Posts by LongHairGal

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I need to vent sorry!

by KerryKing in

i couldn't get back to sleep last night, something my father said a few weeks ago popped into my head.. we were talking about obtaining citizenship, he doesn't need it, but was contemplating what benefits it could get him now he's a pensioner.. background : i've been disfellowhipped for 15 years, i was born in, he is an elder, very much pimi, he was also born in.. i said to him how citizenship would be difficult for him as it would require him to swear allegiance to the state?.

oh he said, thats just a crowd of people together in a big room for the swearing in event, it would be easy to just mumble or say nothing, nobody would know.. this has quietly been eating away in my mind, why did it bother me?.

last night it hit me, when i was in my first year of school, age 5, i came out of school one day with a balloon with two little pencils attached, a gift from a classmate who's birthday it was, every child got one.

LongHairGal

SEA BREEZE:

I also believe people who defend the religion might have Stockholm Syndrome or suffer from Sunk Cost Fallacy.

This is why the older Witness die-hards there are ‘going down with the ship’. Well, let them. These are the people who shunned or tried to assassinate my character because I worked full-time back in the day. I was scoffed at to my face.. Thankfully, I held onto my job until retirement.

People making their way out of the Jehovah’s Witness religion today (especially at an older age) are facing the worst economy in decades. Even people with college degrees have problems finding suitable employment.. How much harder would it be for people climbing their way out of a hole??? I wish Good Luck for all those brave people everywhere!👍🏻

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I've done it: Christmas Lights Outside

by StephaneLaliberte in

lets see if that causes a problem.

i've been inactive for a very long time now (like 10+ years), so, i don't expect to hear anything from it, but my parents are worried i'll get df.

lets see what happens.

LongHairGal

BETH SARIM:

I believe the true purpose to get people not to celebrate holidays is to separate them from their non-Witness family and friends. The goal is to isolate them.

The pagan thing is just a convenient excuse. Besides, other things are pagan like days of the week, the calendar, etc. The religion is afraid if the Witness compares the loving treatment by their non-JW family versus the judgmental coldness they get in the Kingdom Hall they won’t want the JW religion anymore. I am sure some people have figured this out.

In my case, I happily reconnected with estranged family and relatives before it was too late. I am ever grateful for this.

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JWs major in minors!

by Vanderhoven7 in

how do jws major in minors?.

by the way, jws aren't the only ones.. .

LongHairGal

RILEY:

I consider the OP a little vague.

But, regarding your post it is really sad that those singles have only other Jehovah’s Witness to hang out with! In the real world this group would not be thrown together.

It is very unhealthy and stifling that JWs don’t bother with any other groups. (Is this majoring in a minor thing?) As someone not raised in the JWs I thought they were peculiar.

And a 9 year old is a child and should be with children in a similar age range. The most disturbing thing in your post is the 48 year old who never worked a day in his life. Not as uncommon as you might think in the JW religion - ‘mental issues’ or not. You don’t mention if this person is supported by their family. I would assume so.

All in all it’s an unhealthy situation.

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I've done it: Christmas Lights Outside

by StephaneLaliberte in

lets see if that causes a problem.

i've been inactive for a very long time now (like 10+ years), so, i don't expect to hear anything from it, but my parents are worried i'll get df.

lets see what happens.

LongHairGal

STEPHANE LALIBERTE:

Good for you putting up Christmas lights…I am a long-time ‘Fader’ and I don’t care who sees that I now celebrate the Holidays (again).. I wasn’t raised a JW and always loved Christmas.

RON W:

Yeah it really is an abominable religion that won’t leave people in peace.. If any old JW busybodies stumble upon my FB page they will see undeniable proof that I’m into the Christmas spirit.. After all these years, I am well past caring what those miserable people think.

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Any information about a special talk on Marriage in December 2024

by insearchoftruth in

two folks from the local kh visited the house yesterday looking for my wife who is an on again off again baptized jw.

wife was not available so they asked me to tell her about a special talk on marriage next week.

any outlines available for this ‘special talk’ or could this potentially be a local issue?.

LongHairGal

RILEY:

I am really sorry to hear about that JW woman!

When I came into the Witnesses as a young working woman, I saw all the desirable men were taken. The rest I wasn’t interested in.👎 A woman there with any sense has to look outside the religion for a man. The religion definitely has a double standard about finding a partner outside. A man gets a ‘pass’ but a woman is judged. This is because the JW religion wants women around as drudges to do favors. They KNOW once she is married they can no longer freely approach her.. In my case, even though I was single, the answer was always No if they came near me looking for anything… Since I was knocked/shunned for working full-time I wouldn’t do favors for anybody there.

BTW, this DOUBLE STANDARD also applied to secular work/full-time jobs.. A man there wouldn’t be told he should quit a decent job and do housecleaning - but yet these bastards tried this with me.. It didn’t work.

ROAD TO NOWHERE:

Those ‘pioneer leeches’ you describe never got anything from me!! I was outraged that some JWs thought they were not going to work and thought people would give them ‘handouts’.👎.. I felt they should go ask their spiritual friends for $$.

