Rapunzel...although I see your point of view, I think the difference between halloween and the scary fairy tails we were subject to growing up, is that as JW we were told to be PREPARED for these things to actually happen to us. It was happening to our brothers and sisters in Malawi, and we were to expect that persecution would happen to us and that we would HAVE to make a stand for Jehovah. It was not simply about hearing or reading these things. It was that we were to EXPECT that these things would happen to us. That is a very big difference!
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Witness Kids - Scared silly by the WTBTS
by misspeaches ini wonder if anyone else who grew up as a jw can relate with me on this subject.. i grew up hearing stories of 'faithful brothers & sisters' being tortured to a point where they were almost dead.
all they had to do to be set free was renounce jehovah and their religon.
the stories i heard of torture were graphic in nature and to this day i can not handle hearing about torture or watch it being portrayed in movies.
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Stories Of Wife Abuse In The Organization!
by new boy inthere are so many.... i remember my exfather inlaw...ben regan, he was made an elder in newport r.i and that's enough to make you doubt the whole holy spirit thing right there.. i was sitting in his living room one sunday and the phone rings...some poor black sister just got the crap beat out of her and she was crying to him on the phone, she was looking for help.. ben said.
"well you must have done something really bad to make him so mad at you...i know but...what you need to do is just have another beer and forget the whole thing"....good by.. thank god must women are not putting up with this anymore, from their husbands or religions that really don't care about them.
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Yes, the elders told me to be a better wife, and to be more submissive when he beat on my kids and me. Do to circumstances out of my control, the police were notified of what was going on in our home.
The police arrested him, and the judge gave him a 30-day sentence and a year probation for what he did to my kids and myself.
Today, I (fortunately) am df'd...and he's a brother in good standing at the kh.
Stupid!
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How many of you Ex Jehovah's Witnesses married early and it was a disaster?
by isnrblog inwhat a common tale.
you marry early becasue you can't have sex.. i was married at 19 and divorced at 50. the only thing that held it together was our involvement in the jw's.
otherwise it would have been over in less than 5 years.. my kids are not witnesses and have a terrible relationship with their mother, as she is always trying to shove it down their throats.. this is still happening.
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In my case, I really am much happier DF'd.
Me too.
Married just days after turning 20, he was the same age (we were 3 weeks apart.) He was an elder's son. He left me 10 days before our 5th baby was born just after our 7th anniversary. While I was in the hosptal having pregnancy complications, he moved in with a girl from his work. It didn't work out for him, and to this day, he is still unmarried, no long-term relationship, living in Calgary. I did not understand then, that I should have left the JW's with him - we may have made it. That was 14 years ago, and he's still df'd (and embarrassingly, partially my fault for turning him in.)
My 2nd jw husband was horribly abusive, yet the elders took his side on everything. He beat on my kids, to the point social services told me I had to get him out of the home, or they were going to apprehend my children. He ended up doing a 30 day sentence and 1 year probation for what he did to us. The JW's embrace him. I'm the outcast. He only pays his child support when threatened with jail time (my 6th child, now 10, is his.) In order to escape from that marriage, I did the nasty, and cheated on him. Obviously, In the process, I also had to leave the JW's. {edited to add: the main reason I married this man was because, some "loving" sister told me after my 1st husband left "who's going to want you with 5 small kids --- so I took the 1st offer I had, It certainly wasn't for love.}
I am now in a very awesome relationship with a "worldly" man, engaged and to be married this spring. He treats my children like his own. He treats me so awesome. Who'd have thought leaving the "truth" would lead me to so much happiness. My kids (the 10 year old, and the other 5, now 14 1/2 to 20) are happy. They thank me for leaving the JW's, and love my new soon-to-be husband (we bought a house and have been officially living together since March of 2007.)
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New 2008 Rules for A$$emblies?
by WTWizard inwe know that the a$$emblies have become more programmed every year.
they did away with food service.
they cut off the great outdoors.
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At one of the last assemblies I attended, they had covered the mirrors in the lady's bathrooms with white paper.
I guess they didn't want women spending too much time doing their hair and makeup.
