another welcome!!!
i wish it would die out too, it ruins peoples lives and their familys,
Cordelia
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hi new to this
by cranwood inhello this is my first time on this web site.i am an inactive jw.
married to a jw.didnt believe in there teachings for many years.. looked and read at your site for along time.
its one of the best.iam not very good at typing or spelling.and cyber communication.. hard to have a marriage when one believes and the other one doesnt.we were both raised jws .but i changed and she didnt.. common story.too years to learn to think for myself.
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well they did not reinstate me!! dont know how i feell!
by Cordelia inwell any of u that read my post about reinstatement will know what im on about basically i put my letter in for my family ive been dfed since march and they so want me back,.
but the lovely elders took a month to get back to me and then said they were gonna leave it as i have the wrong motive as i am doing it for my family not jehovah, (which of course i am but they werent meant toknow that!
) thing is in my reinstatement meeting i knew exactly what i was doing i knew exactly what i should not and should say and said all the wrong things because i didnt want it,.
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Cordelia
u r completly right, i know that,
but i know my dad would never get sick of helping me and so i suposse i would hurt him over and over and i dont want that,
but he said just get reinstated and eveythings ok (in other words i can maybe do what i want then except i cant as id prob get re dfed but i always thought hed be like my mum who says 'if im not doing it for the right reason heres no piont)
but hes not as he loves me that much,and thats what so hard ive even said i doubt the 'truth'
should i just give it another two months for my dad or should i do what makes me happy?
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well they did not reinstate me!! dont know how i feell!
by Cordelia inwell any of u that read my post about reinstatement will know what im on about basically i put my letter in for my family ive been dfed since march and they so want me back,.
but the lovely elders took a month to get back to me and then said they were gonna leave it as i have the wrong motive as i am doing it for my family not jehovah, (which of course i am but they werent meant toknow that!
) thing is in my reinstatement meeting i knew exactly what i was doing i knew exactly what i should not and should say and said all the wrong things because i didnt want it,.
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Cordelia
well any of u that read my post about reinstatement will know what im on about basically i put my letter in for my family ive been dfed since march and they so want me back,
but the lovely elders took a month to get back to me and then said they were gonna leave it as i have the wrong motive as i am doing it for my family not jehovah, (which of course i am but they werent meant toknow that!) thing is in my reinstatement meeting i knew exactly what i was doing i knew exactly what i should not and should say and said all the wrong things because i didnt want it,
BIG PROBLEM now is my plan was to be stumbled and tell my dad i dont want it anymore but he was so lovely and said hell help me 'spiritually' every week and i even plucked up my courage and told him i still loved the lad i got dfed for, (but i said we had hardly any contact) which is not true, and now im torn between my boyfriend thinking it was gonna be ok by now i was not gonna 'be weird anymore' and my dad wanting me back so bad,
what should i do? any help would be appreciated, i dont want to hurt my dad (he even hinted at me getting reinstated and even maybe being with the boyfriend then, he wants me back that bad) but i want to celebrate my birthday next month and christmass and be with my boyfriend without hiding, and i dont think he would be willing to be hid again,
any answers anyone? x
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Don't you sometimes just want to STOP talking about it?
by nicolaou inthere's some real nasty stuff going on in my family right now - many of my worst fears about being shunned are coming true and i fear for my mum's health because of all the stress she's under - seriously!.
but i just cannot bring myself to discuss it.
i'm just so sick and tired of the whole thing...
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Cordelia
nic i understand what u are going thru x
my family are judgemental too at the mo they think i am trying to get reinstated and my dad speaks to me, but i need to be honest with them soon and ill lose him too.
this religon is soooo cruel!
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Likening my exit from the JWs to a bad divorce
by findingmyway inunlike those of you who made the choice to drift or fade away, i was df'd a few years ago and, at the time, i thought i would return.
with the passing of time, i am realizing that going back for the sake of mending family bonds is not a good enough reason to go back.
but my family has been holding out the hope that i will return.
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Cordelia
i completely understand what you mean, i got dfed and didnt even appeal as i saw it as my way of escape, then came on this website and now totaly dont want the 'truth'
but somehow i have got myself in the posistion of promising my lovely dad i will get reinstated actually put my letter in now, (only coz i know they wont reinstate me) its so not what i want but somehow i cant seem to tell my dad!
the rest of my family dont talk to me at all and it hurts so i thought id get reinstated get that annoucement and then leave, but ive realised that would hurt them too, i must tell them and soon!
good luck to u let me know how u get on ....
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Cordelia
born into it.
baptized at 15.
regular pioneered from school.
married at 20.
getting divorced now (29)
trying to get reinstated for family but i dont really want to totally killing me going to the meetings but i cant bear the thought of hurting my family! but i want to escape!!
ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh!
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help my mother is brainwashing my 10 yr old
by squirlyboo inughhhhh, i left "the truth" when i was 16 i had my daughter when i was 18. while is was finishing college my mother watched my daughter for me , so they are very very close.
well whenever my daughter goes to visit usualy about a week at a time my mother takes her to the hall .
she fills her head with the doctrine and tells her that ill say bad things about it and scares her into not telling me about it .
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Cordelia
cant give any better adice than what others have said here,
but this post has got me scared if i stay dfed will my daughter not be able to speak to me when shes older, if she continues in the witnesses (which is a possablity as her dad and all grandparents and family are in it, and i feel bad enough on my parents if i dont go back never mind taking my daughter out too)
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Animal Personality Test
by tall penguin insome of you have asked me where the name "tall penguin" comes from.
well, i came across a book called "animal attraction" about 5 years ago.
it is a personality test which pegs you as a particular animal.
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Cordelia
i got wild cat peacock and rooster, think id rther be the cat,
'everybody wants to a cat coz a cat the only cat who knows where its at'
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Do men want to get married?
by ApagaLaLuz indo men still believe in the sanctity of marriage?
or is teh saying "why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free" really true.
call me cynical, i guess just because i've had so many guy friends.
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Cordelia
most of the men ive known have been well into commitment! i think everyone someday wants to settle down (when the paartings over) my friend tho has met a lovely guy but hes only 23 but he says he wants to marry her and all he wants is one person forever, should she believe him? i know jws get married young for obvious reasons! but do lads in the world want that so young?
Ballistic u are right you shouldnt tar everyone with the same brush!!
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MY PLAN FOR LEAVING THE WT. IS IT 2 FAR-FETCHED?
by stillAwitness ini plan on exiting out quietly out of "the truth.
" i mean, i got school and becoming financially secure first before i just jump the gun.
is that smart?
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Cordelia
you sound like my brother now, my mum is so upset at me being dfed that she goes on at him so much hes sick of hearing 'if you dont study u die!'
thing ive learned since being dfed 6 months ago is u have to get free yourself (ive still not quite managed it see my recent reinstatement thread) but being dfed is hard losing your family is horriable, dont get dfed if u can help it just fade, but my plan is too stay dfed marry when my divorce is thru and go back then, but you know what are parents ever happy unless we are a model witness? can we evr really win? do whats best for you, have you a boyfriend at the moment?
good luck x