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gossip

by Nancy1919 in

i was once was told by an jw elder it was a rule not to gossip or swear as it could harm someone, but i guess the new light allows this.

it was bad enough when they were calling people worldly now i heard a jw gossiping about someone and it was mean.just another reason i would never go back.

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LongHairGal

FEDUPJW & BALAAMSASS2:

All true what you say. There is no respect for any boundaries whatsoever in the Witnesses and also thinking a single woman is a sexual threat, no matter how absurd it is and how unattractive most of the men were!🙄

I am many years ‘Faded’ and told certain JWs I occasionally communicate with that I would never go back for several reasons - the biggest one being I would never tolerate their lack of boundaries and I would have to tell people off over this and them asking for thing$.👎

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Discouraging JWs From Calling

by NotFormer in

i was reading an anti cult reddit post where a woman (ex mormon) was trying her hardest to discourage the mormons from visiting her and trying to convert her back.

a few others chimed in about their various methods (coming to the door naked, pretending to be practicing black magic, etc.

) which they claimed would have the mormons and jws running away as fast as possible.. somehow, i doubt it.

LongHairGal

I had two Witness men knock on my door over a year ago.

They were working the area and didn’t know me. I was polite to them but gave them an abbreviated story of my experience as a working person who got ‘shunned’ . I said I wouldn’t have retired if I didn’t work.

I said I’d never go back to the religion and am not interested in being asked to give money or charity for people there who hardly worked if at all.. So, I doubt these JWs would call on me again!🤣

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gossip

by Nancy1919 in

i was once was told by an jw elder it was a rule not to gossip or swear as it could harm someone, but i guess the new light allows this.

it was bad enough when they were calling people worldly now i heard a jw gossiping about someone and it was mean.just another reason i would never go back.

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LongHairGal

NANCY1919:

Yes, welcome to the forum.

Witnesses have perfected gossip to an art. There’s absolutely nothing like it! Sadly, they are lacking in Christian qualities like love, kindness and compassion.. Instead, they are filled with secret jealousies, pettiness and every other evil.. All under the mask of righteousness, of course.

Everybody got gossiped about there back when I was in - but it was people like me on the fringes who worked a full-time job that got panned and shunned the most! Also, I wasn’t raised in the religion and there was a subtle bias against people who were not.

I finally ‘Faded’ out of there after their 1995 Generation teaching. Time to leave. I knew they didn’t know what they were talking about and were just stringing everybody along!

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Reddit thread: ‘This Cult is Dying and it Brings Me Joy’

by LongHairGal in

this is an excellent thread to read that i saw yesterday and the poster hits the nail on the head and tells it so well.

he is really knocking pimi witnesses and has a lot of well deserved criticisms about them.. he says he hopes at this point that they never wake up….

i am inclined to feel the same.

LongHairGal

NANCY:

Sad. But this is the delusion too many Witnesses are under after believing false stories and urban legends.. It’s even more tragic when Witnesses were deceived into shunning their own flesh & blood children when they were younger.

Back when they were younger and on their high-horse..their ‘friends’ in the hall encouraged them to shun their inactive children… Well, where are these Witness friends now that said Witnesses reach 90+ years old?? This is the problem listening to stupid people in the hall. They will either move away or pass away. They aren’t gonna be there for anybody!

So, Misguided JWs imagine the Witnesses are going to ‘take care of them’. 🤣 Nothing could be further from the truth. Besides, this multi-billion dollar religion/organization has NO social programs whatsoever. So, there’s no department for free care of the aging! 🤣The religion is notorious for kicking people out of bethel after 30 years with no severance pay, etc…But yet foolish JWs will believe absurdities like this one.

It’s all a mirage and too bad more people there won’t see it. But that’s what happens when you believe a whole lot of fantasies. 👎

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Reddit thread: ‘This Cult is Dying and it Brings Me Joy’

by LongHairGal in

this is an excellent thread to read that i saw yesterday and the poster hits the nail on the head and tells it so well.

he is really knocking pimi witnesses and has a lot of well deserved criticisms about them.. he says he hopes at this point that they never wake up….

i am inclined to feel the same.

LongHairGal

PHIZZY:

Yes, it is unfortunately true that people who leave the Jehovah’s Witnesses lose their friends, contacts and sometimes family members! Even if you don’t lose all your friends right away, in time they will all be gone.

I understand these losses are really terrible for born-ins and I wish there was a way to alleviate this.. For somebody like me..who was NOT raised in and came in a young working adult with no family there - the loss was nonexistent.

I view the Witnesses like people I worked with on an unpleasant job I had years ago.

I was so elated to be done with it (I ‘Faded’ after the 1995 Generation teaching) and to reconnect with relatives/old friends that it was well worth it to ‘lose’ judgmental acquaintances.... Likewise, it was worth every nickel to be shunned (by these PIMI die-hards) because I worked full-time.

My experience in the JWs was a life lesson learned and I’m glad it’s all in the past.