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  Encouragement for Codeblue

  by bebu in

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  hey everyone,.

  codeblue is needing some major cheering up.

  she's been hit very hard by some very difficult news recently, and i know it's been very hard for her these days.

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  evita

  Hugs to you Code Blue
  Hope things are better for you soon.
  Eva
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  The JW phrase I most despise is...

  by exwitless in

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  "need greaters" ugh!!

  i hate that phrase and i always have.

  we knew a jw couple who applied every year to bethel and giliad until the age cut-off (age 35 or 40?).

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  evita

  Even after being out for over 20 years- I get nauseous when I hear the phrase "in the truth". I get confused when I hear someone use the expression "he gave a talk". Is this witness speak or does everyone else use this expression also? I recently accidentally used the word "behooved" in conversation with a friend. She was like WTF did you say? Oops!
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  Which did you fear more as a JW, God or the Elders?

  by JH in

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  i felt that god understood if i missed meetings or didn't go out in the field service very much, but the elders wouldn't.. bottom line, i feared the elders more ...... that's pretty sad.

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  evita

  I was a JW during my teens and into my very early 20's. I lived in terror of losing the approval of my mom and the congregation big-wigs. I was sick with shame and fear when I did something that wasn't approved of by the organization. . Jehovah was an abstraction that I couldn't relate to. But the fear of man was very real to me. Eva
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  garybuss

  by evita in

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  garybuss

  your sense of humor makes my day!

  thanks for showing up here to provide insight and comic relief.

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  evita

  garybuss Your sense of humor makes my day! Thanks for showing up here to provide insight and comic relief. Eva
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  What would you do? everyones input please!

  by restrangled in

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  i have a great neighbor who has always looked out for us and sent over very expensive pet food at no cost because she is in the business.. she has been a great neighbor all around for many years.

  her daughter and my son are very good friends.. just this week she asked my son to take care of her pets.

  he went surfing today and asked me to cover.. when i went over i was so alarmed, and came back so depressed i do not know what to do.. it is an 800 square foot house with 2 dogs, must be 8 fish tanks full of turtles, a cat,and a parrot sitting in a dusty cage in the dark.

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  evita

  We own a small house which we rent out. Our most recent tenants ( a couple with 2 teenaged sons) stopped paying rent so we were forced to evict them. They had been there for one year and we agonized over evicting them. When we walked into the house, all sympathy was gone. You have never seen such a disgusting mess! They had a parrot which crapped over every inch of the wall-to-wall carpeting. It chewed up the corners of the walls and the mantel. The boys had makeshift rooms out in the garage (we didn't know this) which were absolutely filthy, with food and junk all over and graffiti on the walls. We are astounded as to how people let their lives fall apart like this. I am not the best housekeeper in the world and it's a challenge to get everyone to pitch in to keep our living environment clean and peaceful. But we keep working at it. It's so depressing when we go over to the rental to clean and it will take us a long time to recoup our losses on this one. Everyone has different standards in the cleanliness department but you can tell when folks just give up. It's not healthy.
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  What's it like?

  by Jerohobobonadad in

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  hello all.. i have always wondered what feelings people have in the hours/minutes prior to getting baptised, the seconds immediately afterwards and then the first few hours thereafter?.

  i've never done it, but it seems like it would be a real head f-!.

  anyone willing to share their experiences?.

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  evita

  I have a pic of me, my mom, and a friend right after my baptism. We are all red-eyed from crying. I was 15 and it was a very emotional and exciting time. For the first time in a long time, everyone was happy with me and I got a lot of attention. Did I believe it was the "truth". I wasn't thinking very deeply at that point. I was just trying to get through my teen years the best I could.
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  When are you most susceptible to painful Watchtower memories?

  by The wanderer in

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  untitled document <!-- .style1 {font-family: verdana} --> painful watchtower memoriesthis subject is not an easy one to talk about so.

  perhaps you should consider your thoughts very.

  carefully before you answer.. the summer months are some of the most trying times .

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  When I am tired or overwhelmed I really miss my mom who died almost 2 years ago. She was a devoted JW for over 30 years and my only relative in the religion. Thinking of my sad relationship with my mom makes me relive the past and the years I spent as a dub. I try to live in the present moment and not rehash old memories. I loved my mom but I lost her to a religion made up by a couple of nutty old guys. Sometimes that's just hard to accept and makes me cry with frustration and regret. Eva
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  I Was in a Bad Collision

  by Amazing in

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  last night, i was struck nearly head-on by a person attempting a left turn as i passed through the intersection.

  i was injured, as well as the other driver.

  the police told me that he broke his arm, and was in shock.

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  evita

  I was in a bad accident when in my early 20's. Not seriously hurt, but I still remember how scared and shaky I felt for several days after. I'm so glad you're okay.
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  I can be honest here.

  by RichieRich in

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  (sorry hit enter a little early).

  so, i looked at my cell phone today, and i had a voicemail from my mother.. i called my voicemail and listened to it:.

  "hi richie, this is your mother, just wanted to say i hope you're doing ok, and i love you.

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  evita

  This is an emotional roller coaster ride of hope, sadness, and despair. I know because I went through it with my mom for over 20 years. Keep trying with your mother; losing touch can do so much damage to the mother/child bond. The more time goes by, the harder it is to repair the relationship. Hugs to you Richie, you're a sweet guy underneath all those tattoos.
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  My Experience (become JW and DF)

  by windchime in

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  hello guys!

  first let me tell you my life as jw.

  i was born in 1969 at northern side of japan and started bible study with my brother when i was 10. later my mother joined and baptized when i was high school student.

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  evita

  Welcome windchime
  Thank you for sharing your story. I'm glad you found the courage to leave the religion and find your own happiness. It can take a long time to let go of the belief system and conflicted feelings but it sounds like you are on your way.
  Looking forward to hearing more from you.