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  How do you handle a Volitile Ex??

  by Seeking Knowledge in

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  my ex....is an idiot.

  i have had problems with him from the get go when it comes to custody of our son.

  we have gone to court and established some ground rules, which he consistantly bends & twists to suit him.

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  adelmaal

  "Mom, I don't want to go see my dad"

  Hearing that just breaks my heart I am so sorry you have to hear that. I know you want your son to feel positive about going to dad's and you want him not to see that it bothers you that he doesn't want to go but it may behoove you to at least ask your son why he feels that way...

  I am now trying to get around the whole joint signature for my daughter to see a therapist. Certainly, if your ex can take your son to an accupuncturist you can take him to a therapist. It might help him to be able to talk to someone impartial so he can deal with the feelings he is having as a result of going between two different environments.

  You just never know what may be going on over there and he may not be old enough to put it into words for you yet. I have not yet heard back from the therapist I called on Friday (she checks messages Mon-Th but when I do I will let you know what she says.

  Hang in there mama and don't let his dad interfere with your child having adequate and consistent childcare! That's definitely crossing the line.
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  My mom was just rushed to the Hospital....

  by rwagoner in

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  and you know how i know...... not because my dad called me or anthing like that..... thanks to years of working in law enforcement/public safety i'm pretty nosey and have a "scanner" in my house that monitors police, fire and ambulance calls.. just heard the ambulance go to my parents house because my mother wasn't breathing properly..... she has renal failure and must go to kidney dialysis 3 times a week.

  sometimes for no reason her body simply stops processing fluids and she "fills up" and basically begins to drown from the inside.. i can only assume that this is the case tonight....of course nowdays hospitals wont tell you anything without the patients permission...... keep her in your thoughts....she may shun me but i can't help but worry about her.....

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  adelmaal

  I am so sorry. It makes me sick to think your mom could be dying and that religion stands in your way of being with her...
  

  Are you going to try to get in touch?

  I hope all goes ok and your mom is back home safe. I also hope your parents see through the hatefulness of that religion and are able to re-establish a relationship with their son while there is opportunity for it.

  Take care my fellow Right Winger!

  P.S. Personally, they df'd you not vice versa. I would personally go down there with flowers (if it's local) and tell her you love her and hope she gets well). Then at least they can see that even though they shun you it is not the reverse. You afterall are an adult not burdened with ridiculous religious rules. JMHO.

  I would send her flowers or show up anyway. Show them what love really means. Maybe next time, they'll tell you.

  My thoughts are similar to those in the above quote...
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  Watchtower Jan,15 2006.??????

  by integ in

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  from watchtower jan 15 2006.

  " another fine example for our youths is that of 4 year old "jessica", who wrote to the society to express appreciation for the faithful slaves' counsel regarding what to do if one is tempted to read any of the "poison" of apostate literature; "i am writing to you dear brothers to express my sincere, heartfelt appreciation to those of you entrusted with the administration of carrying out our master jesus' spiritual directive to supply us with our 'food at the proper time'.

  as a young one, it is sometimes difficult to resist the great deceiver: satans' crafty acts.

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  ROFLOL!

  Oh yeah! You know those little twisted apostate kindergarteners are running wild all over the playground...

  Give me a break. Like a kindergartener really wrote that!

  They are really stretching it.
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  Man am I bummed....

  by upside/down in

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  just got off the phone with my brother who lives in socal (nondub) and was informed that my dad just had a stroke!.

  he's my "dad", not the sperm donor that helped concieve me and my brother than abandoned us so he could "find himself".

  he's 74, very intelligent old school retired ex marine, that served in the korean war.

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  adelmaal

  My heart and thoughts go out to you. I think it's great that you managed to have such a respectful and loving relationship with your step-dad. I hear you on biology... I was adopted and my adoptive parents are my true parents. I have not yet had to face any major health issues with them but I know it will be hard when I do.

  Please take care and I hope you and your family stay well.
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  Newbie

  by writegirl in

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  i stumbled on this site by accident and i'm kind of glad i did.

  in the past i have typically avoided these sites because most people on them seem newly bitter and i didn't like the tone.

  i was raised a witness by an alcoholic father and an abusive stepmother.

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  Welcome!

