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  The best revenge

  by Junction-Guy in

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  so are you happier outside the jw's than inside?.

  do you like having freedom, or are circumstances too overwhelming to appreciate it now?

  is happiness in small things possible, even when we're still in the process of "getting it all together"?

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  This just in:

  People who have had a more 'normal' life generally pick up a few interests and hobbies along the way. We got to adulthood without exploring anything that we might enjoy or have talent in. Over the next year, try fifty things you want to do. That's not the big stuff like working out who you are, figuring out the meaning of life etc. I just mean the little things - hobbies. Try cooking, dancing, join sports teams, try bodybuilding, yoga, mechanics, kitemaking, trainspotting, literature, birdwatching, car racing, painting, studying, gardening, movie clubs, chess, volunteering, warcraft... you get the picture. Do it all. Start filling the big hole in your life with other stuff. Eventually you've gotta hit something that really takes your interest, and that you are really good at. That will be fantastic for how you feel about yourself.
  
  What is working for me, now that I'm free of the concepts of my childhood, is study (doing a degree) and volunteering. The first is great because I'm learning that I'm pretty smart and that there is SO much out there. The second is great because I get to compare my life to other people whose lives are really considerably crapper than mine. That's really what has gotten me out of my bubble. I'm grateful I'm me now. When I was depressed it would have been no help at all for somebody to say that to me, I had to see it for myself.
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  Ashamed of my dear father 12 days ago...first time ever.

  by oompa in

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  i don't remember if i have posted about this form some obvious reasons.

  my mom and dad were helping me with an outdoor project at home, and my df's son stopped by.

  i knew he was in the area and told him to stop by.

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  You have a far greater responsibility to your son than your father. Pick a side for a while (pick your son...). Show dad what it's like to be cut off.

  Obviously, don't tell him that's what you're doing. Just make him be the one to maintain contact, and make it hard work for him.
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  A Moment of Silence For Linda

  by BFD in

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  Favorite All time Beatles Song- Please List

  by flipper in

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  i've been inspired by ip sec here starting a thread on all time favorite led zeppelin songs.

  so i will give credit where credit is due, thanks, ip sec !!

  so what was your favorite beatles song of all time ?

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  "Aren't we all dead?"
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  My Mom's Reaction On The Phone...Please Help Me Understand

  by deaconbluez in

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  after i wrote my parents a 10-page letter going into detail about all of the problems with the watchtower, along with documented evidence of false prophecies/predictions, flip-flops in doctrine, as well as many good reasoning points, she put up some very strong defenses over the phone.

  at first she said that she read the letter.

  then when we got on a topic that was covered in the letter, and i could see that she didn't comprehend the point that i was making, i would ask her, "are you sure you read the letter?

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  sass_my_frass

  She's going to grasp onto simple explanations to get her through it - 'you are bitter and angry', 'satan has blinded you'...

  It's a big shock to them. Give her a lot of time, patience and kindness. Sometimes you'll have to treat her as if she is very emotionally fragile, or a person with a mental illness. Sometimes she'll get it. Just live your life and be happy, and don't become a stranger to her - she's your mother, and very deep down that's the most important thing to her.
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  I need help -- What is the WT stance?

  by reneeisorym in

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  2. bible

  i swear i remember that you can't eat with a dfed person even if they live in the same house.

  (for example, a jw husband can't eat with his dfed wife).

  did i make this up or is that the truth?.

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  sass_my_frass

  Anyone who is feeling the sadness and pain that the disfellowshipped relative has thus caused may find comfort and be encouraged by the example set by some of Korah's relatives.—Psalm 84:10-12.

  One day I might tell my poor sad lunatic mum that she should be encouraged by the example of Korah's relatives.
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  Assistance requested before someone ends up spending mucho $$$$!

  by JBean in

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  hi everyone... i have a "hypothetical" situation... here's the issue: i have an "ex" (baptised but no longer involved with the jws)... we got divorced legally, but not for "scriptual" reasons (not because of adultery) said ex has now moved away but it has been found out that they are living with a member of the opposite sex.

  same mailing address, single family home, etc.

  is this enough grounds for disfellowshipping?

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  Why do you need your ex disfellowshipped? What will that achieve?

  Any JC needs a confession or two witnesses. A non-JW, or inactive JW, is not a reliable witness.
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  Mr. Flipper witnesses to Elder in Front of Store on Child Abuse Settlements

  by flipper in

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  2. child-abuse

  hello folks .

  as other posters have mentioned , i feel , too , that this is something that needs to be kept in the forefront of practicing jehovah's witnesses minds , as they will never hear about these settlements from their elders or governing body.

  so , you folks know me well enough that i don't have a shy bone in my body , and if i see an opportunity i will take it.

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  To be honest, I think that when they have to go deep into defence mode, it only pushes them deeper into their convictions. You saw how easily he was able to dismiss the 'apostate' Bill Bowen. You probably shook him up a bit, but he's only going to remember you disrespecting his precious magazines. He'll label you as an angry bitter apostate too.

  You can't be aggressive, they just close up.
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  Will they disfellowship or not - cast your bets here!

  by dobbie in

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  so someone in my hubbys family who has been shunning me and i have not been able to see her kids etc and said it was my choice to leave so i must accept the consequences etc has been caught out.

  she's had three affairs over the last two years, with both sexes plus watching porn sex toys etc .

  anyway its her final jc meeting tonight, so do you reckon (and she has told them she can't say it definately won't happen again!

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  Sheez, the poor chica. I hope she's okay.
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  Someone else new & could do with as much help as they can get.

  by Mr. Majestic in

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  i would like to say hello and introduce myself.

  i have read this forum for a while, didnt know that it existed till some one showed me it, (fellow rebel) about a year ago.

  now the only way that i will get help is to go into it, something i really dont wish to do but know that i have to.

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  sass_my_frass

  Re that empty pit; you absolutely have to fill it up with something else. We had a big thing that was everything to us. Now it's a big hole. It's hard to find something that fits into it and fills it, but you have to keep looking. You gotta be brave.