Totally understand. I went in to a shop to buy a coffee and low and behold I (being half blind lol )sit next to some jws I knew 20 yrs ago. They looked scared. Why I don't know as I ignored them. They quickly grabbed their stuff and while squeezing past my table, made small talk with me. The husband asked "How are you?" and I answered. He repeated my words thinking I said "Struggling in life". I laughed and said "No, LOVING life"
That disappointed him as he expected disfellowshipped people to be sad and tragic. To add to his sadness my attractive and much younger girlfriend arrived.....
Actually both he and his wife looked very sad and tragic