  I am not a horrible person because I left this religion

  I too struggled with the above statement after I left for quite some time. I just figured I would die at armageddon and I would be forever guilt ridden by what is said in the Bible.

  It's quite liberating to find out there's nothing wrong with you and the Bible is still an encouraging book, which can bring you close to God without that religion! I'm happier and a better person for leaving...

  It's good to have you here. That's great that your hubby encourages you in such ways!
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  How do you handle a Volitile Ex??

  by Seeking Knowledge in

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  my ex....is an idiot.

  i have had problems with him from the get go when it comes to custody of our son.

  we have gone to court and established some ground rules, which he consistantly bends & twists to suit him.

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  adelmaal

  Legal custody means who makes the decisions about the children?s health, education and welfare. This includes deciding where the children go to school or whether they should get braces on their teeth. If the parents share joint legal custody, both parents can ask schools and doctors for information about the children. It is important to be clear about who makes which decisions so that there is no disagreement later on.

  From what is stated above, it sounds like BeeBee is indeed correct if your joint legal custody terms are not clearly defined in your decree. Great for me! Not so great for you. I also read the following though:

  The parent who has legal joint custody retains the "right" to challenge your decision in court if he/she disagrees.

  So it sounds to me like you have a good leg to stand on if you don't agree with accupuncture. If your ex-husband is unwilling to communicate with you regarding medical, schooling, etc. decisions then the court will re-consider joint legal custody. The court favors joint custody in situations where the parents are able to work together from what I have read. It might help just to get your joint legal custody more clearly defined in court as to who is responsible for making each of those decisions.

  I'll still check back once I hear from the child therapist I was referred to...
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  How do you handle a Volitile Ex??

  by Seeking Knowledge in

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  my ex....is an idiot.

  i have had problems with him from the get go when it comes to custody of our son.

  we have gone to court and established some ground rules, which he consistantly bends & twists to suit him.

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  adelmaal

  My divorce was handled in CA and is still in force. Joint Legal Custody, as defined by CA means that EITHER parent has the right to authorize medical treatment or even enroll (or disenroll) the kids in school WITHOUT consulting the other. Barring specific language to the contrary, he does not have to consult you first. (I'm not a lawyer but that is what my lawyer said).

  Hmmm... Not what my therapist told me last week when I asked if she could see my daughter regarding issues she's been having in school and with the holidays. My therapist asked if I had sole custody and when I told her I had joint custody she said she would need signatures from both parents to be able to seem my daughter.

  I will double check with the therapist she referred me to as the lady she referred me to is a child therapist and her husband is also a therapist who does allot of work with the courts.

  I'll update this thread when she calls me back. I would love to be able to take my child to the therapist without her father's consent since JWs in general are not encouraged to see therapists and he has refused on more than one occasion to allow me to take our daughter.
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  It's been awhile, PLEASE HELP

  by apostate man in

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  it's been about 6 months since my last post.

  what a world of shit i am in now.. some of you may recall a thread i started on my problems with my wife found here at http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/forum/thread.aspx?id=24462&site=3 .

  a little update first.

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  So Apostate Man. Don't leave us hanging! What happened with your children? Do you see them? Do you have joint custody? Are they doing ok...

  I know none of you really care so I'll stop

  We do care
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  What would you do if...

  by zeroday in

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  if you are da'd or df'd and an elder from your former hall ran into you in public and tried to engage you in conversation, what would you do.

  would you talk to them or shun them as the rank and file are required to you.

  i would walk away without even acknowledging their existence.

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  adelmaal

  I have no issues with having a non-JW related convo with anyone. I pretty much lift my nose to the whole df thing so I think I would treat that person as I would anyone else. Just cause someone says "your df'd" doesn't mean you need to act any differently. They are the ones acting like wackos by ignoring in the first place. To me ignoring someone is just unnatural. Now avoiding I am all for
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  Name things that suck

  by Elsewhere in

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  mean people.. working on the weekend.

  vacuum cleaners.

  women .

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  adelmaal

  No, the cold metal speculum they insert inside you to do your gyno exam sucks!!!

  You know it! Damn thing actually pinched me last time and I bled for days... Just one of the many joys in being a woman.

  I am so going to get my husband with that TP joke - LOL!!!