Posts by love11

cy- I've tried that, but I think because I'm so laid back they are just like ya ya mom. At some times they are so against helping that it is like pulling teeth. One of these days I'll get the hang of this! haha. I'm really not a wimp but when it comes to my kids I can't help but spoil them. I love em' like crazy but every once in awhile it just gets too much. I'm going to take a class next fall in Child Psych. so hopefully that helps.

Thanks everybody for the info. Love

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Should I write/ call my sisters?

by love11 in

i know that i asked before whether or not you thought i should talk to them again.

but i can't help feeling so guilty as to how things were left.

i know that they are at fault for us not having a relationship but i feel like the last words we say to each other shouldn't be mean just in case something should happen to one of us.

love11

Thanks Crumpet & Lehaa- I haven't decided what to do yet, partly because I'm still torn on what I would say. It's not my fault that we do not talk, so why should I make the first move towards a relationship. I guess it's because I feel it's not right that our family treat each other this way. But I guess you can't make someone do what they don't want to do. I'm still thinking about it. You had a good point about writing to them but not sending it. I just am at a lose for words. I'm not angry, I'm not hateful, I just thought being family we should act like we are family, but they don't want to go along with it, so what do you do? I don't know, but I'm not going to throw myself at them. I guess it just means I won't have an extended family in them. Since I don't even know them anymore, maybe it's not such a bad thing.

"If you don't know what to do, don't do anything at all." - from my grandma.

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Strange Dream... I woke up in 1989

by Elsewhere in

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i just had the strangest dream.

in the dream i went to bed tonight but when i awoke in the morning it was 1989 and i was still in high school.

i was in my younger body but with all of my current knowledge.

love11

I wouldn't have cut my hair. I would have stopped hair spraying my hair up to heights beyond belief.

I would have insisted on wearing contacts, shaving my legs, and wearing makeup.

I would have made my parents take me to a dermatologist. Oh how things have changed!

I would have given myself more credit for being a good kid that they failed to see.

I would have reported my dad to authorities instead of the elders. But then again, I would have lost my family alot quicker doing it that way.

I don't think that the amount of wisdom I have now would have been healthy for a 14 year old to carry around. But I would have liked having the confidence I have now.

At that time, I loved my family, I loved my religion, I was just starting to get annoyed at all of the rules they burden you with.

But in the end I have to say, no regrets! I did the best I could for the time in my life that it was.

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Should I write/ call my sisters?

by love11 in

i know that i asked before whether or not you thought i should talk to them again.

but i can't help feeling so guilty as to how things were left.

i know that they are at fault for us not having a relationship but i feel like the last words we say to each other shouldn't be mean just in case something should happen to one of us.

love11

Thanks Love-

I read elsewhere's letter. Very touching.

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CANADIAN WTBS CHANGES it's name

by Jez in

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letter read tonight.

said that the "watchtower bible and tract society of canada" will change its letterheads and signature to "christian congregation of jehovah's witnesses".

jez

love11

WOW I'm still shocked that the U.S. changed it's name. Must have something to do with financial reasons I'm sure.

What would happen if the new pope said that catholics are now going to be called vatican followers? I don't think it would fly. JW's will passively follow whatever the "Christian Congregations of Jehovah's Witnesses" say. Crazy.

I asked my mother once, "What would you do if the organization said that you should kill your first born child just like in the Abraham/ Isaac story?" She said she would have to follow "Jehovah's" orders even though it would break her heart.

Talk about a pyramid scheme gone awry!!!!

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Should I write/ call my sisters?

by love11 in

i know that i asked before whether or not you thought i should talk to them again.

but i can't help feeling so guilty as to how things were left.

i know that they are at fault for us not having a relationship but i feel like the last words we say to each other shouldn't be mean just in case something should happen to one of us.

love11

Ya I did. That was inspiring but I'm not sure I would have the same response as she did. Too much bad blood.

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Can you be "just friends" ?

by ScoobySnax in

ok this one is 2 fold..... tonight i was chatting to my ex on the internet and despite 5 years elapsing, he wants to go out for a beer.

he was a creep at the time we split, good looking and all the rest, but prone to violent outbursts and had this knack of making me think i didn't need any other friends (i gradually dropped them all) whilst all the time becoming more controlling........it messed up my head at the time.

(like a dumb twat i even gave him all my visa cards as he said he'd be better at managing "our" money) apparently he is now a changed person, and i am too, no longer as gullible as i once was.

love11

First of all- Only you know him well and what he is capable of doing. Do you think he would start trouble with you right before leaving town or do you think he just wants to say his last goodbyes? If so, it could mean closure for you and him.

Secondly- Does this gay friend of yours have any feelings towards you what-so-ever? Be honest with yourself. If she does, than it wouldn't be wise to go into a business deal with her because if any bad blood stirs up it will seem like a divorce where you could cut the air with a knife. In my past experiences, living with someone else has been a sure way of ruining a friendship. But maybe you two really work well together and it would be great. Have you tried living together first for a trial run at it? See what happens!

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Should I write/ call my sisters?

by love11 in

i know that i asked before whether or not you thought i should talk to them again.

but i can't help feeling so guilty as to how things were left.

i know that they are at fault for us not having a relationship but i feel like the last words we say to each other shouldn't be mean just in case something should happen to one of us.

love11

I know that I asked before whether or not you thought I should talk to them again. But I can't help feeling so guilty as to how things were left. I know that they are at fault for us not having a relationship but I feel like the last words we say to each other shouldn't be mean just in case something should happen to one of us. I want to leave things on a better note but that doesn't mean I want them back in my life again because of their abusive behavior. What should I say to get that across? How do I leave it on a positive note. Below is a link that tells more about my original question if you're interested.

http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/6/87228/1.ashx