Posts by Cordelia

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Don't you sometimes just want to STOP talking about it?

by nicolaou in

there's some real nasty stuff going on in my family right now - many of my worst fears about being shunned are coming true and i fear for my mum's health because of all the stress she's under - seriously!.

but i just cannot bring myself to discuss it.

i'm just so sick and tired of the whole thing...

Cordelia

nic i understand what u are going thru x

my family are judgemental too at the mo they think i am trying to get reinstated and my dad speaks to me, but i need to be honest with them soon and ill lose him too.

this religon is soooo cruel!

12

Likening my exit from the JWs to a bad divorce

by findingmyway in

unlike those of you who made the choice to drift or fade away, i was df'd a few years ago and, at the time, i thought i would return.

with the passing of time, i am realizing that going back for the sake of mending family bonds is not a good enough reason to go back.

but my family has been holding out the hope that i will return.

Cordelia

i completely understand what you mean, i got dfed and didnt even appeal as i saw it as my way of escape, then came on this website and now totaly dont want the 'truth'

but somehow i have got myself in the posistion of promising my lovely dad i will get reinstated actually put my letter in now, (only coz i know they wont reinstate me) its so not what i want but somehow i cant seem to tell my dad!

the rest of my family dont talk to me at all and it hurts so i thought id get reinstated get that annoucement and then leave, but ive realised that would hurt them too, i must tell them and soon!

good luck to u let me know how u get on ....

26

Since I'm New Here Fill Me In!

by weinermcgee in

jw
friends

Cordelia

born into it.

baptized at 15.

regular pioneered from school.

married at 20.

getting divorced now (29)

trying to get reinstated for family but i dont really want to totally killing me going to the meetings but i cant bear the thought of hurting my family! but i want to escape!!

ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh!

32

help my mother is brainwashing my 10 yr old

by squirlyboo in

ughhhhh, i left "the truth" when i was 16 i had my daughter when i was 18. while is was finishing college my mother watched my daughter for me , so they are very very close.

well whenever my daughter goes to visit usualy about a week at a time my mother takes her to the hall .

she fills her head with the doctrine and tells her that ill say bad things about it and scares her into not telling me about it .

Cordelia

cant give any better adice than what others have said here,

but this post has got me scared if i stay dfed will my daughter not be able to speak to me when shes older, if she continues in the witnesses (which is a possablity as her dad and all grandparents and family are in it, and i feel bad enough on my parents if i dont go back never mind taking my daughter out too)

23

Animal Personality Test

by tall penguin in

some of you have asked me where the name "tall penguin" comes from.

well, i came across a book called "animal attraction" about 5 years ago.

it is a personality test which pegs you as a particular animal.

Cordelia

i got wild cat peacock and rooster, think id rther be the cat,

'everybody wants to a cat coz a cat the only cat who knows where its at'

30

Do men want to get married?

by ApagaLaLuz in

do men still believe in the sanctity of marriage?

or is teh saying "why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free" really true.

call me cynical, i guess just because i've had so many guy friends.

Cordelia

most of the men ive known have been well into commitment! i think everyone someday wants to settle down (when the paartings over) my friend tho has met a lovely guy but hes only 23 but he says he wants to marry her and all he wants is one person forever, should she believe him? i know jws get married young for obvious reasons! but do lads in the world want that so young?

Ballistic u are right you shouldnt tar everyone with the same brush!!

23

MY PLAN FOR LEAVING THE WT. IS IT 2 FAR-FETCHED?

by stillAwitness in

i plan on exiting out quietly out of "the truth.

" i mean, i got school and becoming financially secure first before i just jump the gun.

is that smart?

Cordelia

you sound like my brother now, my mum is so upset at me being dfed that she goes on at him so much hes sick of hearing 'if you dont study u die!'

thing ive learned since being dfed 6 months ago is u have to get free yourself (ive still not quite managed it see my recent reinstatement thread) but being dfed is hard losing your family is horriable, dont get dfed if u can help it just fade, but my plan is too stay dfed marry when my divorce is thru and go back then, but you know what are parents ever happy unless we are a model witness? can we evr really win? do whats best for you, have you a boyfriend at the moment?

good luck x

37

Just had my wisdom teeth yanked out.... picture goodness

by pr_capone in

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friends

unfortunately, my digicam doesnt take the best up-close pics so this is the best that i could do.

you can see the damage that was done though.

this is me leaving the doctors office.

Cordelia

you poor thing, i had three of mine out as they had grown the wrong way but they put me to sleep, only problem i had was when i woke up they gave me chicken soup then i looked in the mirror later at where my teeth were saw abit of chicken pulled it out, and had a mouthful of the blood, the 'chicken' was a stich!!

i wont ever do that again!!

39

I have alot of questions

by MrsBee in

my husband is a d'fed jw and i think he is gonna try and make his way back there .

they dont believe in fate?

(long story short, we were high school sweethearts, didnt see each other since xmas 1993 even though we lived in the same city then he ran into my mother xmas 2003, while i lived in charlotte and he was here in maryland, i moved back to maryland 3 weeks later and we were married 7 months after that- i believe in fate, i dont think its far fetched to believe that god has a plan for everyone).

Cordelia

i dont see that reading cofc would do much for you as you may not understand the import of what hes saying, but it would do wonders for your hubby tho but most jws wont read anything thats not from the society! (in fact at our co visit tonight he gave a talk and said 'what would u do if your child was sent pornography tho the door? would u let them read it or would u rip it up and put it straight in the bin, obviously u would not even let him glance at it, so its the same with apostate literture!! but NOW its on the internet you must not look at it at all!! (see what youre up against!) )

i would tell him about this board but tell him u are on it to make your marriage stronger by understanding him, but subetly drop in 'whats this about the un?' and maybe '607' act all innocent but let him look, once the doubts are there it may stop him going back!

good luck. i think tho if u both have love that should be all that matters. x

13

Ouija board?

by out of the box in

i was a teenager i bought a ouigja board and my sisters and i played with it.

it scared us so much we threw it away!

but, i was forwarned about it, so i guess i could have driven myself to madness with my own mind!

Cordelia

i ordered a home made one off ebay sat there on my own with a glass (didnt really know what i was doing) and absoluetely nothing happened! i was really dissappionted

its wierd but even when i was a witness i used to want to see something to do with demons as i felt it would make me believe in jehovah better!!! i guess even tho i pioneered for nine years etc i still must of always doubted it was true!!

so how do i do it? or does it not work if your on your own??