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  Need help with parents

  by 5thGeneration in

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  my wife is having a problem.

  she has so many issues and is always talking to her parents about them.

  they consistently agree with her, to the point that they skip meeting where things they don't agree with are discussed.

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  I'm trying to think of what it took for me to let go of the need for approval from my folks, and I can't. Suddenly, they weren't my problem any more. I think Mr Frass helped in that he has made me appreciate myself, and think about myself more; my life, where I'm going, our future. I had to accept that I'm never going to please them, and convince myself that this is okay. It was hard, because I really love my parents, but that's a different thing to agreeing to set myself back to please them.

  It feels selfish, but it really isn't. Our parents have had their chance to influence us, and there is an age at which we have to make our own choices. Your wife and I are well past that age.
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  how do you feel about mandatory military service?

  by The Humper in

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  i was watching the democratic debate on tv today, well some of it, and this was one of the topics.

  personally i think that it woldnt be a bad thing at all.

  many countries do it and have no problems.

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  I think that if a county can't convince enough kids to go get themselves killed, that country should look at why they're running this war in the first place. It's bad enough for the kids over there who signed up believing in it, but it would be a cognitive hell for anybody who has never wanted to be there.
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  Zone talk by David Splane - Four figurative giants - Education etc

  by truthseeker in

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  found this interesting talk on e-watchman's site.

  it was given by david splane, a gb member.. the talk is really interesting as it gives a more focused look at the troubles the society is facing as it trys to cope with education, peer pressure etc.. .

  http://e-jehovahs-witnesses.com/forum/index.php?showtopic=454.

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  I constantly boggles me that these guys can be so deluded, and that none of the emperors assistants (other guys in bethel who can see the stupidity) can stick around watching it. I guess it would create a deeply suspicious and distrustful culture, with all those kitchenhands fighting over promotions. King shyte of turd hill.
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  Why did you leave the org?

  by A-Team in

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  were you dfed, did you find out some lies about the org?.

  what was the last straw?

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  sass_my_frass

  Dfd; I had to be kicked out. Second-best thing that's ever happened to me. If those guys had had a heart and shown mercy, I'd still be dangerously depressed and ruining my marriage.

  WELCOME to our newbies!! You've really cheered me up today; it's just so great to know that three more people have found that exhilarating liberation. Congratulations, and welcome to life!! What a ride.
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  Career Advice Please

  by brinjen in

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  i've started this thread as i'm currently working in customer service and am looking for a change.

  i've just spent the better part of the day on the local university's website going through their "career decider" answering questions on education, skills, interests, lifestyle the works.

  i entered a strong interest in both the arts as well as computers and electronics.

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  sass_my_frass

  Hi Brinjen, I can only suggest that I don't think that there is a job in the world that doesn't get a bit ho-hum sometimes. Okay, there might be say 1% of jobs which bring nothing but fulfillment and satisfaction, but it's generally a non-financial reward.

  I'm five units into an undergrad degree with www.open.edu.au - I have picked a course which isn't exactly what I want to do, partly because I'm not sure of exactly what I want to do, but partly because it's what work would pay for. Larger employers are required to pay for your training and you should be able to get fees covered for it; it makes a difference (my $25K degree will be basically free).
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  JW chick just joined my sports team

  by sass_my_frass in

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  a guy i work with organises three teams entering a little lunchtime sports competition.

  i joined in last season for the first time, and this season mr frass joins my team also.

  i just got the team list, and it looks like a last-minute entry on my team is the only jw in the building.

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  If it gets talked about, you won't be the bad guy.

  I dunno... I hear scraps of gossip that indicate to me that the JW whitewash machine does a pretty good job. The other day my nan told me about something she'd told her counsellor; she'd mentioned that her daughter (my mum) has been through a trauma (meaning mum is traumatised by me being disfellowshipped). It seems that mum has done an excellent propaganda job on why the siblings don't talk to me anymore. I think everybody thinks it's me who doesn't talk to them.

  I think this girl still lives with her parents; another poster here knows her and says she's very conservative, so I'm glad for her that she's playing sports with folks from work. Still, I'm pretty sure she'll not consider it a work-related thing, and pull out of the team as soon as she knows I'm in. It's just a lunchtime game. She'll probably immediately decide that this is why Jehovah says we shouldn't associate with workmates; we never know when we'll run into scary apostates. Satan is clearly behind her involvement in the game in the first place.
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  ARMAGEDDON IMMINENT WTS PR media push !

  by DannyHaszard in

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  splashy watchtower pr puff piece extravaganza

  photo and video

  walking for jehovah

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  sass_my_frass

  I just don't get why they don't hire a good PR firm and run a superbowl ad. OH YEAH, that would do nothing re proving santa a liar.
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  JW chick just joined my sports team

  by sass_my_frass in

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  a guy i work with organises three teams entering a little lunchtime sports competition.

  i joined in last season for the first time, and this season mr frass joins my team also.

  i just got the team list, and it looks like a last-minute entry on my team is the only jw in the building.

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  sass_my_frass

  A guy I work with organises three teams entering a little lunchtime sports competition. I joined in last season for the first time, and this season Mr Frass joins my team also. I just got the team list, and it looks like a last-minute entry on my team is the only JW in the building. She barely knows me (it's a big office) but would have seen me around and know I'm out (dfd), but I don't think she knows my new name, so wouldn't know that she should be alarmed about going along to play next week.

  I told the organiser about the situation, and that she's likely to want to switch teams, but I think she'll just quit, which is a bummer because we're always short of females. I've worked out why I'm unhappy about the situation; here I am getting on with my life and having fun with my friends, some of whom I've known from work for a few years and some of whom are newer friends I've made since moving back. All it takes is one shunning event to make everything awkward and suckful. Also, it's a work thing, so my team are also distant colleagues, and if it gets talked about, I just know it will be me who turns out to be the bad guy, just for mentioning religion (the untouchable PC topic).

  Goddammit, these guys were my friends first!! *pout*
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  The Underbelly is exposed...........

  by AK - Jeff in

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  what proactive things have you done [or intend to do] to warn others about the cult you have escaped?

  the unfortunate fact of life is that we tend to look only at our own personal benefits from leaving the cult if not careful.

  or we give up after a failed attempt.

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  Have you given up and just elected to live life with little concern for those who were, perhaps not long ago, your 'brothers and sisters'?

  Yes: mostly because it is my opinion that the process of exiting WBTS begins, is progressed, and ends entirely with the person exiting. Others can only support. Anybody who tries to get the process started actually prevents it, and speeding it up sends it backwards. I know this is bad news for people who have beloved ones trapped by it, but, like I said, just my opinion.

  I also think that my primary responsibility is to myself and my marriage. I don't have the interest or energy to play the stressful, complex, depressing game of caring for these people who treat me as if I am dead.
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  Sharing a bed

  by sass_my_frass in

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  this is ot (like half of the topics in 'friends'), and a bit personal, but i don't actually have that many friends that i can talk about this with, so here goes.... mr frass and i believe we're very happily married, and we're very affectionate.

  trouble is, around midnight many nights, i'm finding that i can't get comfortable and sleep.

  i need to turn around a lot, cuddle a spare pillow in *just* the right way etc.

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  It occurred to me that I hadn't exercised in two weeks, so I wasn't really all that tired, and not tired enough to sleep soundly. I've gotten myself back to the gym twice a week and that has helped already!