For me, once I was dsf and found out how the jw's really were it was like finding out that Santa isn't real at 18 years old. Now I feel that if there is a God/Goddess out there, than how can any human really know it's name or it's likes and dislikes? I think we're all just making it up as we go along. I think people create a god/goddess because they think that they cannot take control of their own life and to send their pain, guilt, worries, whatever out of themselves. If there is a Jehovah god than I don't agree with his viewpoints. I think it's cruel to kill others just because those people decide to call god by a different name. My kids can call me mom, (my first name), Mrs. ____, or mommy. And I would never kill them. If I, as a human being, have that much common sense than I expect my God/Goddess to have more sense than that. I guess I'm more of the sceptic these days, thanks to the watch tower.
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Does anyone Love Jehovah anymore?
by defd in.
i know people have left for people issues but what about jehovah god and jesus?
what have they done?.
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I've adopted a new baby!
by liquidsky injust though i'd share a picture of my new child.
her name is hoshi.
isn't she adorable?.
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love11
What a sweety! I've had rabbits before as a kid but never that cute and little! Mine were always trying to hump each other and I finally gave up on trying to keep the pee stains off of them. I don't think they were quite right! Anyways, glad to see such a pretty one.
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Hi Guys and Gals
by The Chuckler injust a quick hello.
i've been lurking for ages and thought it about time i put my fo'penneth in.
i was raised a dubby but fell away when 18. never felt it was the truth, maybe it was just me who isn't religious.
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Hi! Can't wait to hear more from ya.
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What more is there to the equation than "happiness"? It's not enough.
by AlmostAtheist inthe thread on "happy jw's" got me to thinking about this.
there really are some truly happy jw's.
maybe it's because they don't take all the "do more, do more" stuff to heart and just do what they think is "enough".
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Living up to your own expectations of what it means for you to be happy. No one can say that there is only one type of happiness. Some people are happy in jobs or relationships that if I was in, I think I'd want to kill myself. And those people probably wouldn't want my life either. But I'm happy and that's all that matters. I guess the real question is- What fills you?
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Okay, what made YOUR day ... Enquiring Minds want to know !!!
by talesin ini'll share first.
here's what made my day so far .... .
~ fresh asparagus ... steamed ... slathered in butter.
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Tonight I'm going out with my husband without the kids. I don't know where we're going yet... it's a suprise. I've gotten all ready to go and I caught a glimps of myself in the mirror . I must say, I'm looking pretty fine.
And an old neighbor called me and we had a good conversation.
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Making new friends after fading
by M@el5trom inwhat are some good methods for finding and making new friends after fading away?
i know this is critical to help myself and my wife to move on, and we both have suffered from depression partly because we are isolated to each other for now.
we are good friends, but we both feel the need for others also.
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love11
I'm going through that same problem myself. I have been out for 10 years now and was afraid to make friends. I believed that I would never have anything in common with someone ever again. I wasn't a jw and I wasn't in " the world", just sort of in limbo. Now I realize that there is no " people in the world", just people. They always made it seem like everybody that wasn't a jw was a mass murdering satanic worshiper and the good people were just waiting to become a new jw. Don't let them scare you from making friends. They want you to be in solitary confinementso that you will come running back to them for some kind of human contact.
For me, I have found strength in my ex-jw friend and my husband. Also, writing on this forum and reading others comments,have helped me realize that everybody has a hard time in their life that they went through. I believe the thing that has stopped me from making friends has been shame. It's embarrasing to say you were a jw. I remember the first year I celebrated holidays,I felt so stupid because I didn't know how to color easter eggs, I didn't know you had to water the christmas tree, and I didn't get that at 20years old it wasn't ok to go trick or treating anymore. I laugh at it now, but it was hard for me to blend in when you're raised in this cult bubble. I'm still learning but I feel that I am happier with my life because I no longer carry the shame that they try to put on you. I believe that the way you are raised is not your fault and that as an impressionable child you cannot be held accountable for your actions. But rather, it gives me more character saying that I came from such a crazy childhood. Exposing them for who they are and finding out who I really am have been the most healing for me. Good luck in making good friends.... I'm going to be more open to other people this year too. Tell us how it goes!
So so long of a post- I blame insomnia!
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Did you ever see a TRULY happy JW?
by cyborgVision ini mean seriously, most of us have been inside for a number of years.
so during all this time did you ever see happy person or a family or were you ever truly happy there, even for a brief period of time?
if you were happy, when was it?
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I've always tried to be happy, even when things were really bad in my family. I appreciated every little thing. If it was hot in field service the only thing I remembered was having fun with my friends and having an ice cream cone on our break. I think it was the only thing that kept me sane.
But, most adults I knew at the hall were either on anti-depressants or were mentally ill. When I grew up I would hear all the gossip and my mother talking about other people. (in this case the gossip was true and most of this I heard straight from the source.) Before I got disfellowshipped, I remember sitting in the back row and looking at each seat and saying to myself who was on medication and who wasn't. I was shocked, about 80% of them were on anti-depressants and the ones who weren't on any med's , I knew of severe abuse going on in that family. By the time I was done mentally weeding out all the people on med's or abusive tendencies, there were only 3 adults left. Those people are now disfellowshipped. Now that's the truth!
In my opinion- people that need to be in such a controlling religion as that, have to have something wrong with them or they just don't know what they've gotten themselves into and eventually find out.
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Just wanted to say, im going back to the meetings-----------------IM SORRY
by vitty in.
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love11
You actually got me to feel sorry for you. Glad to hear you haven't lost your mind.
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JW is caught swearing on PEOPLE'S COURT
by carefully faded ini'm watching people's court right now while i'm surfing the net.
and perked up when i heard the words "kingdom hall".
turns out the plaintiff, an elderly woman, is a jw and mentioned during her testimony that she was on the way to kingdom hall when her car started knocking and making noises.
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My friend called me and told me about this. She said the lady looked whacked!
Once the elders hear about this she'll probably be dsf for "smearing jehovah's name". More like, making the jw's look stupid! But then again, they don't need her for that.
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Don't know exactly your situation, but don't let guilt get the better of you- it's a mental prison! Hopefully you're not losing your family as well as your religion, like most of us have. xoxoxoxox Best Wishes to the good ones! That means you!