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  Do JWs contribute to co-dependency behavior?

  by love2Bworldly in

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  i was a jw from age 12 to age 21. i also had an extremely dysfunctional family.

  i am sitting here at work (work is slow) and i am wondering whether there was a bigger influence on me to have co-dependency behavior from my life as a jw or the fact that my family was really messed up.. i am thinking about the fact that i am soon to be divorced from a second person who has an addictive personality and/or abusive type of personality, and i am wondering how much influence the jws instilled in me to marry quickly and try to make that marriage work even after finding out how dysfunctional that person is.. i am not looking for excuses or blame.

  i know i am the one who made the wrong choices.

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  LL--I've heard of those books. I think I'll look for them this weekend at the bookstore. I am doing a self-analysis, because I am so frustrated with my life right now and the fact that I keep repeating the same cycles and making the same stupid mistakes. I feel really down right now, I feel like every time I think I've changed or improved my behavior patterns, I wind up in the same place I was before. I've been through counseling already and don't feel like doing more of it right now. I think I just need to become more involved in the Unity Church I am attending and talk to the minister there.

  Anyway, it's Friday and time to leave the office. I'll check this thread on Monday and see what other comments people will make. Have a good weekend all.
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  Do JWs contribute to co-dependency behavior?

  by love2Bworldly in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i was a jw from age 12 to age 21. i also had an extremely dysfunctional family.

  i am sitting here at work (work is slow) and i am wondering whether there was a bigger influence on me to have co-dependency behavior from my life as a jw or the fact that my family was really messed up.. i am thinking about the fact that i am soon to be divorced from a second person who has an addictive personality and/or abusive type of personality, and i am wondering how much influence the jws instilled in me to marry quickly and try to make that marriage work even after finding out how dysfunctional that person is.. i am not looking for excuses or blame.

  i know i am the one who made the wrong choices.

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  love2Bworldly

  I was a JW from age 12 to age 21. I also had an extremely dysfunctional family. I am sitting here at work (work is slow) and I am wondering whether there was a bigger influence on me to have co-dependency behavior from my life as a JW or the fact that my family was really messed up.

  I am thinking about the fact that I am soon to be divorced from a second person who has an addictive personality and/or abusive type of personality, and I am wondering how much influence the JWs instilled in me to marry quickly and try to make that marriage work even after finding out how dysfunctional that person is.

  I am not looking for excuses or blame. I know I am the one who made the wrong choices. But sometimes I wonder how much influence the JWs have had on my life of poor choices?

  Any thoughts on whether you think my growing up in a dysfunctional family, or whether you think the JWs had more of an influence on the bad decisions I've made?
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  What's Your All Time Favorite Movie & TV Show?

  by minimus in

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  i love goodfellas with robert deniro and joe pesci.

  in the 80's i faithfully watched taxi with a great ensemble cast featuring marilu henner, judd hirsch and of course, reverend jim.

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  Old tv shows: Wonder Years, Who's the Boss, other show--can't remember the name about the family with 2 boys & 1 girl and the dad was a psychiatrist.

  New tv shows: House, Bones, Law & Order

  Comedy Movies: Liar Liar, Meet the Parents, What About Bob, Elf

  (sorry I can't name just one!)
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  Our Witness daughter is not allowed to talk to us.

  by Dogpatch in

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  from mercury online in the u.k.. our witness daughter is not allowed to talk to us.. they were once devoted believers-but a husband and wife say their faith has been tested and their family torn apart after they were thrown out of the jehovah`s witnesses.

  members of the bradwell congregation- including their only child, a daughter- are now forbidden from speaking to david and brenda gibbons since they were forced to leave.

  they were thrown out by a judicial committee at great yarmouth kingdom hall in july, after writing a letter containing personal criticism to another member of the congregation.

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  Very heartbreaking. That's why I've been teaching my 3 kids how bad that evil religion is and what they believe, so that my kids will be smart enough to avoid being trapped by a cult.
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  Witness mother's and jealousy towards their daughters...

  by kittyeatzjdubs in

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  ladies, growing up, did you ever feel that your mother resented or was jealous of you?

  whenever i would get a compliment from someone, especially males, she would always find someway to turn right around and insult me in front of everyone.

  we were at dinner one time with the co and he told me that i was a very beautiful young lady.

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  JoJo--hard to believe someone could be so cruel! Growing up, my non JW father would often say unkind things to me and my siblings and never had a good word to say to us; now that my dad is old and I am grown--I realize how miserable he has been his whole life, he's a depressed and negative person and always finds fault. He also has no tolerance for young children--he is much nicer to my kids now that they are older, and I also have a better relationship with him because I'm an adult.

  Because I remember how much hurt could be inflicted by an innocent remark by my dad, I have always been very careful with my kids not to say unkind or cutting remarks even if I'm angry with them. The good thing is that my kids have much higher self-esteems than I did growing up.
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  Autumn

  by cruzanheart in

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  mmm, this is my favorite time of year in texas!

  our trees aren't as brilliantly colorful as new england's, but they do turn colors, the weather cools off, our electric bill is cut at least in half, my roses explode with blooms one last time before winter, there is a golden glow as the sun sets, and i get the cooking bug.

  today i'm making homemade bread, clam chowder, sauteed and baked chicken breasts (2/3 of which will be used for homemade chicken enchiladas in a couple of days) and a pumpkin pie.

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  MY FAVORITE TIME OF YEAR!!!

  I live in the "City of Trees", that's our nickname. It is beautiful right now, and I love it when it starts raining and all the leaves are blowing in the wind. I am planning Thanksgiving dinner already, thinking about what I want to cook. I love the holiday season!
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  Who is DF/DA or Fader???

  by mama1119 in

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  i was just wondering, how many dfed to we have on here compared to da or faders??

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  I was DF, reinstupid I mean reinstated, then faded about 15 years ago.
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  Um..hi...I'm new too!

  by Ex-Jo Ho in

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  wow!

  i came across this site and i felt a huge weight come off of my shoulders!

  someone understands!

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  Welcome! This board has new people every day! We truly are the great crowd increasing in numbers, not the Jdumbs!

  I like your name exJoHo!!!
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  It happened.....

  by lavendar in

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  2. experiences

  our son, who is married to a witness, has just announced that he can no longer take part in holiday celebrations of any kind.

  he is slowly being sucked into this org., and we are heart sick about it.

  from what we understand, he has to purge his life of all these "horrible" things (like birthday celebrations, etc.

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  I wish you much luck. Explain to him what will happen if he changes his mind one day about wanting to be involved with the Witnesses, and how his own children would shun him.
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  [Fluff] - Celebrity Crushes!

  by daystar in

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  i'll admit that for as far back as i can remember, i've picked up little crushes on celebrities.

  i think one of my first crushes was on olivia newton-john after seeing her in grease at 5 years old and later in xanadu.. i've had crushes on:.

  jennifer connelly (labrynth)gwyneth paltrow (hook briefly and later emma)cate blanchett (elizabeth, pushing tin)meredith salenger (the journey of natty gann, but especially, especially, in dream a little dream)kate beckingsale (much ado about nothing, cold comfort farm (not underworld, though she's smokin' in that.

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  David Boreanez--formerly Buffy the Vampire Slayer's boyfriend, and currently on the show "Bones"

  (Panting) He is sooooo hot