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will i ever be able to move on (my daughter was abused)
by looloo ini feel real down at the moment at the injustice of it all , i know the world is full of injustice but it just makes me so mad , did anyone on here move on after their child was abused and if so how did you do it ?
i feel i cant move on till she has but at the moment that seems a long way off , bulimia and flashbacks seem to rule her life , the local congregation are not allowed to discuss it with me , even fellow victims mothers , probably because im worldly .
i have wrote a strongley worded letter to the elders regarding the fact that had they reported the local min servant perv to the police years ago my child would not be like this , and that i reported him to the police to protect other peoples children so why didnt they?
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I seriously doubt they will reply. They will hope it will all go away.
I agree.
My daughter (17 today) was abused by my ex-husband when she was 8 to 9 years old, when I finally managed to get him out of our home. He wasn't baptized when this happened. When I couldn't let my kids get hurt any more....social services was going to apprehend my children if I didn't get him out of the home...I was so indoctrinated that divorce was a sin, that it took an outside source to protect my kids. I was df'd. My ex got a 3 month jail sentence and 1 year probation for what he did to us from the "world." What did he get from the JW's?...BAPTIZED!!! Jehovah's holy spirit at work...NOT!!!
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Converstation with the doctor: not medical
by orangefatcat inthis very afternoon i went to see my doctor and after the medical discussion was over, he asked me if anyone in the family has contacted me or is speaking to me.
in fact for the past nine years he has asked me the same question and i telll him the same answer no.. he is very well informed when it comes to witnesses.
a huge percentage of jw's are his patients.
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I work for doctors. One of them said to me the other day after seeing one of our very stressed out, burnt out to the point of craziness, hardcore JW patients, "thank god you got out of that crazy religion." I couldn't agree more.
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did anyone on here ever have a paedophile in thier congregation?
by looloo inif so, did it bother you that he had been reprooved and forgiven rather than reported to the police?
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My JW ex-father-in-law had a baby with his daughter when she was 17. He'd been molesting her, from what she can remember, since she was about 4. He even molested her while in field service. When it was found out (this took place in Ontario) both of them were disfellowshipped. They then moved to BC (Vancouver area). They kept it so secret that no one knew who the baby's father was (not my husband or even the child) until the child was 15 years old. The other elders in the hall were aware that he was a pedo, but not one said anything. He was an elder when I married into the family. As far as I know, he's still a JW living in the South-Eastern region of BC. He's never been legally dealt with.
I was abused by 2 different brothers while a teen. One was an elder who had been in our hall, but had moved to another when he molested me. I would go to his place to babysit his daughter. Evidently he molested her (last I heard she was a street-worker), and her older 1/2 sister as well.
The other was my friend's father. It started when I was about 14. He was a real creeper. I eventually told the elders about his abuse. They had a meeting with him and I was told say to his face what I was accusing him of, with all these people (men) around. I was young and shy...it was so degrading and embarrassing. He flat-out denied it. He told them I lied, misunderstood, etc., and I was left feeling like I was disbelieved and crazy. The only councelling I was offered was that I should not talk about it - it would be slander and I could be df'd for it, and to wait on Jehovah. What a farce! It really is a pedophile paradise!
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Officially since September 2001. DF'd.
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Elder Pedophiles that you personally know of . . .
by JK666 inafter the ambiguous response by the wts to the nbc broadcast, i would like to know how many of you had an "elder chester molester" in your own congregation?.
we had an elder that molested his daughter's best friend when she was 14 years old.
the elders in the congregation tried to keep the matter quiet and handled the matter privately.
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I was sexually abused by 2 "brothers" as a teenager.... 1 was an elder.
I was silenced.
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What has everyone done with your literature, now that you've left?
by momzcrazy ini have boxes of literature upstairs.
i was waiting for bookshelves to get built in our new house, but now i don't want to put them all up.
i have sentimental things, like ones that were my dad's.
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A friend suggested I return it to where I purchased it only in not so good condition. Return it to the kingdumb hall...and let them dispose of what's left of your litterature.