view of the transit bombings, do you feel that police should be able to search you or your bags at anytime?

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  Dustin

  I think with terrorism being at an all time high they need to search everyone's bag. Just an unfortunate side effect of some people being stupid.
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  Depression and JW's

  by damselfly in

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  i don't wish to hijack the chronic fatigue thread so i started this one.

  when i was a teen i suffered from severe depression brought on by emotional abuse, sexual abuse and the jw way of handling it.

  i couldn't physically get out of bed, didn't know what day it was, had no desire to eat and dropped below 100 lbs.

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  Dustin

  I realize that I am always going to have my struggles with depression. But, things are so much better now after I left the source of all the abuse. Damselfly, you are very right in that it does help to talk to others who have had similar experiences. I was relieved to know that I wasn't the only one who felt like this.

  When I think back on how the fear and guilt controlled my life it makes me angry. I find release in writing songs about my experiences. It helps to tell things from my perspective. I spent so many years being told that I was wrong, and the elders were right. Now it's my turn to be heard.

  For as much healing that has occured, there is always a part of me that bleeds. I don't know if that is ever going to go away. In the end maybe I don't want it to because all of the sadness and pain of the past remind me of how good I feel now. I wish I could change the past, but I have come to realize that it doesn't do any good to let the past hold me down from living my life the way I want in the future.
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  Did you do crazy things post DF?

  by anewme in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  i was just wondering if anyone out there had similar struggles after being disfellowshipped?

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  all my life i was a good christian person, then after getting df'd i entertained the idea to do all manner of formerly forbidden activities, since everyone thought i was going to the devil anyway.

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  Dustin

  I drank very heavily for a while after I left. I never did anything too crazy. Now I'm starting a new rock band though, so I'm sure there's some crazy times ahead.