Yes being disfellowshipped from the borg can be a very trying thing, but all of those supposed friends aren't really friends at all, you aren't a friend if friendship is based on religious membership. I recalled two things when reading these posts.
One years ago prior to becoming a member, I would talk with those in the congregation who were disfellowshipped, it would piss off the elders and some Mss, but I didn't care, the elders even had the audacity to talk with one particular disfellowshipped who was attending meetings trying to get reinstated and told him that he couldn't talk with me. I went to this particular elder and told him to mind his business and if he didn't I would be glad to mind his for him, and I and this particular person would still talk albeit outside away from them in the parking lot where I would be having my morning cigarette (that use to really piss em off me smoking in the parking lot). His supposed family and friends hadn't talked with him for almost a year and he was really glad I took the time to talk with him, and didn't treat him like others do, In fact all through my tenure in the borg I would talk with Disfellowshipped ones but due to my confrontational nature, Elders would seldom say anything to me about it. If they did i would act like the governing body (stupid) and they would leave it alone.
Second point when I wasn't attending meeting very often I started to get stared out by some in the congregation who had previously been very friendly, I would catch them with the look of loathing on thier face and these ones could count on me coming up after the meeting and asking what their problem is. That caused them no small amount of anxiety> I would get answers like well you haven't been attending meetings, we haven't seen you out in field service blah blah blah, Well i went out in field service a lot just not with them, I enjoyed talking with people, I however went to the country areas. And I wouldn't turn in my time, that irritated them no end too. Well enough of that. my 2 for now.